Christian Wholeness

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Christian Wholeness

• What it is, and what it looks like in stressful
  circumstances

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Who am I, who are you, what are we doing here
together?

• Dr Jonathan Andrews MAPS. Clinical Psychologist.
  Work at Christian Wholeness in Upper Mt Gravatt,
  where I treat people for depression, anxiety and
  stress.
• A husband of but one wife, a father, a friend, a
  follower of Jesus.
• Who are you? You are concerned either for
  yourself or someone you know.
• What are we doing here together? What is a good
  way for a Christian to respond to stress and
  anxiety?
• Keep your heart in mind Control, direction,
  connection.

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Stressed out
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Big Brother and Big expectations

• What is the good thing about having a big
  brother?
• What might be the tough thing about having a big
  brother?
• If the big brother has reasonable expectations
  does this make the situation better or worse?
• If the big brother has extravagant
  expectations, does this make the situation
  better or worse?

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Extravagant Expectations

• Daniel Boorstin (1961). The Image. We have
  extravagant expectations of life
• Jono Andrews (2012). We have extravagant
  expectations of each other. Expectations that go
  beyond the limits of reason or moderation.
• Physical
• Mental
• Heart related

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Stress and the impact on the whole person
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Heart Leb or Lebab

• Losing that relationshipbroke my heart
• Losing that job.broke my heart
• Heart Motivation, direction, value.

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The Quadrants
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Check your position!
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I know something you dont know
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Check your position!

• While still a long way off
• The Father saw him and was filled with
  compassion.
• He ran to him, threw his arms around.
• QUICK Celebrate!
• His Child

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An answer to longing
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You were not the same after that
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So what?

• Lev Vygotsky An interpersonal process becomes an
  intrapersonal one
• You have intrinsic value, and your value is born
  out of your treatment. Christ died for you.
• Self esteem protects you from stress and helps
  you habituate (Jens Prisner McGill University)
• Status independent of achievement leads us to
  take more risks

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Engage
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Your Heart in Mind

• Control
• Boundaries with others Clarity
• Achievable goals from realistic expectations
• Direction
• Separation
• Role obey or honour or both
• Value and Connection Horizontally and vertically
  developing and maintaining safe attachments.