He Who Loves In Proverbs

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(In Proverbs)
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• He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who
  loves him disciplines him promptly (Prov. 1324)
• hate him no discipline
• cuts against modern psychology/human wisdom
• Discipline your son while there is still hope.
  Do not be the one responsible for his death
  (Prov. 1918, GWV)

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• Someone Lied To Us!
• Dont Spank
• hitting models hitting
• hitting devalues the child
• hitting may lead to abuse
• hitting does not improve behavior
• hitting promotes anger
• hitting brings back bad memories
• hitting is not biblical

(falicious thoughts from http//www.askdrsears.co
m/html/6/T062100.asp)
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Even Without Biblical Evidence

• More than four out of five Americans who were
  spanked as children say that it was an effective
  form of discipline (Voter/Consumer Research Poll,
  National Values. Commissioned by the Family
  Research Council, 1994.)
• A Gallup poll showed that most Americans perceive
  that a lack of discipline is the biggest problem
  in public education today ("School Poll." The
  Washington Times. Aug. 28, 1995, p. A-2.)

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• Researchers John Lyons, Rachel Anderson and
  David Larson of the National Institute of
  Healthcare Research recently conducted a
  systematic review of the research literature on
  corporal punishment. They found that 83 percent
  of the 132 identified articles published in
  clinical and psychosocial journals were merely
  opinion-driven editorials, reviews or
  commentaries, devoid of new empirical findings.
  Moreover, most of the empirical studies were
  methodologically flawed by grouping the impact of
  abuse with spanking. The best studies
  demonstrated beneficial, not detrimental, effects
  of spanking in certain situations
  (http//www.childprotectionreform.org/policy/spa
  nking/spare_the_rod.htm endnote Lyons, Dr. John
  S., Anderson, Rachel L., and Larson, Dr. David B.
  "The Use and Effects of Physical Punishment in
  the Home A Systematic Review." Presentation to
  the Section on Bio-Ethics of the American Academy
  of Pediatrics at annual meeting, Nov. 2, 1993.)

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Even Without Biblical Evidence

• Childhood aggressiveness has been more closely
  linked to maternal permissiveness and negative
  criticism than to even abusive physical
  discipline (Olweus, Dan. Familial and
  Temperamental Determinants of Aggressive Behavior
  in Adolescent Boys A Causal Analysis.
  Developmental Psychology. 1980 16644-660)

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Spanking Versus Abuse
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Sweden

• banned spanking in 1979
• 1980 abuse rate was twice that of USA 1
• from 1981 to 1994, criminal child abuse rose 489
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• from 1984 to 1994 criminal assault against 7-14
  year-olds by minors under 15 rose 519 (ibid)
• 231 rise in 15 19 year-olds
• 133 rise in 20 24 year-olds

"So it might be hypothesized that that the
prohibition of all spanking eliminates a type of
mild spanking that prevents further escalation of
aggression within disciplinary incidents"
(Larzelere, 1999, p. 390).
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Spanking Biblical OR Not Biblical

• Argument Against Biblical Spanking While the rod
  could be used for hitting, it was more frequently
  used for guiding wandering sheep 1
• Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child
  The rod of correction will drive it far from him
  (Prov. 2215)
• Do not withhold correction from a child, For if
  you beat him with a rod, he will not die. You
  shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul
  from hell (Prov. 2313, 14)

IS BIBLICAL!
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• He who loves transgression loves strife, And he
  who exalts his gate seeks destruction (Prov.
  1719)
• realize that some men love evil (Ps. 521-5 cf.
  1 Sam. 21, 22)
• some men love to relate news only to tear down

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• He who loves pleasure will be a poor man He who
  loves wine and oil will not be rich (Prov.
  2117)
• can choke out the word (Lk. 814)
• some mixed it with religion (Ex. 326)

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• He who loves purity of heart And has grace on his
  lips, The king will be his friend (Prov. 2211)
• purity of heart gracious lips kings friend
• kings value uprightness of man probably more than
  any other class of men
• Ezra, Nehemiah, Esther Daniel are examples of
  some who excelled with kings

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• the king will be his friend
• the KING of kings can be your friend too
• You are My friends if you do whatever I command
  you (Jn. 1514)
• meditate on these things (Phil. 48)
• let your speech always be with grace (Col. 46)
• do you love HIM?
• If you love Me, keep My commandments (Jn.
  1415)
• will you obey HIM?

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• He who believes and is baptized will
  be saved but he who does not believe will
  be condemned (Mk. 1616)

OBEY