GETTING UNDERWAY WITH THE WIND AT YOUR BACK

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GETTING UNDERWAY WITH THE WINDAT YOUR BACK
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LIFE FOR TEENS IS NO PLAYGROUND
It is a maze full of right or wrong turns-right
or wrong choices. Parents can teach teens
skills to help them make better choices.
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WE CANT MAKE THEIR DECISIONS FOR THEM, BUT WE
CAN GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TOOLS THEY NEED TO MAKE
RIGHT DECISIONS.
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NAVIGATION NECESSITIES
What are Effective Teens Choices Based on?
PRINCIPLES
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What is an effective teen?

• Are they reactive or proactive?
• Do they know where they are going?
• Do they prioritize the things they have to do?
• Do they see life as a competition?
• Do they talk first and then pretend to listen or
  listen actively?
• Do they cooperate with others or do they think
  they are
• better off doing everything by themselves?
• 7. Are they so busy with life that they do not
  have time to
• Spend quality time with family and friends
• To do their homework
• Read good books
• Exercise
• Take time for nature or other inspirational
  things?

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PARADIGM The way you see something, your point of
view, frame of reference, or belief.
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What is a paradigm shift? A paradigm shift is a
way of looking at something differently. We are
stepping outside the box. When we make a
paradigm shift we can see, think, feel and behave
differently. Example Ptolemy thought the
earth was the center of the universe. Copernicus
believed the sun was the center of the universe.
(a paradigm shift occurred)
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Frank Koch wrote Two battleships assigned
to the training squadron had been at sea on
maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I
was serving on the lead battleship and was on
watch on the bridge as night fell. Shortly after
dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge
reported, "Light, bearing on the starboard bow."
"Is it steady or moving astern?" the captain
called out. Lookout replied, "Steady, captain,"
which meant we were on a collision course. The
captain then called to the signalman, "Signal
that ship We are on a collision course, advise
you change course 20 degrees." Back came the
reply, "Advisable for you to change course 20
degrees." The captain said, "Send, I'm a
captain, change course 20 degrees." "I am a
seaman second class" came the reply. "You had
better change course 20 degrees." By that time,
the captain was furious. He spat out, "Send, I'm
a battleship. Change course 20 degrees." Back
came the reply, "I'm a lighthouse." We changed
course. Steven Covey (in The 7 habits of Highly
Effective People) tells that story to teach that
principles are like lighthouses. They are
natural laws that cannot be broken.
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RESPECT
To show regard or value for someone
or something.
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Emotional Bank Account Like a checking or
savings account, you can make deposits or
withdrawals.
Personal-How you feel about yourself. (Amount
of trust and confidence in yourself.) Relationship
-How you feel about others. (Amount of trust and
confidence you have in each of your relationships)
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Personal Bank Account Deposits

• Keep promises to yourself
• Do small acts of kindness
• Be gentle with yourself
• Be honest in all your dealings
• Enhance your talents
• Take care of yourself
• Think positively and use positive self-talk

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Personal Bank Account Withdrawals

• Break promises to yourself
• Isolate yourself
• Put yourself down
• Think negatively and use negative self-talk
• Be dishonest with yourself
• Neglect your talents
• Wear yourself out
• Expect yourself to be perfect

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Relationship Bank Account Deposits

• Keep promises to others
• Do small acts of kindness
• Be loyal to those not present
• Listen actively
• Say you are sorry
• Set clear expectations
• Allow others to be different

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Relationship Bank Account Withdrawals

• Break promises
• Keep to yourself
• Gossip and break confidences
• Do not listen
• Be arrogant
• Set false expectations

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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

• Habit 1 Be Proactive
• Habit 2 Begin With The End in Mind
• Habit 3 Put First Things First
• Habit 4 Think Win-win
• Habit 5 Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
  Understood
• Habit 6 Synergize
• Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw

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Habit 1 Be Proactive

• Teenagers are the product of their environment,
  upbringing, and choices. Are their choices
  proactive or reactive? They need to take
  responsibility for their choices
• and their life.

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CIRCLE OF NO CONTROL
CIRCLE OF CONTROL
Birthplace
What other people say and do
Attitudes
Ourselves
Weather
Choices Responses
Parents
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Habit 2 Begin With the End in Mind

• Define their mission and goals. Values are
  self-chosen provide foundations for decision
  making about where they are going in life.

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Habit 3 Put First Things First

• Prioritize
• Actions flow from that which is important.

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Habit 4 Think Win-win

• Mutual Benefits.
• Have an
• everyone can win attitude.

Win-win is like an all you can eat buffet.
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Habit 5 Seek First to Understand,Then to be
Understood

• Communication solves problems.
• Listen to people sincerely.

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Habit 6 Synergize

• Open-mindedness. Teamwork. New ways to do things.
  Work together to achieve more.
• Celebrate differences.
• A fruit salad is delicious precisely because each
  fruit maintains its own flavor.

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Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw

• Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement in
  

your brain
your body
your heart
your soul
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• SOLUTION ORIENTED PROBLEM SOLVING
• 1. Name the problem, and who owns it. (Be sure
  it is the REAL problem)
• 2. Describe it specifically. (Name the parts of
  the problem.)
• 3. Brainstorm. (Name all the solutions you can
  think of, no matter how crazy they may
  seem.)
• 4. Think about each solution
• Does it honor the values of your parents,
  yourself, and others whom you respect?
• Would it solve the problem?
• Would it affect yourself and others for better or
  worse?
• 5. Choose a solution, and act on it.
• 6. Evaluate the outcome
• Is the problem solved?
• Did the solution produce the results you
  expected?
• How did the solution fit with your feelings and
  values?

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• Expected Outcomes
• Increased engagement and motivation
• Greater responsibility for learning
• Increased peer collaboration skills
• Greater confidence and self-esteem
• Increased listening skills
• Greater content mastery
• Better peer collaboration
• More time on task
• More skill in analyzing and solving problems

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GETTING UNDERWAY WITH THE 7 Habits of Highly
Effective Teens
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7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

• Certified Trainer
• Carole Mullins, NBCT
• Instructional Supervisor, Perry Co. Central H. S.
• carole.mullins_at_perry.kyschools.us
• 606-439-5888 or 606-854-2329