Resilience 101

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Firm as the Jello Around Us

• Resilience 101

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Flight Attendants

• On landing, the stewardess said, 'Please
  be sure to take all of your belongings. If
  you're going to leave anything, please
  make sure it's something we'd like to
  have.
• Welcome aboard Southwest Flight 245. To
  operate your seat belt, insert the metal tab into
  the buckle, and pull tight. It works just like
  every other seat belt and, if you don't know how
  to operate one, you probably shouldn't be out in
  public unsupervised.'
• 'In the event of a sudden loss of cabin pressure,
  masks will descend from the ceiling. Stop
  screaming, grab the mask, and pull it over your
  face. If you have a small child travelling with
  you, secure your mask before assisting with
  theirs. If you are travelling with more than one
  small child, pick your favorite.'
• 'Weather at our destination is 50 degrees with
  some broken clouds, but we'll try to have them
  fixed before we arrive
• 'Your seat cushions can be used for flotation
  and, in the event of an emergency water landing,
  please paddle to shore and take them with our
  compliments.'

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Tragedy at Sea
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Elder Wirthlin

• How can we love days that are filled
  with sorrow? We cantat least not in the
  moment. I dont think my mother was suggesting
  that we suppress discouragement or deny the
  reality of pain. I dont think she was suggesting
  that we smother unpleasant truths beneath a cloak
  of pretended happiness.
• But I do believe that the way we react to
  adversity can be a major factor in how happy and
  successful we can be in life.
• If we approach adversities wisely, our hardest
  times can be times of greatest growth, which in
  turn can lead toward times of greatest happiness.
  (Oct 2008)

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Traumatizing Events

• Illness
• Death
• Rebellious family members
• Teething 2 year olds
• Financial problems
• World conditions

DC 88 91 And all things shall be
in commotion and surely, mens hearts shall
fail them for fear shall come upon all people.
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Post Traumatic Health?

• Former POWs
• Cancer Survivors
• Former nursery leaders
• The Survivors Club
• Good Friend at WWll POW Reunion
• To a man, they said they were better people, as
  a result of their experience, than they would
  have been otherwise.

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If you endure it well

• Spokesmen Before Liberty Jail
• Oliver Cowdrey
• Sidney Rigdon

• Spokesman After Liberty Jail
• Joseph Smith Himself

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Apollo 13
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Resiliency IQ Quiz (RIQ)
The NaamanProject Kevin Hinckley

• I enjoy a supportive circle of family and friends
  and seek their help when necessary
• People tell me I have a good sense of humor and I
  can usually make people laugh.
• I am usually optimistic when I look towards the
  future.
• I try to take good care of myself physically and
  emotionally.
• People see me as pretty flexible and able to
  adjust to new situations.
• In a crisis, Im one of the first to step up and
  do something.
• I usually have a pretty positive view of myself.
• During a crisis, I try to keep a good perspective
  of my difficulties.
• I believe God answers my prayers.

• Im a pretty private person and tend to isolate
  during a crisis..
• I have a hard time being funny when things are
  going bad.
• I tend to expect the worse when I look at the
  future.
• I dont take very good care of myself, especially
  during hard times.
• I have a hard time in new situations and try to
  avoid them.
• In a crisis, Ive found it is just easier to wait
  and let things to work themselves out.
• Im pretty hard on myself most of the time.
• During a crisis, I tend to have a hard time
  seeing more than one day at a time.
• I wish God would answer my prayers like He does
  for some other people.

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I Am

Self Concept
Resilience IQ
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Who Are You?

• In times of change, learners inherit the earth,
• While the learned find themselves beautifully
  equipped to deal with a world that no longer
  exists.
• Eric Hoffer

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Scriptural Template Joseph Sold Into Egypt

• Oldest Son(s)
• Believe they are entitled
• Younger Son
• Birthright blessings
• Undeserved hardships
• Guided by visions
• Has to overcome the
  Sister Potifers of the
  world
• Given great responsibilities

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Josephs Response

• Then Joseph could refrain himself
  from those that stood by him no
  longer
• And he wept aloud .
• And Joseph said unto his brethren,
  I am Joseph doth my father yet live?
  And his brethren could not answer him for they
  were troubled at his presence.
•  And Joseph said unto his brethren,I am Joseph yo
  ur brother, whom ye sold into Egypt.
• Now therefore be not grieved, nor angry with
  yourselves, that ye sold me hither for God did
  send me before you to preserve you a
  posterity in the earth, and to save your lives by
  a great deliverance.

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I Am

Self Concept
Resilience IQ
I Can
Capabilities and Limits
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Apollo 13 What They Did
Keys to Survival? 1)They stayed in the
glide path and 2)Let gravity bring them
home.
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Elder Bruce Hafen
Elder Bruce Hafen

• Wherefore, he will bring them again out of
  captivity, and they shall be gathered together to
  the lands of their inheritance
• he shall set his hand again the second time to
  recover his people (Jacob 62)
• in the dispensation of the fulness of times he
  might gather together in one all things in Christ
  Eph (110)
• how often would I have gathered thy children
  together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens
  under her wings, and ye would not! Matt 2337
• and truth will I cause to sweep the earth as with
  a flood, to gather out mine elect from the four
  quarters of the earth (Moses 762)

Fallen, Natural Man
At-One-Ment
Divine Gravity
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I Am

Self Concept
Resilience IQ
I Can
I Have
Capabilities and Limits
Assets and relationships
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March 1838From the Liberty Jail

• Those who have not been enclosed in the walls of
  prison can have but little idea how sweet the
  voice of a friend is one token of friendship
  from any source whatever awakens and calls into
  action every sympathetic feeling
• until finally all enmity, malice and hatred, and
  past differences, misunderstandings and
  mismanagements are slain victorious at the feet
  of hope and when the heart is sufficiently
  contrite, then the voice of inspiration steals
  along and whispers
• My son, peace be unto thy soul thine adversity
  and thine afflictions shall be but a small
  moment thy friends do stand by thee, and they
  shall hail thee again, with warm hearts and
  friendly hands

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10 Skills of Survivors with Post Traumatic Health

• Dr. Dennis Charney,
• Mt. Sinai School of Medicine
• 1- Practice Optimism
• 2- Identify a resilient role model
• 3- Develop a moral compass and
  unbreakable beliefs
• 4- Do meaningful service
• 5- Acceptance and flexibility
• 6- Face your fears (Hug the monster)
• 7- Build effective coping skills
• 8- Build a social network
• 9- Stay physically fit.
• 10- Laugh early and often

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J. Reuben ClarkTo them of the Last Wagon

• I would like to say something about the
  last wagon in each of the long wagon trains
  that toiled slowly over the plains, up mountain
  defiles, down steep, narrow canyons, and
  out into the valley floor that was to be
  home..
• The Saints buoyed up the Brethren out in
  front with encouragement, with praise, and
  sometimes even with adulation. Knowing the
  Brethren were prophets of God, the Saints gave
  them full confidence, daily, almost
  hourly, expressed. The Brethren lived in a world
  of commendation from friends and the tried and
  true Saints. Rarely was their word or their act
  questioned by the faithful Saints. This was as it
  should be and had to be to carry out the Lords
  purposes.
• But back in the last wagon, not always could they
  see the Brethren way out in front, and the blue
  heaven was often shut out from their sight by
  heavy, dense clouds of the dust of the earth. Yet
  day after day, they of the last wagon pressed
  forward, worn and tired, footsore, sometimes
  almost disheartened, borne up by their faith that
  God loved them, that the restored gospel was
  true, and that the Lord led and directed the
  Brethren out in front.
• Sometimes, they in the last wagon glimpsed, for
  an instant, when faith surged strongest, the
  glories of a celestial world, but it seemed so
  far away and the vision so quickly vanished
  because want and weariness and heartache and
  sometimes discouragement were always pressing so
  near.

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J. Reuben ClarkTo them of the Last Wagon

• When the vision faded, their hearts sank. But
  they prayed again and pushed on, with little
  praise, with not too much encouragement, and
  never with adulation. For there was nearly
  always something wrong with the last wagon or
  with its teamthe off ox was a little lame in the
  right front shoulder the hub of the left front
  wheel was often hot the tire of the hind wheel
  on the same side was loose.
• So corrective counsel, sometimes strong reproof,
  was the rule, because the wagon must not delay
  the whole train. But yet in that last wagon there
  was devotion and loyalty and integrity, and above
  and beyond everything else, faith in the Brethren
  and in Gods power and goodness.
• For had not the Lord said that not even a sparrow
  falls unnoticed by the Father see Matt.
  1029, and were they not of more value than
  sparrows? And then they had their testimony,
  burning always like an eternal fire on a holy
  altar, that the restored gospel was true, that
  Joseph was a prophet of God, and that Brigham was
  Josephs chosen successor. (July, 1997 Ensign)