Mastering Self Management

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Mastering Self Management

• Once you accept the responsibility for choosing
  and creating the life you want, the next step is
  taking purposeful actions that will turn my
  desires into reality.

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Procrastinators

• What is procrastination?
• Pg. 88 Case study
• What does acting on purpose mean?

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Acting on purposeDo important actions/things
first, before they become urgent

• Acting on purpose means taking action until you
  accomplish the task at hand with the desired
  outcome.
• Dreams do not take action, creators do. The
  dreams set your destination, but unless you act
  the desired outcome is not achieved.
• Give examples of famous or not so famous people
  who have taken purposeful action to make a
  difference in the world or for individuals?
• Must have persistent repetition of purposeful
  actions to achieve success. Successful people
  apply strategies to create the success they
  desire.

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7 Habits of Highly Effective PeopleStephen Covey

• Importance to you is what you value and not what
  other people value. Everyone has an opinion about
  what is important.
• The action is important only if it propels you
  forward towards fulfilling your goals. If your
  action is not assisting you to reach your goals
  then you are sabotaging your dreams and desired
  outcomes.
• If meeting a deadline set by an instructor means
  you pass or fail the class, which quadrant would
  it fall under? Why?
• You have to make the deadlines valuable to you so
  that you will accomplish the task.
• Which quadrant do you spend most of your time? Is
  it assisting you with meeting your goals or is
  sabotaging them?
• P. 90-91 Quadrants

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Use of quadrantsWill what I am doing today
positively affect my life one year from today?

• Creators

• Victims

• Spend most of their time in I and II.
• Schedule conferences, rewrite notes, form study
  groups, and study nearly everyday. Predict test
  questions and answer them.
• They create urgency by commitment by to
  purposefully acting to achieve their valued goals
  and dreams thus, staying on course.
• Say no the III and IV

• Spend most of their time in III and IV.
• Repeat unproductive actions such as blaming,
  complaining, excusing, and wasting time.
  Consequently moving farther off course.

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Time and Self Management

• -The secret to effective self management is
  making choices that maximize the time you spend
  in I and II.
• -You will need to experiment to see which tools
  help you to accomplish positive outcomes which
  help you stay on course and accomplish your
  valued dreams and goals.

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Time Management Tools

• Monthly calendar
• Next actions list
• Tracking forms

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Monthly Calendar

• Overview of quadrants I and II.
• Shows dates, appointments, and assignments.
• Use it whenever you have to schedule anything.
  Write down classes, labs, drs. appts., deadlines,
  family responsibilities.
• Say No to unscheduled or low priority
  opportunities that will not keep you on course.
• Some people use a PDA or their cell phone

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Next Actions List

• P. 94-95 Record what you need to do next, not an
  overview of the month or week.
• Write your life goals and corresponding goals
  that you defined in chp. 3. More effective than a
  to do list, since it keeps you on course.
• List Quadrant I actions for each of your goals.
  Be sure that the action is important and urgent.
  Be sure each action is dated, achievable,
  personal, positive, and specific (DAPPS).
• List II under your goals-struggling students
  seldom follow through with these typed goals. II
  actions make a huge impact on the difference in
  the results you create.
• As you complete an action mark it off of the
  list. Add new ones as they arise. This frees
  your mind to be creative and engage in critical
  thinking.

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Tracking Forms

• Pg. 100 This form helps you to coordinate many
  actions all directed at a common goal.
• At the end of 7 to 14 days you will see exactly
  what you have and have not done to achieve your
  goals.
• The tracker keeps the inner defender from fooling
  yourself into thinking you are doing what you
  need to do to stay on course when you really are
  not.

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Rewardsp. 96-97

• If you can remember everything you need to do, I
  guess youre not doing very much. Some people
  would rather be right than successful.
• Univ. of Ga. Found that students self management
  skills and attitudes are better predictors of the
  their success than SAT or ACT scores.
• Do the best you can to form a habit of using a
  self management system and see how much more you
  accomplish and how often you are on course.

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Develop Self Discipline

• Self discipline involves persistent small steps.
• Success self discipline which is the
  willingness to do whatever has to be done,
  whether you feel like it or not, until you reach
  your goals and dreams.
• Our actions reveal whether we have the
  self-discipline to stay on course in the face of
  tempting alternatives.
• Remember wanting and doing are 2 different
  things.
• To develop self discipline you must have
  commitment, focus, and persistence.

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Commitment

• Journal 9
• Remember an unbending intention, a single
  mindedness of purpose that promises to overcome
  all obstacles regardless of how you may feel at
  any particular moment.
• Must make a commitment before you can find a
  solution to a problem.
• Motivation comes from commitment to fulfill a
  purpose.

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Focus

• Not allowing your mind to dash from one
  distraction to another.
• Focus is self discipline in thought.
• Struggling students can become distracted for
  months. They arrive to class late, if they come
  at all, turn in sloppy work or ignore the
  assignment. They have taken their eye off of the
  prize which means they have lost their commitment
  to reach their desired goals and dreams.
• Struggling students allow the Inner Defender and
  Inner Critic to be their worst enemy. Their ID
  begins to look for excuses not to complete the
  never ending list of tasks that must be completed
  in order to be successful. Their IC says, I
  never was a good student anyway.
• Successful students focus on the Inner Guide to
  provide them the sprint to the finish knowing
  that they can accomplish this task because they
  have already gotten this far. They see the finish
  line and cross it.

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Persistence

• Self discipline in action
• Do I love myself enough to keep going? You will
  reap the rewards of your efforts and suffer the
  victory of defeat.
• Failure is guaranteed if you quit, but success is
  not guaranteed simply because you persist.
  Remember, if you are doing the same thing over
  and over, getting the same result, but expecting
  something different you need to try something
  new.
• Luannes story p. 104

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Self Management At Work

• Known as doing diligence in the workplace.
• In college doing diligence impresses potential
  employers by you having an excellent GPA and work
  ethic.
• To impress potential employers, quadrant II
  actions, gain experience through part time jobs,
  volunteer work, internships, and leadership
  through student government, clubs, or other
  activities that relate to your career.
• Soft skills will help you to get and keep a job
  along with using time management skills
  effectively.

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Job Hunting

• Make a list of potential employers and careers
  that interest you.
• Attend a resume writing workshop.
• Develop good telephone skills.
• Make cold calls to see if a company may have
  unadvertised openings.
• Develop a resume and tailor the cover letter to
  meet the job requirements while highlighting your
  assets.
• Participate in mock interviews.
• Visit the Career Services Office on campus.
• Do not become discouraged during this difficult
  time. Focus on the Inner Guide to get you through
  and develop a support group to help.
• K now that as you learn the nature of your new
  job that the tasks will take you longer than the
  veterans.

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Develop Self Confidence

• You must believe that you can do whatever it is
  that you want to do. Do not let others opinions
  matter to you.
• Pg. 110 Nathan McCall
• Genuine self confidence results from a history of
  success, and a history or success results from
  persistently taking purposeful actions. A 32 day
  commitment journal is beneficial.
• I CAN should be your motto.
• You must tell yourself how proud you are of
  yourself.
• Begin a success list and every day write down at
  least one thing you did well and that you are
  proud of.
• Visualization is an important technique to
  success not matter what the area.
• Since we chose the movies that we visualize, why
  not be the star in one that you are successful.