Bully Prevention

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Bully Prevention

• Session 5

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Empathy

• The ability to participate in the feelings of
  others
• Crystallizes by age 9

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Teach Empathy

• Model compassion
• Help children identify feelings
• Help children find words
• Ask children to reflect on actions
• Share your feelings
• Community Service projects
• Be affirming

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• Practice peaceful communication
• Dont let children stuff anger
• Model appropriate expressions of anger
• Change the silent majority of bystanders into a
  caring majority

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• Stay connected
• Give unconditional acceptance
• Teach children to cope with reality
• Set limits
• Think of conflict as an opportunity to listen

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Examples of SAFE ways to take a stand

• rumors by not sending them
  forward
• Do not pass hurtful notes
• Befriend a target
• Include someone
• Let an adult know when someone needs help

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You can

• Communicate openly with students
• Listen
• Take action when needed
• Be visible
• Enforce rules
• Inform parents
• Recognize students for positives
• Be approachable

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• Teach playground etiquette
• Teach and encourage both tolerance and
  appreciation for differences

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Give Nurturing Messages

• I value you
• I believe in you
• I trust you
• I know you can handle this
• Im listening
• You are important to me
• You can talk to me
• Its ok to make mistakes
• Im learning with you

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Random Acts of Kindness

• Catch kids doing something kind
• Good News letters
• Mother/Daughter (tea/lemonade) to address
  relational aggression
• Father/Son (basketball free-throw) to address
  sportsmanship

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Pass It On (Pay It Forward)

• Several students draw names. They do 1 kind thing
  for that person with a note attached that they
  must also pass on the kindness to someone else.
  See how long they can keep it going

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Send Positive Ripples

• Stop a negative ripple with a caring comment

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• High Expectations
• Clear expectations for your school community.
• This is Garden Lakes

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Remember

• Children have never been very good at
  listening to their elders, but they never failed,
  to imitate them.
• James Baldwin

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Are you an Educator or a Bully?

• Educators let students know they care.
• Bullies let students know whos boss.
• Educators teach self-control.
• Bullies exert their own control.
• Educators diffuse minor disruptions with humor.
• Bullies use sarcasm to turn disruptions into
  confrontations.
• Educators privately counsel those with chronic
  discipline problems.
• Bullies publicly humiliate chronic misbehavers.

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• Educators help all students feel successful.
• Bullies punish students for being unsuccessful.
• Educators see each students uniqueness
• Bullies compare children with one another.
• Educators treat all students with respect.
• Bullies make it clear that not all students
  deserve respect.
• Educators highlight good behavior.
• Bullies make examples of those with poor
  behavior.

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• Educators are aware of the power they wield and
  choose their words carefully.
• Bullies wield their power recklessly, frequently
  resorting to anger and intimidation.
• Educators educate
• Bullies humiliate.
• Who are you?

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• Who is your least-favorite student?
• Expect him/her to improve.
• Catch him/her being good.