POWER STRUGGLES EFFECTIVE BEHAVIOR STRATEGIES

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POWER STRUGGLES EFFECTIVE BEHAVIOR STRATEGIES

• Suzanne M. Rilling, M.Ed.
• Behavior Support Services

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• SCHOOL IS FOR ALL CHILDREN,
• INCLUDING THOSE WE FIND
• UNATTRACTIVE OR HOSTILE, THOSE
• WHO MISBEHAVE AND THOSE WHO
• DONT GIVE THEIR BEST

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MOST COMMON MOTIVATORS THAT DRIVE PEOPLE TO ATTACK

• RESPECT
• BELONGING
• POWER

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NECESSARY SKILLS FOR AN APPROACH TO DISCIPLINE

• CRISIS MANAGEMENT
• SHORT-TERM STRATEGIES
• LONG-TERM STRATEGIES

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IDENTIFYING THE PROBLEM

• VERBAL DEFIANCE
• YOU CANT MAKE ME!
• YOURE NOT MY MOTHER!
• SOOOOOO!
• NO!
• WHY DO WE HAVE TO KNOW THAT?
• THATS STUPID.
• THIS CLASS SUCKS!
• MY DADDY SAYS_________.

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PREVENTIONS STRATEGIES

• GREET STUDENTS
• CALL BY NAME
• KEEP ATTUNED TO THEIR NEEDS AND INTERESTS
• USE THE 2 X 10 METHOD
• CALL STUDENTS AT HOME
• GIVE OPPORTUNITIES FOR STUDENTS TO BE IN CHARGE
• BE RESPECTFUL OF DIFFERENCES IN LEARNING

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UNDERSTANDING THE HOSTILITY CYCLE

• Student implulsive/refusal
• Teacher feels attacked or personally
  disrespected (fight-flight) (Accepts the
  challenge)
• Student Accepts challenge from hostile adult
  (increased rage)
• Teacher Feels more threatened (More fight or
  flight)

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REFRAMING

• IDENTIFY A CHRONICALLY IRRITATING STUDENT
• IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM BEHAVIOR
• IDENTIFY POSITIVE ASPECTS AND BENEFITS OF THE
  BEHAVIOR
• IMAGINE THE STUDENT IN FRONT OF YOU AND TRY TO
  EXPRESS THESE BENEFITS
• IMPLEMENT THE STRATEGY WITH THE STUDENT

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DEFUSING GOALS

• DIGNITY FOR THE STUDENT
• DIGNITY FOR YOURSELF
• KEEP THE STUDENT IN CLASS
• TEACH AN ALTERNATIVE TO AGGRESSION

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DEFUSING SKILLS

• P.E.P. - PRIVACY, EYE-CONTACT, PROXIMITY
• NON-VERBAL
• C. L.A.A.D.- LISTENING, ACKNOWLEDGING, AGREEING,
  DEFERRING

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ADDITIONAL STEPS

• STATE THE RULE AND CONSEQUENCE USING P.E.P.
• IGNORE THE LAST HOOK
• USE AGREEING AND DEFER
• TELL THERES A POWER STRUGGLE HAPPENING
• OFFER THE DOOR
• GIVE TEMPORARY CONTROL
• DECIDE IF A CONSEQUENCE IS NECESSARY

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THE PRIVATE 3-STEP TECHNIQUE

• USE AN I MESSAGE
• USE THE WHAT HAVE I DONE?
• USE THE PROBLEM SOLVING

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• STAY PERSONAL WITH THE STUDENT WIHOUT
  PERSONALIZING THE PROBLEM BEHAVIOR AND THEN STAND
  UP WITHOUT FIGHTING BACK.