Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

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Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
By DR. Stephen Covey
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• To feel an inner relief and comfort in yourself
• To have a balanced social relations with those
  around you
• To have a great achievement

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Personality and character Ethics
Personality
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What is seen from you
Character
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What you really are Your inside
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Personality and character Ethics

• Personality
• Say
• Do
• Skills techniques
• Public
• Lubricate the process
• Of human interaction

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Character

• Integrity
• Fidelity
• Humility
• Patience
• Justice
• Modesty, simplicity
• Courage, temperance

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Character

• Integrity
• Fidelity
• Humility
• Patience
• Justice
• Modesty, simplicity
• Courage, temperance

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Foundational Principles
Developing Habits
"Sow a thought, reap an action sow an
action, reap a habit sow a habit, reap a
character sow a character, reap a destiny,"
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Components to develop a habit
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Character and competency
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P/BC Balance
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Paradigm

• It is the lens through which we see the world
• It is our POINT-OF-VIEW
• (the closer the clearer, the higher the bigger)

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The power of the paradigm
Paradigm lens
YOU
We think we see the world as it is NO We see the
world as we were conditioned to see it
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CHANGE MODEL
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Paradigm Shift
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Seven Habits Paradigm
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Maturity Continuum

• It is the outline of the
• (Seven habits of highly effective people)

EMOTIONAL MATURITY IS NOT TIED WITH AGE
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Habit One Be Proactive?? ???????
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Habit One Be Proactive
Pavlov Theory

• - We have 3 types of determinism
• Genetic What your ancestors did to you.
• Psychic What your parents did to you.
• Environmental Situations and people around you.

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• This is ok for
• Animals
• not humans!!!

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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)

• As a human you always have the freedom to choose.
• Morals and behaviors are not inherited.

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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)
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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)
Be a Transitional Figure
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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)
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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)

• All the problems we face can be
• Direct Control yourself
• Indirect Control others
• No Control weather- natural catastrophes
• Believe this You always have the 1st key for
  solving the problem

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Response-Ability
Reactive people are often affected by their
physical environment. If the weather is good,
they feel good. If it isn't, it affects their
attitude and their performance. Proactive people
can carry their own weather with them.
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Reactive people are affected by their social
environment, by the "social weather." When
people treat them well, they feel well when
people don't, they become defensive or
protective. Reactive people build their emotional
lives around the behavior of others, empowering
the weaknesses of other people to control them.
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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)

• Conclusions
• You are the programmer of your life.
• Do not live to eat and have pleasure or you do
  not deserve to be a human.
• Work on your Circle of Influence.
• Ghandi They cannot take our self respect unless
  we give it to them.

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Habit One Be Proactive (Contd.)Listen to your
language

• Proactive Persons
• Lets look at other alternatives
• I can choose a different approach
• I control my own feelings
• I will choose an appropriate response
• I choose
• I prefer
• I will

• Reactive Persons
• There is nothing I can do
• Thats just the way Im
• He makes me so mad
• They wont allow that
• I cant
• I must
• If only

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Making and Keeping Commitments
At the very heart of our Circle of Influence is
our ability to make and keep commitments
and promises. The commitments we make to
ourselves and to others, and our integrity to
those commitments, is the essence and clearest
manifestation of our proactivity.
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Setting Goals and Achieving them
It is here that we find two ways to put ourselves
in control of our lives immediately. We can
make a promise -- and keep it. Or we can set a
goal -- and work to achieve it. As we make and
keep commitments, even small commitments, we
begin to establish an inner integrity that gives
us the awareness of self-control and the courage
and strength to accept more of the responsibility
for our own lives. By making and keeping promises
to ourselves and others, little by little, our
honor becomes greater than our moods.
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Habit Two Begin with the end in mind
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Habit Two Begin with the end in mind

• Habit One You are the programmer of your life
• Habit Two Program your life
• Mental creation precedes physical creation
• Use self Imagination
• What is your end in mind?
• To decide this you need to know the center of
  your paradigm

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Begin with The End in MindSet your Vision
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Habit Two Begin with the end in mind
What is your CENTER?! What most makes You
happy? What most Irritates you?
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Habit Two Begin with the end in mind
Principles Centered Paradigm
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All Things Are Created Twice
"Begin with the End in Mind" is based on the
principle that all things are created twice.
There's a mental or first creation, and a
physical or second creation to all things
What are the steps we take to build a house?
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Leadership and Management -- The Two Creations
Management is a bottom-line focus How can I best
accomplish certain things? Leadership deals with
the top line What are the things I want to
accomplish? In the words of both Peter Drucker
and Warren Bennis, "Management is doing things
right leadership is doing the right things."
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Writing and Using a A Personal Mission Statement
1. Take the time to record the impressions you
had in the funeral visualization at the beginning
of this chapter.. 2. Take a few moments and write
down your roles as you now see them. Are you
satisfied with that mirror image of your life. 3.
Set up time to completely separate yourself from
daily activities and to begin work on your
personal mission statement.
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Habit Two Begin with the end in mind

• Conclusions
• Know yourself, know your center
• Try to have a principles-centered paradigm
• Program your life Mission Statement

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Habit Three Put first Things First
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Habit Three Put first Things First

• Habit One You are the programmer
• Habit Two Program your life
• Use Self Imagination
• Habit Three Do the program, live the program
• Use Independent Will

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Put first things first
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Habit Three Put first Things First

• What we are able to do is much more that we
  actually do.
• Awaken your sleeping tiger. Give it a twist in
  the tail.
• Things that matter most should never be under the
  mercy of things that matter least.

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Habit Three Put first Things First
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Put first things first
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Put first things firstTime Management
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Habit Three Put first Things First

• Conclusions
• Live your program but put first things first.
• Schedule your properties but do not prioritize
  your schedule.
• Give your sleeping tiger a twist in the tail.
• What you are able to do is much more that you
  actually do.

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Private Victory

• Working on the 80 character, paradigm
• Private victory precedes public victory.
• Without private victory
• ? Chronic Pains from inside
• ?Acute pains from others

PRINCIPLESCENTEREDPARADIGM
Paradigm Shift
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Emotional Bank

• It is a metaphor that describes the amount of
  TRUST that has been built up in a relationship.

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Emotional Bank

• Any Say or Do in a relationship can be

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Emotional Bank Six Main Deposits

• Understanding People
• man/women, children, different centers.
• Attending to little things
• Little things are the big things
• Keeping Commitments

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Emotional Bank Six Main Deposits

• Clarifying expectations
• ALLAH, marriage
• Showing personal integrity
• Union of personality and character
• Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal
• This never hurts your dignity.

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Habit Four Think Win/Win
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Habit Four Think Win/Win

• It is the habit of the 3rd alternative
• It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a
  better way

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Habit Four Think Win/Win

• Different interactive paradigms
• Win/Win
• Lose/Win
• Psychomosotic
• Win/Lose
• selfish

• Win
• I win, no matter the other end.
• Lose/Lose
• Devil

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Habit Four Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach

• Character
• Integrity
• Union between character and personality
• Maturity
• Courage to express your opinion and respect and
  appreciate the others
• Abundance Mentality
• There is always room for everyone
• Opposite to scarcity mentality selfishness

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Habit Four Think Win/Win
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Habit Four Think Win/Win
Dimensions of the Win/Win Approach (Contd.)

• Relationships
• Based on emotional bank
• Aware of the account
• Many withdrawals? less trust ? no win/win
• Agreements
• Agree on targets, plans, methods, consequences,
• good or bad
• Systems and processes Gods system

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Habit Four Think Win/Win

• Conclusions
• It is not my way, it is not your way, it is a
  better way.
• Win/Win means courage and consideration
• Integrity, maturity, abundance mentality
• There is always room for everyone
• Be aware of your emotional bank accounts

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Habit Five Seek first to understand then to be
understood
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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• We were taught how to talk, walk, write but to
  listen.????
• You are 100 responsible for communication with
  the others whether you are sending or receiving .

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• Most people either speak or prepare to speak or
  listen to judge and criticize.
• COLLECTIVE MONOLOGUE
• (THE DIALOGUE OF DEATH!!!)

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• Listening
• 7 words
• 38 vocals
• 55 non-verbal
• impressions
• Eye looks (100 expressing)

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• Levels of listening
• Ignorive
• Pretentive nodding and humming
• Selective
• Attentive focus on the words
• Empathic
• Listens to understand
• Gets what behind the words

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• BECAUSE WE LISTEN THROUGH OUR OWN PARADIGM WE
  TEND TO
• -Probe
• - Evaluate
• - Interpret
• - Advice

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• Levels of misunderstanding
• Appearance age, gender, language, clothing
• Association work, education, home, club
• Interests hobbies, friends
• Thoughts
• Values and believes paradigm

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• You can never understand a person if you listen
  to him through your paradigm. You have to put
  yourself in his shoes.

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Habit Five .then to be understood

• To be understood
• Ethos (70)
• From ethics principles-centered character
• Pathos (20)
• From passion express your emotions
• Logos (10)
• From logic make sense

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Habit Five Seek first to understand.

• Conclusions
• Empathic listening is the essence of human
  communication.
• If you do your best to understand people, indeed
  they will understand you.
• Do not jump to conclusions
• More understanding ? more trust ? more influence

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• Habit Six
• Synergize

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Habit Six Synergize

• The essence of synergy is to
• Value differences
• Respect others
• Build on strength
• Compromise for weakness
• Real strength is based on difference not on
  similarity
• This is a natural law

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Habit Six Synergize
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Habit Six Synergize
Synergize (Win/Win)
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
TRUST
Respectful (Compromise)
Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Lose)
COOPERATION
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DRIVING VS RESTRAINING FORCE

• Driving Force
• Positive
• Reasonable
• Logical
• Conscious

• Restraining Force
• Negative
• Emotional
• Illogical
• unconscious

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Habit Seven Sharpen Your Saw
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Habit seven Sharpen your saw

• Sharpen the saw the story
• It is all about
• Self-renewal
• Important not urgent
• P/PC balance

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Habit seven Sharpen your saw
BALANCE? Effectiveness
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Habit seven Sharpen your saw
DO
Learn
Commit
Commit
Learn
Do
Do
Commit
Learn
Do
Commit
Learn
The Upward Spiral
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Finally

• The seven habits is all about paradigm shift.
• This is not easy. You need
• Patience
• Courage
• Will
• Consistency

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Finally

• This is the way for a proper life, so do not ever
  give up.
• It is really worth some effort and pain.

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Please Answer

• - What most affected you in this course?
• - What did you most benefit from this course?

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Real Thanks for your Attention