Title: Conflict Management Toolkit
1Conflict Management Toolkit
University of Mary Washington
2Table of Contents
- Determining the current level of conflict level
in my work life (self-assessment) - Determining my conflict style (self assessment)
- Resolving a conflict with one other person
- Resolving a group conflict.
- Supervisors role in resolving employee conflict
- The art of disciplining employees (for
supervisors) - The role of HR in conflict resolution
- Listing of informal and formal conflict
resolution processes - Conflict Management Reference list
- Supervisor Network Share your wealth of
experience
3Determining the level of conflict in my life
- Conflict Management Toolkit
- Part I
4Determining the source of conflict
- At times you may sense conflict at work, but not
know exactly why. - The conflict self-assessment will help you to
pinpoint the specific area in which you are
experiencing conflict so that you can begin to
resolve it. The areas addressed are supervisor,
self, peers, employees, and productivity.
5What is my conflict style?
- Conflict Management Toolkit
- Part II
6Conflict Style
- Not only is it important to know what
relationship or situation is causing conflict in
our life, but it is also important to look at how
we normally resolve conflict (our natural
inclination). - We must then decide whether we are satisfied with
our current approach or if we would like to
change it in some way to improve our
effectiveness at conflict resolution.
7Style Explanation
As you discovered through the conflict resolution
assessment, our natural inclinations usually
place us into one of these styles.
- Avoiding
- Accommodating
- Compromising
- Competing
- Collaborating
8Style Explanation
- Avoiding Style (-,-)
- If I ignore the problem, it will go away
- If I confront the problem, I may hurt someones
feelings - Why bother it wont change anything
- Accommodating (-,)
- Its easier to just give in and give them what
they want - You will be better liked if you just agree
- By letting the other person win this time, you
will win next time you have to pick your
battles.
9Style Explanation
- Compromising Style (-,-)
- Its only fair because then neither of us get
what we want. - Both parties are on an even playing field
- We can choose to give up something we really
dont need, thereby winning. - Competing Style (,-)
- Im right and youre wrong
- There is only one solution
- Collaborating (,)
- We can find a solution that works for both of us.
- By asking the other persons perspective, I can
understand them. - Once we find a common ground, we can work from
there.
10Conflict Style
- If you find yourself adopting a conflict
style that youre not happy about - Analyze why you have adopted that style.
- Develop some simple action steps that will help
you break your habit. - Read on for helpful tips that will guide you
through various conflict situations.
11One-to-one Conflict
- Conflict Management Toolkit
- Part VI
12 If you want to constructively resolve a conflict
with another person
- FIRST, get into the right frame of mind for a
positive discussion, always remembering to treat
the other person with respect - SECOND, agree on the best time and place for both
of you to discuss the conflict with each other. - THIRD, Set some ground rules.
- FOURTH, have a discussion.
13Step 1
- Adopt the right frame of mind
14The Approach
When you are ready to approach the other person
remember to
- Go in with the right attitude
- Send positive non-verbal signals
- Focus on the real issues
- Pay attention to communication style
15Your Attitude
- Take With You
- A willingness to work at this
- An understanding that perception is reality
both for you and those around you. - A willingness to learn from the situation
- A willingness to see and acknowledge your own
contribution to the problem.
- Leave Behind
- Your desire to win, punish, or control
- Your desire that everything be fair
- Your assumption that it wont work
- Your tendency to think in black and white,
right or wrong - Your determination to be right.
16Be aware of your nonverbal signals
Others impression of you is based on
- 7 of the words used
- 38 on voice quality and
- 55 on nonverbal communication
17Focus on underlying Issues
- What happened?
- Difference in expectations
- What did I expect to happen? What actually
happened? Who did what? - Intention inventory (Who meant what?)
- Feelings
- Dont ignore or fail to acknowledge
- Feelings make relationships enjoyable and
difficult conversations difficult (cant have one
without the other!) - Identity
- Must face ourselves as well as other person
- Am I competent? Am I a good person? Am I worthy
of love?
18Communication Tips
- Avoid you statements
- Focus on behavior, not employee
- Focus on actions, not intent
- Be descriptive and specific (bring data)
- Practice active listening skills
- Ask open and closed questions to clarify points
19Step 2
20Be Timely talk to the other person while the
issues are still current
Anger and negative feelings tend to fester if not
dealt with quickly!!
21Consider the other persons time needs
- Dont interrupt the other persons schedule and
state that you need to talk - Agree on a time to meet with the other person and
inform him/her of the topic. - Give him/her time to prepare mentally.
22Step 3
233 Golden Rules
- Everyone tells it like they see it.
- Get everything on the table.
- Focus on the future.
24Sample Rules for discussion
In addition to general rules, it is helpful to
agree on how you will talk with each other
- No interruptions
- No yelling
- Time limit on certain topics of discussion
- Words to avoid
- Agreement on what to do if you cant agree ahead
of time
25Step 4
26The Actual Conversation
- Define the conflict.
- Communicate understanding.
- Explore alternative solutions.
- Agree on most workable solution.
- Evaluate after time.
27Define the Conflict
- Describe the problem in clear, concrete terms.
Be specific (use I not you) - Focus on behaviors or problems, not people
- Talk about the impact on you
- Define the conflict as a problem to solve
together, not a battle to be won -
282. Communicate Understanding
- Listen to really understand the other persons
feelings, needs, Reflect back. - Explain how you see the problem after you have
heard them. - Identify your contribution to the situation.
- Describe feelings (not judgments or accusations)
- Talk about identity issues.
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293. Explore alternative solutions
- - Take turns offering alternative solutions.
List them all. - Be nonjudgmental of others ideas.
- Examine the consequence of each solution.
- Think and talk positively.
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304. Agree on most workable solution
- - Agree on a solution you both understand and can
live with. - Be committed to resolving the conflict
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315. Evaluate after time
Get together after some time and see
how the new arrangement is working for both
parties
32Tips in difficult Situations
- Pacing one approximates the behavior of the
other person to subconsciously build rapport. - Mental Aikido mentally moving away from the
focal point of the adversarys attack. Make a
non-linear response to the adversarys words.
Sharks expect you to react. - Patterned interruption involves varying your
usual response. You have the capacity to
interrupt the usual destructive pattern by doing
something completely different or unexpected.
33Resolving Group Conflict
- Workforce Development Toolkit
- Part VII
34Meeting Conflict
- 1. If you sense a spoken or unspoken
conflict in a meeting over an issue, address it. - There seems to be some disagreement over
this issue. Can we take a few minutes to clarify
the issue. - 2. Clarify the conflict.
- O.K. so there seems to be some
disagreement over. - Decide if there is time to deal with it today or
if another meeting needs to be set up to give it
full attention. - Since this seems to be quite an
important issue and we dont have much time
today. Lets agree to meet again to discuss it
further. Can we meet on. - 4. If another meeting is necessary, assign
responsibility for gathering more information on
the subject to staff. - Sue, can you please research
information on. And Diane can you please check
on that State mandate. - Insist employees let it go until the next
meeting. - We have a lot of other issues to
discuss today so lets free our minds of this
issue until the set meeting and move on.
35Group Resolution
- Restate the issue to ensure clarity.
- Have each group member, share information
gathered and give his/her opinion. - Make sure everything is put on the table (no
unresolved feelings popping up later) - Brainstorm alternatives
- Agree on best solution using team decision-making
steps (see reference list at end) - Develop action steps.
- Agree on follow-up session.
36Supervisors role in resolving conflict
- Conflict Management Toolkit
- Part IV
37Your Role as a Supervisor
Involves
- Looking for ways to reduce and prevent conflict
in your work area - Handling conflict as a third party
- Handling grievances as they come to you
38You can reduce conflict by
- Being a good leader
- Being aware of your management style
- Training yourself and your staff on conflict
resolution - Looking out for signs
39Be a Good Leader
- Set a good example
- Communicate clear standards
- Set ground rules
- Provide clear rationale for decisions
- Ensure employees have resources and training to
do their jobs - Get to know your employees
40Be a Good Leader
- Conduct performance counseling
- Assist employees who have performance problems
- Address misconduct promptly
- Get advice from HR when you have questions or
concerns prior to the need to pursue disciplinary
actions - Treat employees fairly and equitably, applying
rules consistently
41Be aware of your own behavior
- Allowing aggressive or inappropriate conduct
without taking action can foster a hostile or
intimidating work environment. - Decision-making without employee input or
participation can lead to frustrated employees
who dont feel valued as anything but worker
bees. - Your staff looks to you to assist in resolving
conflicts. You are better equipped to resolve
conflicts if both you and your staff have had
conflict resolution training. - If you are inconsistent or unpredictable, your
employees will be unsure of your expectations and
become frustrated. - Engaging in relationships with your employees
that are personal or too informal may lead to
misunderstandings, as well as other employees
feeling alienated.
42Lookout for Signs of discontentment
- A usually outgoing, communicative employee
becomes withdrawn and quiet. - An employee frequently comes in late for work.
- An employee is more argumentative and erratic
than usual. - An employee suddenly takes no interest in
maintaining his or her personal appearance or
hygiene. - An employee makes comments about violent means of
dealing with, or coping with, a particular
situation. - An employee talks about having nothing to lose
or not caring about anything anymore.
43Handling conflict as a third party
44Handling Employee Conflicts
- Situation 1 An employee complains to you about
another employee - Situation 2 You observe a conflict situation
- Situation 3 An employee would like to file a
formal grievance
45If an employee comes to you with a possible
grievance
- Take the complaint seriously
- Set a professional tone for the interview put
the complainant at ease - Provide assurance of confidentiality
non-retaliation - Ask for but do not require- a written statement.
- Gather facts, do not make judgments.
- Listen and get answers to who, what, when,
where, why, how. - Communicate your concern and describe the
available options.
46Handling a formal complaint cont
- Ask how the complainant would like to proceed.
- Tell the complainant that prompt action will be
taken. - Ask about the person (s) need for immediate
assistance. - Refer them to UMWs grievance policy
- Set a time for a follow-up meeting and/or refer
the person to the HR office - Document and contact HR.
47The art of disciplining employees
48Proactive Steps to Disciplining employees(Smart
Discipline)
- Make sure you know UMWs discipline policy.
- Share the policy and potential consequences with
your employees. - Treat all employees consistently and fairly.
- Before taking any action, be sure of the facts.
49UMWDisciplinePolicy
50ProgressiveDiscipline
- Progressive Discipline means you move through
increasingly stronger counseling or training in
an attempt at causing or convincing the employee
to bring his/her performance to an acceptable
level
51Key Ingredients in Progressive Discipline
- Due notice
- A chance to improve, and
- A review process
The process should be FULL, FAIR, PROMPT, and
CONDUCTED IN GOOD FAITH.
52Advantages of Progressive Discipline
- Protects you against accusations of firing a
person without due process. - Chance to turn the employee around into a well
functioning employee. - Chance to improve policies and practices
- Demonstrates to fellow employees that you are
fair and willing to give employees a chance.
53Steps in Progressive Discipline
541. How to act when you become aware of a
disciplinary problem
- Personal Observation
- If you observed the negative behavior
personally, you can proceed to the slide labeled
counseling. (click here) - Complaint from a 3rd party
- If a 3rd party makes you aware of the negative
behavior, you must make sure you conduct
thorough and fair fact finding steps. (see next
slide).
552. Fact Finding
- Talk to the accused using the counseling
guidelines on next slide. - If the employee denies the behavior or recounts a
different scenario, explain to him/her that
further fact finding is necessary. - Talk to only those directly involved in the
situation in a confidential manner. - Document all discussions with related parties.
- Review all relevant documents, pictures or
diagrams to substantiate the fact finding.
563. Counseling the Employee
- Assure employee that only those who need to know
will be informed. - Share concrete examples with the employee of the
negative behavior - State the effects of this negative behavior.
- Describe the behavior you would like to see (what
changes must occur). - Give the employee a chance to explain or comment.
- Agree together on a plan of action.
- State the consequences if this change of behavior
does not occur
57Additional Tips about Counseling
- Utilize the Virginia Employee Assistance Program
(VEAP) whenever you see it as appropriate (This
should be offered in addition to disciplinary
action, not as a substitute). - Documentation of counseling should be retained in
supervisors files, not in employees personnel
file. - Dont soften the blow, the employee must
understand the severity of his/her actions.
584. Formal Discipline
- Before taking any formal disciplinary action,
consult with your supervisor. - Reference the Code of Conduct to match severity
of discipline with negative conduct. - Issue a written notice when counseling did not
work or when the conduct was severe enough to
warrant immediate discipline. - ALWAYS place a warning about the consequences of
failure to improve performance in writing before
implementing any discipline measures such as
suspension, dismissal.
594. Formal Discipline Continued
- If the employees performance remains poor and
you feel you have provided enough counseling and
given enough warning, follow through on the
threatened discipline. - ALWAYS make sure of what you are doing and that
your final decision is fair. - Listen to employee and review the evidence one
more time from the employees point of view. - Finalize the discipline by following your
policies. - Consult HR as to the actual method of
implementing the discipline.
605. Termination
- NEVER TERMINATE WITHOUT CONSULTING HR
- LOGISTICS
- Before conducting a termination, you need to
- Schedule (when, how long)
- Location
- Extra Support (HR, EAP)
- Prepare (physical psychological)
- Review separation package
- Think about employees state of mind and
potential reaction
615. Termination Cont.
- OBJECTIVES
- Deliver the message quickly, respectfully,
professionally - Ensure individual understands that employment if
terminated immediately or in the near future - Deliver the separation package
- Strongly encourage employees to utilize VEC Job
Search Center - Provide structure for the next 24 hours
- Ensure to collect agency property before employee
leaves for the day.
Click here for more information
62Key Points in Smart Discipline
- Always follow your written policies and past
practices in similar situations - Lack of consistency will cause a judge to assume
you are discriminating against the employee in
some way. - Remember that other employees will be watching
you to see if you are fair. - Always listen to employees and give them a chance
to improve
63Top Ways to Get Sued
- Ignore the union salter
- Discharge the disabled worker (without
accommodation) - Misclassifying a non-exempt employee as exempt
and not paying overtime. - Allowing managers and supervisors to use
offensive words as a joke. - Failure to stop sexual harassment.
- Punishing the victim (intentionally or
unintentionally) - Letting managers go postal when acting on
behalf of employer.
64In a disciplinary situationnot taking action
is a decision!
65The Role of the Office of Human Resources
in Conflict Resolution
66The Role of HR
- If you are in a conflict situation and dont know
how to deal with it, the Office of HR can - Provide you with guidance and tools to approach
the conflict situation. - Direct you through the appropriate chain of
command. - Present formal and informal options available to
you. - Coordinate mediation, facilitation, or counseling
sessions for you. - .
- .
67Things that will help us to help you
HR will try to help you no matter what your
situation, but we can best assist you if you
come to us
- At the onset of the conflict
- With clear examples or facts and
- With your ideas of what you would like changed in
your situation.
68Consult HR as a proactive rather than reactive
measure
A single injury is much easier to fix when
compared to multiple wounds!
69Informal and Formal Conflict Resolution Processes
70Informal Processes
- Open Door
- - Present concern to any available level of
management - Make an appointment
- Be aware of the supervisory chain of command
- Internal Mediation
- - If the conflict issue involves only
work- related situations, your supervisor or a
higher level manager can try to assist the two
conflicting parties in reaching a solution. -
- Mediation
- Voluntary Process
- Neutral mediators assist discussion
- Parties working out own solutions
- Call HR office or EDR for more information
71Formal Processes
- The Grievance Process
- See training materials
- See link to actual policy
http//www.edr.state.va.us/grievance.htm
72Reference List
- UMWs Conflict Management Training course for
Supervisors - UMWs Conflict Resolution course with video
- Getting to Resolution Turning Conflict into
Collaboration. David Levine (book) - The Book of Agreement 10 Essentials for getting
the results you want. David Levine (Book)
73Supervisor Network
- As a supervisor, you have probably dealt with
a lot of conflict situations. If you have some
good advice for your colleagues or would like to
ask for advice from other colleagues, please send
your advice or question to
kgoodfri_at_umw.edu
Responses and questions will be posted As soon as
they arrive.
74Other Available toolkits
- Workforce Development for managers and
Supervisors (helps with assessing staffing,
training, and budgetary needs) - Hiring Toolkit (everything you need to know about
recruiting a new employee and bringing them on
board) - S drive Fac-Staf/Recruitment