The Wholeness Journey Overcoming Rejection

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The Wholeness JourneyOvercoming Rejection

• Adapted from
• Overcoming Rejection by Chris Hayward
• How to Minister Freedom by Doris Wagner
• Healing through Deliverance by Peter Horrobin
• Sexual Healing by David Foster

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Rejection Hurts

• Rejection is an act of throwing away or
  discarding someone or something.

• This innately implies a lack of value
• We begin to feel that we have no value as we
  experience an overwhelming sense of worthlessness
• Perhaps most significantly, rejection is the act
  of being denied love
• We feel unwanted and unwelcome!

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Rejection

• Hurt people, hurt people, and are easily hurt by
  other people

• That is, the more rejection built up in your life
  the easier it is to be hurt by others
• Like a wounded pet that bites the owner that is
  trying to render aid - we hurt others
• Hurt people misinterpret the motives of those
  around them
• They can easily default to the worst motive in
  every situation

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The Problem with Rejection

• When thoughts of rejection consume us we have
  difficulty receiving the love of God

• We might receive His love intellectually but find
  it awkward to emotionally experience it
• This also becomes true when others try to express
  their love to us
• We resist their affections in proportion to the
  degree of rejection built up in our lives
• We can become paranoid - inventing a hurtful
  motive in every encounter

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Two Kingdoms

• Gods Kingdom is one of love, unconditional
  acceptance, and forgiveness

• He offers us mercy and grace without limit
• Satans Kingdom is one where there is no love,
  joy, peace, acceptance, or forgiveness
• There is only condemnation, rejection,
  disillusionment, destruction, division, and
  despair
• Satans goal is to steal our love of God

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Satans Vision Statement

• The thief's (Satans) purpose is to steal and
  kill and destroy. NLT John 1010a

• Steal - to stealthily, imperceptibly, remove our
  love, joy, and peace in Christ
• Kill - to remove the true purpose for our lives
  by seducing us into chasing worthless endeavors
• Destroy - to ruin our lifes work so that looking
  back we see a worthless heap of rubble

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Gods Vision Statement

• My Gods purpose is to give life in all its
  fullness. NLT John 1010b

• The Greek word here is zoe not bios
• Bios is the biological life we live on Earth
  where zoe is the life of God in Heaven!
• Jesus came to fully give us the God kind of life
  of Heaven - while we are still on Earth!
• Remember, if God takes away it is only to add
  more (i.e., He prunes us)

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Satans Dilemma

• Satan knows it is hard to get us Christians to
  deny our Lord or to give up our faith directly

• Consequently, he takes a round about method of
  tricking us into rejecting the love of God
• The goal is to make us impotent and ineffective
  like salt with no flavor
• NLT Luke 1434 "Salt is good for seasoning. But
  if it loses its flavor, how do you make it salty
  again? 35 Flavorless salt is good neither for the
  soil nor for fertilizer. It is thrown away.
  Anyone who is willing to hear should listen and
  understand!"

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Why Rejection?

• Satan wants us to reject the love of God

• Without love, faith will not work
• KJV Galatians 56b faith which worketh by love.
• Those full of rejection are so worried about what
  others think of them (self-centered) that they
  cannot function in faith
• Again, Satan uses hurts to remove the love of
  God, and the love of others, from our lives and
  substitutes rejection

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Rejection to what end?

• Without great love we will not have great faith

• Like a python suffocating its prey, over time and
  enough incidents of rejection, Satan slowly
  steals the love of God and love of others from
  our hearts
• With little love we have little faith
• NLT 1 Corinthians 132c And if I had the gift of
  faith so that I could speak to a mountain and
  make it move, without love I would be no good to
  anybody.

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The Goal of Rejection

• We end up a people full of rejection

• We no longer experience the joy of serving Him
  and the peace of His presence
• Splits and divisions increase
• The church becomes anemic and ineffective
• We become a faith-less people
• We are useless unseasoned salt!
• Without love fear abounds
• NKJ 1 John 418 There is no fear in love but
  perfect love casts out fear, because fear
  involves torment. But he who fears has not been
  made perfect in love.

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The Stronghold of Rejection

• Satan works to build a castle or stronghold
  called Rejection in our mind and hearts which
  includes four surrounding walls

• These are not physical walls but rather emotional
  walls
• In order to access and evict Rejection we must
  tear down the surrounding walls
• Realize, Satan works through deception
• He counts on us to buy into his deception, reject
  Gods truth, and embrace a lie

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Razing the Stronghold

• We must repent of those instances where we have
  given in to Rejection and failed to trust God

• We must renounce every place of agreement with
  Satans lies
• We must destroy the yoke of bondage to which we
  have been submitted
• KJV Isaiah 1027 And it shall come to pass in
  that day, that his burden shall be taken away
  from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy
  neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of
  the anointing.

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Jesus is the Bondage Breaker

• NKJ Luke 418 "The Spirit of the LORD is upon Me,
  Because He has anointed Me To preach the gospel
  to the poor He has sent Me to heal the
  brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the
  captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To
  set at liberty those who are oppressed 19 To
  proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD."

• The ministry of Jesus continues on Earth today by
  the Holy Spirit of God - the one that broke
  bondage through Jesus
• NKJ Matthew 1228 "But if I cast out demons by
  the Spirit of God, surely the kingdom of God has
  come upon you.
• He is ready to free us today!

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The First Wall

• The outer wall is the Rejection of God

• Without this wall no other walls can be built
• If it goes up the others will surely follow
• How as Christians do we reject God?
• We reject His Word (Truth), His ways, His
  character and His love
• We become impatient with God
• Questioning His loving providence we take matters
  into our own hands, thus rejecting Him
• Even as Adam and Eve did in the Garden

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Razing the Rejection of God

• Father I repent of rejecting You and Your Word.
  Forgive me, Lord, for not believing that You Love
  and accept me. I repent of taking things into my
  own hands. I repent of my pride, stubbornness,
  self-will, and rebellion. I first bind the
  strongman of rejection from interfering with the
  removal of the outer walls of his stronghold in
  Jesuss name. I renounce and cast away all
  rejection of God and the spirit behind it. I
  refuse to accept its influence in my life any
  longer. I break every word, and all agreements I
  have made with the spirit of rejection of God. I
  break all connections and generational influences
  that have to do with the spirit of rejection of
  God. And now, because of what Jesus has done on
  the cross, and the authority He has given me, I
  come against the wall of rejection of God and
  break it down in Jesus Name!

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The Second Wall

• The second wall is the Fear of Rejection

• Cut off from the love of God fear enters to fill
  the void
• We begin to distrust God and others
• We sabotage relationships to prevent others from
  getting too close
• Effectively, we reject others before they can
  reject us
• We use this irrational strategy with the goal of
  never being hurt again

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Razing the Fear of Rejection

• Father, I repent of all deception and lying,
  suspicion, mistrust, control and manipulation. I
  repent of trying to please people instead of
  seeking to please You. I renounce the spirit
  behind the fear of rejection. I reject its lies.
  I break all words or agreements with the fear of
  rejection. I break all connections and
  generational influences with the fear of
  rejection. Fear of rejection, in the Authority of
  the Name of Jesus, by the Blood of God who became
  flesh, by the Cross that bore this my curse away,
  and by the Spirit of Holiness Who raised Jesus
  Christ from the Dead, I come against you and
  break down your wall!

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The Third Wall

• The third wall is self rejection

• Some were born in to families that did not want
  them or their particular gender
• Others do not have the physical build, good
  looks, intelligence, or sporting ability of
  others leading to rejection by them
• Since our parents or others do not want us we
  slip into the trap of believing that we should
  not be here at all (i.e., self rejection)
• Not to accept the person we are and to dislike,
  or even hate, the personality He gave us is to
  imply that God made a mistake when making us
  which is a sin

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Razing Self Rejection

• Father, I repent of rejecting myself. I repent of
  hating Your creation. I repent of resisting Your
  plan for my life. I repent of trying to be
  someone I was never meant to be. I repent of
  always needing the approval of others. I choose
  to accept Your love for me and what I am meant to
  be. Spirit of self-rejection, I renounce you. I
  break your power. I break your authority. I break
  every curse and vow that has given you permission
  to operate in my life. I choose to accept Gods
  Word, God love, and Gods ways for my life. I
  break the wall of self-rejection off my life now
  in the Authority of the Name of Jesus, by the
  Blood of God who became flesh, by the Cross that
  bore this my curse away, and by the Spirit of
  Holiness Who raised Jesus Christ from the Dead!

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The Fourth Wall

• The fourth wall is the rejection of others

• When we do not accept personal responsibility for
  our own actions, we look for opportunities to
  blame others
• We begin to look for someone else or something to
  blame for unmet expectations
• This rejection is rooted in unforgiveness
• We seek to punish those that have hurt us by
  rejecting them
• However, we only end up hurting ourselves

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Razing the Rejection of Others

• Father, I repent of rejecting others. I repent
  for having been unforgiving, resentful, and
  bitter towards others. I repent for allowing the
  hurt that I received to move me to reject others
  before they could reject me. Spirit of rejection
  of others, I renounce you. I refuse to accept
  your influence in my life any longer. I choose to
  be a person of acceptance, not rejection. I break
  all words, agreements, and connections with you.
  I break all generational influences that would
  give strength to the rejection of others. I break
  the wall of rejection of others off my life now
  in the Authority of the Name of Jesus, by the
  Blood of God who became flesh, by the Cross that
  bore this my curse away, and by the Spirit of
  Holiness Who raised Jesus Christ from the Dead!

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The Strongman of Rejection

• Hidden and protected by the four walls of the
  stronghold is the strongman of rejection

• This is the spirit that causes us to turn in on
  ourselves and lose heart and hope
• When we embrace the spirit of rejection, we have
  difficulty being able to fully receive the love
  of God
• Worship becomes an effort and intimacy with God
  next to impossible
• Feeling worthless makes any attempt at affection
  seem unreal

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Evicting Rejection

• Now, spirit of rejection, your stronghold has
  been dismantled you have no protection. I come
  against you and I reject you. Your defeat was
  accomplished at the cross of Jesus. I tell you
  that your rule in my life ends here, now. Because
  of the Spirit of God, who gives me power and
  authority, I command you to loose me from your
  hold. I command you to leave me now in Jesus
  name!

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Preventing Reconstruction

• If you accept others as they are they become more
  acceptable and if you reject them they become
  more objectionable

• We must learn to accept others that hurt us
  unconditionally, but reject the sin involved in
  their behavior
• We do not have to condone behavior that is
  totally unacceptable, but we must act in a loving
  way toward them in spite of their behavior
• We must understand that we are unique to God,
  that no one else can be us
• God treasures us and we can not be replaced!

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Preventing Reconstruction (cont.)

• God had you in mind before your parents even met!

• NAU Jeremiah 15a "Before I formed you in the
  womb I knew you,
• NAU Job 3115 "Did not He who made me in the womb
  make him, And the same one fashion us in the
  womb?
• NAU Genesis 126 Then God said, "Let Us make man
  in Our image, according to Our likeness and let
  them rule over the fish of the sea and over the
  birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all
  the earth, and over every creeping thing that
  creeps on the earth." 27 God created man in His
  own image, in the image of God He created him
  male and female He created them.

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Preventing Reconstruction (cont.)

• God planned on you before you were born!

• NAU Jeremiah 15b And before you were born I
  consecrated you I have appointed you a prophet
  to the nations." (Jeremiah the Prophet)
• NAU Galatians 115 But when God, who had set me
  apart even from my mother's womb and called me
  through His grace, was pleased 16a to reveal His
  Son in me so that I might preach Him among the
  Gentiles (Paul the Apostle)
• NAU Psalm 13913 For You formed my inward parts
  You wove me in my mother's womb. 14 I will give
  thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully
  made Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows
  it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from
  You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully
  wrought in the depths of the earth 16 Your eyes
  have seen my unformed substance And in Your book
  were all written The days that were ordained for
  me, When as yet there was not one of them.

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Preventing Reconstruction (cont.)

• God has beautiful plans for your future from now
  on!

• NAU Jeremiah 2911 'For I know the plans that I
  have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for
  welfare and not for calamity to give you a future
  and a hope.
• NAU Ephesians 14 just as He chose us in Him
  before the foundation of the world, that we would
  be holy and blameless before Him. In love 5 He
  predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus
  Christ to Himself, according to the kind
  intention of His will,
• NAU Ephesians 24 But God, being rich in mercy,
  because of His great love with which He loved us,
  5 even when we were dead in our transgressions,
  made us alive together with Christ (by grace you
  have been saved), 6 and raised us up with Him,
  and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in
  Christ Jesus, 7 so that in the ages to come He
  might show the surpassing riches of His grace in
  kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.

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I am special. God created me for Himself, and I
thank Him for the spirit, soul, and body that He
gave me. I accept them as a gift from God and
repent over all wrong attitudes I have towards
them. I unconditionally forgive every person who
has thought, said or done things to or about me
that have made me want to reject myself. I
dedicate my life afresh to the One who made me,
and I rejoice in His goodness