I Am an Individual Person

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I Am an Individual Person

• Created by Michael H. Cheney
• Source Finding Your Personal Style, Marilyn
  Kielbasa

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Learning Objectives

• To understand the concept of Personality
• To explore and celebrate some characteristics
  that make them unique as individuals created by
  God
• To understand some of the problems and
  possibilities that come with uniqueness
• To discuss the importance of valuing
  differences
• Openness to Growth
• Developing as a Leader

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Drawing Exercise In Your Minds Eye
Close eyes Dont look In your minds eye follow
my directions
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Drawing Exercise In Your Minds Eye
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Observations

• Drawings were
• small, others filled the page
• on the vertical page
• on the horizontal
• different writing instruments
• simple
• used bold strokes
• Everyone heard the same directions but had a
  different approach to drawing the picture (none
  is better than the other)
• Everyone has a different approach to life, even
  though we all deal with the same issues and
  questions
• Each person looks at things in a unique way.

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Martini with an olive being dropped into it A
navel and bikini
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GODISNOWHERE
God is nowhere God is now here God I snow here
(for skiers)
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How old are these women?
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Sometimes we have to look deeper to see all that
is there. In other words, things arent always
what they appear.
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The depth of what we see depends on how long we
stay with a certain image. Sometimes we need to
look deeper into ourselves to get a clear picture
of who we are.
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How many faces can you find in this
picture? (Stop by my office for a closer look)
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Old man or couple kissing?
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Personality
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Personality

• Way of living in the world
• Way of interacting with other people
• Includes what makes us individuals
• Personal preferences
• Typical reactions
• Learning styles
• Thinking patterns

• Determined by
• Family history
• Genetics
• Culture
• Similar, yet different
• Created in Gods image
• Unique individuals

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Every human being is precious gift created by God
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Each personality style has something to contribute
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Personal Style Inventories
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Personality Style Inventories

• PSIs will help them
• Who they are
• How they react to life
• How they react with other people
• Decide what kind of person they want to become
• Get to know others in their class as they really
  are, not how everyone thinks they are

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Personality Style Inventories

• What are PSIs?
• Tell about persons opinions, attitudes,
  preferences, beliefs, habits, choices, ideas,
  feelings, and abilities
• Scientific, but meant to be fun
• Not possible to give a wrong answer in PSIs

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Thumb Exercise

• Make a fist
• Thumb on the outside strong willed
• Thumb on the inside likes to be alone

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How many personas do you have?

• We all relate to different people in different
  situations in different ways
• These different ways are our personas
• Public persona
• Personal persona
• Personas are part of your personal style
• Neither good nor bad they just are
• Challenge discern which are necessary and which
  are actually masks

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Different Faces of Me

• Read handout directions in the first part.
• In the second part, use the list that you
  recorded in your notebooks and
• look at each behavior and
• write the name or names of people who would be
  surprised to see you do that particular thing or
  hear you talk about it.
• When completed, count the number of different
  people you listed below the behaviors and write
  this number in the triangle on the handout.

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Different Faces of Me

• Father
• Mother
• Brother
• Sister
• Grandparents
• Teachers
• Coaches
• Classmates
• Girlfriend

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Exercise Different Faces of Me
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Personas versus Masks

• Personas are
• necessary private and public
• part of ones personal style
• ones way of living and relating in the world
• one may have many personas
• others have few personas
• When carried to an extreme they translate into
  masks that hide a persons true self

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Challenge Be Your Real Self

• Which of your personas are healthy and necessary
• Which are masks to cover up your true self or
  feelings
• If you have many personas, let some people get to
  know the real you
• Share your feelings
• Not merely the surface and superficial stuff
• Value others for who they are
• Grad-at-Grad LOVING
• Try to get to know others on a deeper level than
  what appears on the surface.

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Exercise My Three Selves
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My Three Selves

• Write under each of the headings some adjectives
  or phrases that describe you
• Be as honest as possible

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Prayer Dont Be Fooled By Me
Celebrating Self
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Dont Be Fooled by Me

• Dont be fooled by me. Dont be fooled by the
  mask I wear. For I wear a thousand masks, and
  none of them is me.
• I give the impression that I am secure.
  Confidence is my name and coolness is my game.
• But dont believe me. Beneath lies the real me
  in confusion and fear and aloneness.
• But I dont tell you this because Im afraid to.
  I am afraid that you will think less of me, that
  youll laugh at me. Im afraid that deep down
  Im nothing and Im no good.

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• Yet only you can call me into aliveness
• Each time youre kind and encouraging.
• Each time you try to understand because you care
• Who am I, you may wonder.
• I am someone you know very well.
• Anonymous

I am every man, woman, and child you meet
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Summary

• You share many things in common with one another
  and will all humanity
• You are individuals with different preferences,
  beliefs, values, and styles
• Each of you is a good person
• Need to accept and celebrate your real self
• Have a choice about the person you want to become

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Assignment

• Type a reflection paper completing one of
  following sentence stems
• At least one paragraph in length
• Think back to your experience in class and
  complete one of the following sentences
• I learned that
• I was surprised that
• I never knew that