Scott Baroway

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Parenting After Divorce(Children can be okay
with work)

• Scott Baroway
• Mediation Partners
• 720-889-2808
• Baroway_at_gmail.com

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FOUNDATION TO SUCCESS

• Studies consistently show the measure of
  childrens adjustment to the divorce is directly
  related to the LEVEL OF CONFLICT BETWEEN THE
  PARENTS not the specific details of the parenting
  agreement. Conflict between the parents, even
  small conflict, is emotionally painful the
  children and will be carried by them for a long
  time.
• Children need
• Parents continue to treat each the respectfully
• Parents continue to consult with each other on
  disciplinary issues
• Parents can have cordial social conversation with
  each other
• Children are not used as messengers for parents
• Parents to make real effort to comply with
  parenting time schedule, but
• Parents to be flexible with parenting time when
  needed due to kids schedule

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Stages of Transition One Family to Two.

• One familytrust and respect
• Problems begin to develop in marriage
• Problems become severe
• Moving out by one party
• Off-the-wall emotions run high
• Settling down begin to see a new future
• Two familiesnew roles, new trust and respect

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Telling The Children

• When to tell them
• Depends on age of children
• For young children, a week or two before a parent
  moving out
• What to tell them
• Both parents will love and care for them
• It was a problem between the parents and not the
  children
• Do not share details of marital problems
• How to tell them
• As matter-of-factly as possible

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What Children Need

• Both parents in their lives
• Kept out of their parents conflict
• Love and guidance from as many people as possible
• Listened to and feelings respected

Children Can Be OK After Divorce
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How Children Show Stress

• Age inappropriate behaviors
• Acting younger
• Becoming an adult
• Interpersonal problems
• Fighting with other children
• Defiant towards parents/teachers
• Performance difficulties
• Failing in school
• Losing interest in activities
• Emotional distress
• Sadness
• Excessive worrying

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What Parents Can Do

• Focus on the needs of their children
• Design creative, flexible child-rearing plans
• Remain partners in raising their children
• Follow basic parenting rules
• Get professional help when in doubt