Marriage

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Marriage Family WellnessCorporate Americas
Business?
Jeff Fray, Ph.D. Gary Oliver, Ph.D. David Olson,
Ph.D. Matthew Turvey, Psy.D.
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Sponsors
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Todays Agenda

• The place of the corporate sector outreach in the
  marriage movement- The Marriage CoMission
  Overview Jeff Fray
• The Research that supports calling Corporate
  America to make Marriage and Family Wellness its
  business Matt Turvey
• Introduction to some specific tools David Olson

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Marriage CoMission Preamble

• WE, THE ALLIES OF THE MARRIAGE COMISSION,
  STANDING ON THE SHOULDERS OF THOSE WHO CHAMPIONED
  MARRIAGE AND THE FAMILY BEFORE US, DETERMINE
• To save future generations from the destructive
  consequences of failed marriages and broken
  homes,
• To work together to fan the embers of hope in men
  and women to fulfill their created desire for
  life-long, healthy marriages, and
• To equip married couples to lead strong families.
• TO THESE ENDS
• We unite our efforts as allies in a common
  mission,
• We place a high value on preserving strong
  relationships among ourselves as we lift up and
  encourage all who seek to preserve strong
  marriages in America,
• We call upon City Leaders and Elders to take
  responsibility for a marriage renaissance in
  their own communities and lead a marriage city
  initiative, and
• We commit ourselves to their success.
• WE HAVE RESOLVED TO COMBINE OUR EFFORTS TO
  ACCOMPLISH THESE AIMS
• To renew Americas hope and vision for the
  institution of marriage,
• To significantly reduce the divorce rate,
• To increase marriage satisfaction and health, and
• To strengthen families and preserve the next
  generation.

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Mission Statement

• To stir up the created desire in men and
• women for life-long, healthy marriages,
• equipping them to lead strong families and
• raise hope-filled children who will shape
• our nation and future generations.

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Culture of Collaboration

• Sector Working Groups
• Church
• Increase effective marriage family ministry in
  local congregations
• Corporate
• Increase benefits and practices the strengthen
  employees MF relationships
• Community Mobilization
• Support effective, catalytic, locally led City
  Marriage Initiatives
• Marriage Services
• Collaborate, innovate, re-tool strategically
  align with other sector interests.
• Media
• Develop and fund National Media messaging
  campaign integrated with local CMI media
• Being Developed
• Youth and Education
• Law and Govt.

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The Outcomes of the Renaissance of Marriage
Schools use pro-marriage curriculum in middle
school and high school
Great media with a pro-marriage and strong family
message consistently reach the community
Churches greatly increase marriage strengthening
programs
Businesses embrace marriage and family
strengthening practices and benefits and assist
in leading their citys catalytic marriage
initiative
Align the marriage services and resources with
the city strategy
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Marriage Family Wellness

• Is it Corporate Americas Business?

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Chick-fil-A Cares About Marriage

• Multi-million dollar retreat facility
• Variety of marriage-strengthening programs
• Yearly seminar on relationship issues
• Scholarships available for couples in crisis
• Lunch-and-learns
• WinShape Foundation supports Marriage CoMission
• Beginning a total wellness program

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Marriage Family in Business A Relational
Wellness Model

• A relational wellness or fitness model that
  includes positive relational growth in four
  areas
• Personal
• Professional
• Marriage
• Family

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Relational Wellness Model

• A Continuum of Practices and Benefits
• ________________________________________

• ER
• Referral to outside
• services

• Assessment
• Personal
• Professional
• Marriage
• Family

• Enrichment
• Education
• Skills development
• Retreats

• Problem Resolution
• EAP Counseling
• Chaplaincy Program
• Peer Support Mechanisms

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USA TodayJune 22nd, 2006
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Wall Street JournalMay 31st, 2007
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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• Executive Summary
• Current Situation
• The Opportunity
• The Value Proposition
• Your Companys Role

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Executive Summary

• Building Marriage Family Wellness Improves a
  Companys overall Financial Health, while
  ignoring these opportunities can decrease a
  companys profitability.
• Companies wanting to Increase their Profitability
  will do well to realize and operate in the
  framework that business takes place in the
  boardroom and the family room.
• Marriage Family Wellness should be an
  Economically-driven Priority for all companies
  today.

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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• Executive Summary
• Current Situation
• The Opportunity
• The Value Proposition
• Your Companys Role

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The Current Situation

• Business Marriage have Similar Goalsthey both
  seek to create positive relationships that will
  make their partners happy.
• There is an Interdependence of Marriage and
  Business, especially when marital problems lead
  to divorce in the marketplace.

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The Current Situation

• 2.3 million marriages a year
• 1.2 million divorces a year
• Most people who divorce get remarried
• 90 of Americans marry at least once
• The cohabitation rate has risen 1200 over the
  past 4 decades
• Trends indicate that couples who cohabit prior to
  marriage have lower relationship satisfaction and
  increased risk of divorce

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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• Executive Summary
• Current Situation
• The Opportunity
• The Value Proposition
• Your Companys Role

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The Opportunity

• Married people today enjoy
• Better Health
• Longer Lives
• More Satisfying Sex
• Over half (54) of married males and 43 of
  married females are extremely satisfied with
  their sexual relationship.
• The frequency of sex is also higher in married
  couples than cohabiting and dating persons.
• More Wealth
• Median married household net worth is 132,000
  compared to 35,000 for singles, 42,275 for
  widowed individuals and 33,670 for divorced
  individuals.
• Children who do better emotionally and
  academically

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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• Executive Summary
• Current Situation
• The Opportunity
• The Value Proposition
• Your Companys Role

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The Value Proposition

• Two Major Conclusions from Research

Happily married employees increase profitability
Unhappily married employees decrease profitability
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Relational Pathway to Decreased Profits
Problematic Personal Relationships
Work-Life Conflict
Increased Life Stress
Poor Health/Increased Healthcare Costs
Negative Work Environment
Decreased Profit Productivity
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The Value PropositionCosts of Divorce
Marital Problems

• Financial Impact Summary
• Each divorce costs society about 25,000-30,000
• Stress related issues cost Corporate America 300
  billion annually
• Divorce annually costs taxpayers an estimated 30
  billion in federal and state expenditures
• Overall Company Impact Areas
• Failing relationships cost companies money
• Marital problems often cause decreased
  productivity
• Divorce and marriage are not one-time events
• Divorcing employees often have serious health
  concerns
• Stress is a two-way street between work and home

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Relational Pathway to Increased Profits
Healthy Personal Relationships
Work-Life Balance
Mastery of Life Stress
Better Health/Lower Healthcare Costs
Positive Work Environment
Increased Profit Productivity
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The Value PropositionMarriage Family Wellness
Company Benefits

• Happily married couples are more loyal and stable
  employees
• Marriage Premium earn more
• Reduced job turnover
• Lower rates of absenteeism
• More dependable and motivated
• Greater levels of retention
• Happily married employees are healthier
• Immune system functioning is improved for happily
  married couples

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The Value PropositionMarriage Family Wellness
Company Benefits

• Prevention programs are a great investment
• Federal state governments only spend 1 to
  promote healthy marriages and relationships for
  every 1,000 spent to deal with the effects of
  family disintegration
• ROI Studies have attributed up to 6.85 for every
  1.00 invested in employee wellness programs
• Happily married couples increase company profits
• More productive work environment results in a
  healthier, more productive, and lower liabilities

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2007 Survey Data

• Online survey created and distributed to
• Assess attitudes toward relational wellness
• Catalog best practices
• Create awareness of new paradigms
• www.prepare-enrich.com/hrsurvey.html

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2007 Survey Data

• Respondents
• Analysis ongoing
• 22 organizations
• Representing over 500,000 employees across
  industry sectors
• Average salary
• 38,400 (non-managerial)
• 71,300 (managerial)

• Real estate
• Government Trade
• Non-profit
• Human Resources
• Advertising Marketing
• Retail Services
• Transportation Logistics
• Food Beverages
• Consumer Services
• Financial Services
• Other

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
86 86

• My organization cares about the relational
  wellness of its employees.
• We support policies and procedures that encourage
  employees to meet the relational needs of their
  families.

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
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• Current employees are retained because of our
  relational wellness programs.
• New employees are drawn to this organization
  because of our focus on relational wellness.

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
100 91

• Employees would benefit from increasing their
  relational wellness.
• The marriage and family issues of my employees
  have a significant impact on job performance.

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
73 68

• My organization could see higher levels of
  productivity if employees had higher levels of
  relational wellness.
• Profitability would likely increase if employees
  had higher levels of relational wellness.

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
36 36

• Our company offers relational wellness programs
  because it helps our bottom line.
• We have a formalized program in place to handle
  issues related to marriages, families, and
  relational wellness.

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2007 Survey Data
Survey Statement Agree/Strongly Agree
86 100

• Being able to accurately calculate the financial
  impact of relational wellness for my organization
  would be valuable.
• We could be willing to consider relational
  wellness programs for our workplace.

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The Value PropositionCosts of Divorce Company
Example with 10 Divorces/year
Pay rates
10 hours/week lost (at 75)
1 hour/week/employee lost
1 hour/week lost
2.5 hours/week lost
10 minutes/week/employee lost
15 minutes/week lost
Total Cost of Divorce per Employee
Divorces per year
Total Cost to your Organization
Appendix B, page 24-26
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2007 Survey Data

• Of over 500,000 employees across numerous
  industry sectors in the the past year

Each divorce costs 7,962.11
These companies experienced 25,000 divorces
last year
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Last year these companies lost 199,052,750

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Agenda

• Executive Summary
• Current Situation
• The Opportunity
• The Value Proposition
• Your Companys Role

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What can Your Company do to Promote Marriage
Family Wellness?

• Connect Practice with Policy
• Know your companys relational starting point via
  valid relationship assessment tools
• Offer marriage and relationship education to
  increase overall relational wellness
• Offer relational coaching through your existing
  EAP structure

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What can Your Company do to Promote Marriage
Family Wellness?

• Provide access to professional services for
  intervention
• Consider implementing the following specific
  relationship-friendly practices
• Consider offering occasional spousal travel
  vouchers
• Encourage the formation of employee focus groups
  that can propose programs and policies that are
  marriage and relationship-friendly
• Consider creative work arrangements for certain
  employees

Process trumps a program
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Marriage Family WellnessThe Corporate So
What

• Business is driven by profit.
• Employees in healthy marriages can increase that
  profit, while employees in failing relationships
  decrease that profit.
• The chasm between the boardroom and the family
  room is closing.

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Marriage Family WellnessThe Corporate So
What

• Relationships are influenced for better or for
  worse by the policies and practices found within
  the corporate environment.
• It is economically smart to make marriage and
  divorce your businessthe research and results
  show the positive economic impact it will yield
  in your company and organization.

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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• Online survey can be completed at
• www.prepare-enrich.com/hrsurvey.html

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Marriage Family Wellness Corporate Americas
Business?

• To download the report
• www.marriagecomission.com
• or
• www.prepare-enrich.com/research
• Can also order additional hard copies through
  PREPARE-ENRICH offices.

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Assessment Program Evaluation

• Couple Checkup
• Coping and Stress Profile

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Online Couple Checkup

• New Couple Assessment Tool
• Powered by PREPARE/ENRICH
• Online at www.couplecheckup.com
• Tailored Made to Each Couple
• Direct to Couples
• User-friendly report / enrichment
• No Certification Required
• Easily Integrated into Couple ProgramsVoucher
  Codes
• Group Summary Reports

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Value to Couples

• Couple Checkup Report (20 pages)
• Increases awareness of Strength Growth Areas
• Stimulates couple discussion of important
  relationship issues
• Proactive tool so couple is equipped to deal with
  current and future issues
• Assessment feedback motivates action and behavior
  change

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Value to Group Leaders

• Leaders Group Summary Report (20 pages)
• Personalizes the Program for the Group
• Provides Summary of Strength Growth Areas for
  the Group
• Identifies Common Strengths for Group
• Identifies specific issues for Males, Females,
  and Couples
• Enables leader to customize program to fit with
  the needs of the group

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Summary of Core Areas
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His versus Her Perspective
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New Report Design
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Group Summary Report

• Better Understand Your Group
• Provides Direction
• Minimum of 5 Couples
• Anonymous
• Free to Group Leaders
• Create a Leader Account
• Create Group Code
• Give to Couples to Enter

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Item-level Summary
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Personality Summary
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Online Couple Checkup

• Components of the Program
• Couple Checkup Report (20 pages)
• Couple Discussion Guide (20 pages)
• Leader Group Summary (20 pages)
• www.couplecheckup.com

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• New Online Assessment Tool
• Personal Profile Work Profile
• Stress, Coping Resources Satisfaction
• Four Coping Resources
• Problem Solving, Communication, Closeness and
  Flexibility
• Personal Action Plan

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• Do you Control Stress or Does Stress Control You?
• Discover stress in your personal life and at
  work.
• Identify and build your coping resources.
• Learn how to better manage stress.
• Be more proactive rather than reactive to stress.
  
• Learn how to be more productive and happy in your
  personal and professional life.

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Coping Stress Profile
Model The profile measures the respondents
personal and work stress level, coping resources,
and level of personal and work satisfaction.
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Coping Resources
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Coping Stress Profile Response Form
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Personal Stress
The narrative interprets stress scores based on
the persons responses to the profile.
It also identifies the respondents specific
stressors in such categories as marriage and
family life, health, and home.
The Personal Stress page visually displays the
respondents personal stress level.
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Work Stress
The narrative interprets stress scores based on
the persons responses to the profile.
It also identifies the respondents specific
stressors in such categories as job
characteristics, work schedule, and work
productivity.
The Work Stress page visually displays the
respondents work stress level.
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Your Coping Resources
The Your Coping Resources page of the report
describes the four coping resources measured by
the report.
It includes a snapshot of the respondents
strengths or challenges in the four coping
resources for both personal and work life.
The graph indicates which resources are readily
available to the respondent.
and which could be developed further.
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Personal Coping Resources
Each Coping Resource includes a narrative
analysis of the respondents ability to use this
coping resource in his or her personal life.
It restates the items the respondent indicated
had a positive impact on his or her ability to
use this coping resource.
The feedback also includes items that the
respondent could develop further to enhance his
or her ability to use this coping resource.
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Developing Problem-Solving
Each Coping Resource includes actionable ways for
the respondent to develop that coping resource.
There is also space in the report for the
respondent to record which techniques he or she
would like to use.
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Personal Work Action Plan
The Coping Stress Profile includes
action-planning pages for both personal and work
life. The pages help the respondent to identify
which stressors are most prominent in his or her
personal and work life.
This allows the respondent to prioritize the
daily hassles that need their attention and
pinpoint the stressors that they can learn to
live with.
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• Applications of the Coping Stress Profile
• Commonly Used in Work Settings
• Team Building
• Helping Groups deal with Change
• Counseling highly stressed persons--EAP
• Four Coping Resources
• Generic Relationship Skills
• Very teachable and useful
• Pre Post-Testing on Impact of Programs
• www.prepare-enrich.com

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Websites to visit

• www.prepare-enrich.com/research
• www.marriagecomission.com
• www.prepare-enrich.com/hrsurvey.html
• www.prepare-enrich.com/divorceformula.html

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Marriage Family WellnessCorporate Americas
Business?
Thank you.