Understanding Homosexuality

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Understanding Homosexuality

• Sue Bohlin
• Probe Ministries
• www.probe.org

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LIE 1Homosexuality is normal and healthy.
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• LIE 2Being attracted to the same sex means
  youre gay or lesbian.

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LIE 3Since you were born that way, you can't
change.
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LIE 4Embrace and celebrate your gay identity
because gay life is cool.
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Why Some Teens Experiment with Gay/Lesbian
Relationships

• Normal crushes on same-sex friends
• Emotional dependency
• Need to belong
• Simple curiosity
• Others have labeled them trying it on
• Anxiety about growing into adolescence and the
  responsibilities of adulthood

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Boys Attracted to Other Boys

• Unmet need for connection with dad
• Unmet need for connection with other boys
• Disconnection with his masculinity
• 1/3 to 1/2 - sexual abuse

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Girls Attracted to Other Girls

• Unmet need for connection with mom
• Unmet need for connection with other girls
• Disconnection with her femininity
• At least 2/3 - sexual abuse
• They act as if they were (lesbian chic), and
  then a habit develops

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I Dont Understand My Feelings and Desires

• Gender insecurity
• Age 10 attraction for the same sex begins
• Emotional
• Non-sexual
• Involuntary

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I Dont Understand My Feelings and Desires

• With sexual maturity, hormones (esp.
  testosterone) can eroticize God-given needs for
• Attention
• Affection
• Approval

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I Dont Understand My Feelings and Desires

• WHAT TO DO
• Invite Jesus into your longings, your desires,
  your dark and hurting places, your unmet needs
• Pursue healthy same-sex friendships
• Dont keep it a secret!
• www.livehope.org

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I Dont Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing

• Be compassionate
• You dont know whos struggling because theyre
  keeping it private.
• Same-sex strugglers are wounded people.
• Be a grace giver
• Those with SSA have been lied to.
• Pray for them to see the truth.

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I Dont Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing
I Dont Get this Whole Gay/Lesbian Thing

• Be respectful.
• No gay jokes (e.g., Thats so gay!)
• Dont throw around words like homo or fag or
  lez

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• Jesus loves people who struggle with same-sex
  attraction