Gender

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Gender Sexuality

• Sex differences in childhood adulthood
• Sexuality
• Human mate selection
• Paraphilas

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Terms

• Sex-being male or female based on biological
  characteristics
• Gender-psychological experience of being female
  or male.
• Sexual orientation-direction of a persons erotic
  attraction toward members of the opposite sex,
  the same sex, or both sexes.

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Women, on average

• Perceive emotions better
• Express emotions more (smile more)
• Have closer relationships more close
  relationships
• Report being more nurturing
• More often report anxiety and depression

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Women on average score higher on

• Reading comprehension
• Spelling
• Verbal fluencyin general, basic writing skills
• Men do better on some spatial tests and slightly
  better on math
• Women however remember location of objects
• mom, whered I put my sneakers..

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Men on average

• Report higher self esteem
• Are more aggressive
• Commit more crimes-a little bit more? No, a lot.
• M/F murder rate 11 to 1
• M/F assault rate 8 to 1

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However

• When women are provoked, they can be just as
  aggressive as men
• Domestics now thought to be as common w/ woman
  perpatrator
• Women are more likely to hit and abuse children
• As children, they master social aggression

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Gender differences in childhoodThe Boys

• Starting at about age 3, boys attempt to dominate
• Older boys will comply with a male peers
  suggestion but not a females especially if a male
  is watching
• Boys play win/lose games with set goals
• Boys play in large groups

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The Girls

• Improve relationships do you like me?
• Play involving process, not goals
• Play games with no winners or losers
• Play with one or two best friends

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Adolescence

• Boys are horrified at the idea of becoming girls
• Girls see some real advantages in being male.
• Boys self esteem soars.
• Girls self esteem plummets at puberty.

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In adulthood she thinks

• That everything remains negotiable while trying
  to do a good job, she tries to talk things over
• She may be very bad at sucking up loses
• She still wants to play with people who are nice
• Not used to hierarchical structures/ not
  comfortable in them.

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Gender Linguistics

• Again, proving themselves vs. being liked
• Conversational differences
• women start more conversations but men decide
  the topic
• Women put people at ease, men put people on
  the spot
• Men do 95 of the interrupting of women in
  mixed company

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So main differences so far

• Connectedness over independence for women, its
  always relationship
• Social dominance
• Aggression
• The most consistent and strongest one is
  sexuality.

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Sexuality

• Male initiate sex and women say no (not really)
  but
• Women are more conservative, men moderately
  permissive (did I say moderately?)
• Casual sex endorsed by 54 of men, 32 of women

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Evolutionary Psychology Sexuality

• The why per E.P. people
• Men seek to reproduce widely, women wisely

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So what do both sexes want?

• Physical attractiveness slightly more important
  for men
• The man must be taller than the woman. This is an
  extremely strong norm.
• Intelligence slightly more important for women.
• Compatibility.

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Ladies firstwhat women want

• Womens preference more complex than any other
  species or gender
• Females of all species prefer a mate with
  economic resources
• Are resources more plentiful from 1 mate than
  many?
• Do fathers have a protective effect on children?

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What else?

• Men slightly older than themselves well, they do
  have better resources.
• Hardworking ambitious
• Dependable Stable

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Big Strong

• In addition to men being taller, they must also
• Be over 6 tall (preferred by 80 of the women)
• Cross culturally true as well

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And finally

• Women want commitment
• Demonstrated by spending time with her, meeting
  her mother, giving up sex with others, talking of
  the M word, talking of children, fidelity, and of
  course expensive gifts.

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What do men want?

• A babe.

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Men want fertility

• As measured by the obvious cues of
• Youth 2. Health
• 2. Physically measured by the infamous waist to
  hip ratio-divide your butt into your waist
• Needs to be .67 to .80 for fertility

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Waist to Hip again

• This is a ratio centerfolds and beauty contest
  winners got thinner but
• They still have a w to h ratio of .70
• .70 is the American ideal
• Also signals general health less heart attacks
  diabetes, high b.p., gallbladder, stroke

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Men want attractive wives

• Again, not purely cultural
• Most consistent, psychological difference
• Influence by media making it worse
• but
• Babies as young as 2 to 3 months old prefer
  attractive faces

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Do trophy wives improve mens status?

• Yes.
• Does this also work for women?
• No.

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What about gays lesbians?

• Do gay men prefer what straight men prefer, only
  the opposite sex?
• Which answer would favor evolutionary theory?
• Both gays/lesbians act like heteros in mate
  preferences.

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Can men really get what they want?

• Yes, if they are wealthy powerful.
• Are men aware of this? Unfortunately, yes.
• The more they make, the younger the woman they
  seek.

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Summary

• What do women want? Security which comes in a
  tall, dependable, well off package.
• What do men want? A young, thin, attractive wife.

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Paraphilias

• Often known as other loves
• Discovered by non-sufferer and reported

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Sexual arousal from

• Auto eroticism - being cut off from air may be
  discovered when people accidentally hang
  themselves
• Frottuerism-from touching or rubbing up against
  someone in a crowded setting
• Pedophilia-from behaviors with a child, generally
  under 13 (legally in Co under 15).

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Sexual arousal from

• Voyeurism-watching an unsuspecting person disrobe
  or engage in sex
• Sexual sadism achieved through inflicting pain
  on another person.
• Sexual masochism-seeing another person
  humiliated, being beaten, bound, or otherwise
  suffering.

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Changing orientation

• Can you change sexual orientation or paraphilias?
  
• Best answer to date NO.
• Can change behavior but NOT orientation.