Managing Leadership Derailers!

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Managing Leadership Derailers!

• Mali
• mahalingam.c_at_symphonysv.com

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Statutory warning

• All truth passes through three stages.
• First, it is ridiculed
• Second, it is opposed
• Third, it is accepted as being self-evident !
• Arthur Schopenhauer

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What is up?

• Three Questions
• Todays Managers Employees
• Congrats, You are here! But can you get
  there?
• Devil is in the derailers!
• Managing the Derailers
• Good News!

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Three Questions
What can I do with these ideas?
How can I apply these ideas at work?
How can I make this work for me?
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Todays Managers

• accountable for higher levels of growth, targets
  and results
• relying more and more on their juniors
• required to make
• their juniors know their potential and give their
  best
• understand their behaviors and their impact
• respected for what they know, more than what they
  are

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Todays employees

• Free Agents see jobs as experiences
• Can handle higher responsibilities sooner
• Well educated, ambitious demanding
• Independent mature
• Wants to be consulted and involved
• In a hurry !

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Derailers grow on Managers

• lll

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Defining Derailers
Are those annoying personal habits or
interpersonal flaws

• Nothing to do with skill or intelligence but
• Challenges in interpersonal behaviours
• Transactional flaws performed by one against
  others

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Monkey business!
Higher the Monkey climbs up, more of its back is
visible to others!
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Too much need to win

• at all costs, in all situations
• when it counts, and when no one is counting
• putting down other people in discussions
• ignoring others views
• wanting to be the alpha male (or alpha female)

Learn to win with grace
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Making Excuses

• blunt or subtle
• blaming someone else (do you have a secretary?)
• playing wooden leg
• self-deprecating or stereo-typing ones
  behaviour

Ask why not?
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Refusing to express regret

• Sense of losing a contest
• painful to admit we were wrong
• amounts to ceding control
• what happens to my self-esteem or self-respect?

Build the courage to apologize
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Failure to express gratitude

• my boss did so it to me so
• it spoils the kids
• Iam confused by what you are saying
• Difference between a fine human being
  ungrateful s.o.b.

Become a connoisseur of gratitude!
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Punishing the messenger

• manifests itself in big and little ways
• how we respond to bad news helpful warnings
• momentary snort of disgust we exhale
• arguing with the bad-news bearer

Learn to say Thank you sincerely
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Speaking when Angry

• you can always reason it out
• this reputation outlives any other good quality
• it is a paradox we hate with passion!
• root of the rage often inside and not
  outside

Keep your mouth shut, when angry
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Practice, Practice, Practice
Learn to practice Feed-forward
Note the difference Dont practice till you get
it right Practice till you cant get it wrong!!
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Thank You
If you want to walk on waters, you have to get
off the boats first!
mahalingam.c_at_symphonysv.com