Ministry to Hurting People

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Ministry to Hurting People

• CSU Counseling Services
• Glenda K. Hill Nanna, MA/LPC
• Director of Counseling Services

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Questions

• What do you have to offer to the people that you
  encounter as you minister?
• Do you understand your limits?
• Are you comfortable referring a person for
  pastoral or professional help?
• Do you feel comfortable asking for help when you
  need it?

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What you can offer

• Compassion
• Listening
• Non- Judgmental Attitude
• Christs love
• Biblical Example
• Jesus with the woman at the well

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• LIFE IS STRESSFUL!!!!!!!!!!

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Student Stressors

• Isolation and loneliness
• Break-up of an intimate relationship
• Unplanned pregnancy
• Sexual or physical abuse or assault

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Student Stressors

• Family conflict or parental divorce
• Death of a loved one
• Serious illness
• Academic pressure or failure

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Statistics

• Average class of 25 college students with equal
  numbers of
• men/women
• 8 will have divorced parents
• 3 will have a substance abuse problem
• 4 will have a substance-abusing parent
• 4 women will be rape or sexual abuse victims
• 2 women will have an eating disorder
• 1 male will be a victim of sexual abuse
• 1 woman will have an unwanted pregnancy

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Knowing your Limits

• You are not a doctor.
• You are not a therapist.
• You are not Jesus.
• You are not responsible for the choices that
  others make even if they would like for you to
  think that you are.

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Referrals

• Refer to the right person.
• Refer in the right way.
• Refer at the right time.

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Do you have days when you feel like this
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What about you.

• Do you feel comfortable asking for help when you
  need it?
• Do you know where to get help?
• New Vision leader
• Campus Minister
• Counseling Staff

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Counseling Staff

• Director of Counseling Services
• Glenda K. Hill Nanna, MA/LPC
• 863-7194 gnanna_at_csuniv.edu
• Post-Doctoral Supervisee (Part-time)
• Dr. Jill Ilagan, PsyD.
• 863-8010 jilagan_at_csuniv.edu
• Ms. Anna Flores, Intern (Part-time)
• Masters Program, Webster University,

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Counseling Staff

• Part-time Staff
• Ms. Barbara Mead, M.Ed., LPC
• 863-8008/ 8009
• Mr. Jay White, MA, LPC
• 863-8010

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Dolphin Stress Test

• This is a quick, simple test to identify whether
  your stress level is in the acceptable range.
• You should see two identical dolphins, if you
  notice anything other than slight color
  differences, then your stress level is too high
  and you need some stress management training.

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Dolphin Stress Test
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CuttingSex /Pregnancy Abuse Suicide
Some Counseling Concerns
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People who self-mutilate may cut or bite or
scratch or pull out their hair. It is thought
to be a stress reaction or poor coping skill and
may have some addictive component.They
generally are not suicidal, but they do cause
injury and can accidentally die.
General Guidelines Cutting
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Refer to Crisis Pregnancy Center or PAR (People
against Rape).Encourage the young person to
talk to their parents about the situation.
General Guidelines Sex/ Pregnancy
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Counselors are mandated to report all cases of
suspected child and/or elder abuse.Churches
have been held liable for not protecting
children.You do not want to hold that
information.
General Guidelines Abuse
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General Guidelines Suicide
Lets look at some facts about suicide and how
you can help!
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Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death on
university campuses! (Accidents are 1).
SUICIDE FACTS
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Lets Play.
MYTHBUSTERS

• Are the following statements
• True or False?

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People who talk about or threaten suicide rarely
commit suicide.
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FALSE

• People who are thinking about hurting themselves
  often times make statements or threats about
  suicide.

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Approximately one young person under the age of
25 dies from suicide every 117 minutes in the U.S.
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TRUE

• By the time you enjoy a football game or see a
  movie a young person is lost to the tragedy of
  suicide.

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Talking to a person about his or her suicidal
feelings may cause them to commit suicide.
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FALSE

• Talking to a person about these feelings can only
  help if done in a compassionate and knowledgeable
  manner.

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People who are contemplating suicide almost
always indicate their intentions to someone
beforehand.
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TRUE

• In almost 70 of suicides, the person shared
  his/her thoughts or intentions with a friend,
  teacher, or other important person in their life
  before making a suicide attempt.

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ONE MILLION youth attempted suicide in the year
2000.
SUICIDE FACTS

• That averages to 112 attempts each minute!

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Over 100 young people successfully complete
suicide each week in the U. S.
SUICIDE FACTS
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Over 5,000 young people die from suicide each
year.
SUICIDE FACTS
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White males make up the majority of completed
suicides.
SUICIDE FACTS
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Suicide rates among Black youths in the South has
increased by 214 between 1980-1995.
SUICIDE FACTS
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Approximately 1088 college students per year
(which is 1/2 the rate of non students).
SUICIDE FACTS
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Factors that can heighten the risk of suicidal
ideation

• Low self-esteem
• Depression
• Changes in school or social status
• Students who have been or are being abused,
  molested, or neglected
• Abusers of drugs or alcohol
• Perfectionists
• Gay and Lesbian students
• Learning disabled students
• Loners

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How do I help?

• LIFE
• L Listen to your friend without judgment and
  without minimizing their pain.
• I Insist on Honesty. If they have formulated a
  plan then they are in serious trouble and
  immediate help is needed.

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How do I help?

• LIFE
• F Feelings, share them. Share your feelings
  with your friend as well. (i.e. scared, worried,
  sad if they were to die).
• E Extend a Helping Hand. Go with your friend to
  get help. Never promise not to tell.

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Things to avoid

• Do not ignore the warning signs
• Do not refuse to talk about suicide
• Dont promise to maintain confidentiality treat
  a students disclosure as a statement of needing
  help.

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Things to avoid

• Do not react with disapproval or repulsion
• Do not offer false reassurances like Everything
  will be all right or comments like you have a
  great life and you should be thankful for
• Do not abandon your friend after you get help.

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How Therapists Assess Risk

• Does the student have a plan?
• Does the student have the means?
• Does the student have the intent?
• Does the student know anyone who has completed
  suicide?
• IF THE ANSWER IS YES
• TO ANY OF THE ABOVE,
• STUDENT IS AT HIGHER RISK.

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Referrals for Counseling

• Have a Humble Attitude
• Ask Good Questions
• Express Concern
• Give Hope
• Respect their right to confidentiality.

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What if the person refuses help?

• Except in emergencies, the option must be left
  open for the student to accept or refuse
  counseling.

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What if it is an emergency?

• A situation in which someones life is in
  immediate danger (i.e. risk of violence or threat
  of suicide).
• Notify your ministry leader so that he/she can
  notify the site leadership and they can take
  appropriate action and notify authorities if so
  warranted.

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Counseling Services

• Most churches have some sort of pastoral
  counseling ministry.
• Most areas have community mental health centers
  that offer reduced cost services.
• Focus on the Family maintains a list of Christian
  counselors and offers a one-time counseling phone
  call at no charge at
  1-800- A FAMILY.

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Counseling Information

• Additional information and resources are
  available on the Counseling Services Web Page at
  www.csuniv.edu/counseling

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Body Image Week

• You can win a FREE IPOD!
• Go online and register at www.csuniv.edu/counselin
  g.
• Attend Shrek on Tuesday night at 7pm in the
  Brewer Center Lounge
• Attend a Body Image Student Forum Thursday night
  at 6pm in the Nursing Auditorium.

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National Alcohol Screening

• Thursday April 12, 2007
• MORE DETAILS TO FOLLOW!

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National Alcohol Screening
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A Passage to Consider

• Ecclesiastes 49-12
• Two are better than one
• If one falls down, his friend can help him up,
• But pity the man who falls and has no one to
• help him up!
• Though one may be overpowered, two can
• defend themselves. A cord of three strands is
• not quickly broken.