Title: Experiencing Parenthood: Roles and Relationships of Parents and their Children
1Chapter 11
- Experiencing Parenthood Roles and Relationships
of Parents and their Children
2Chapter Outline
- Being Parents
- Who Takes Care of the Children?
- Raising Children Theories of Socialization,
Advice to Parents and Styles of Parenting - From the Theoretical to the Practical Expert
Advice on Child Rearing - Styles and Strategies of Child Rearing
3Chapter Outline
- What Influences Child Development?
- What Do Children Need?
- What Do Parents Need?
- Diversity in Parent-Child Relationships
- Parenting and Caregiving in Later Life
4True or False?
- A maternal instinct has been proved to exist in
humans.
5False
- Researchers are unable to find any purely
instinctual motives for having children among
humans. - They do recognize social motives impelling women
to become mothers. - From her earliest years, a woman has been trained
to assume the role of mother. - The stories she heard, the games she played, the
textbooks she read, the religion she has been
taught, the television she watchedall socialized
her for the mother role.
6True or False?
- Studies consistently show that regular day care
by nonfamily members is detrimental to
intellectual and social development.
7False
- High-quality child care, that is given by
sensitive, responsive, and stimulating caregivers
in a safe environment with low teacher-to-student
ratio, can actually facilitate the development of
positive social qualities, consideration, and
independence.
8True or False?
- Children of gay or lesbian parents are likely to
be gay themselves.
9False
- Concerns about gay and lesbian parents tend to
center on parenting abilities, fear of sexual
abuse, and worry that the children will become
gay or lesbian themselves. - Research has failed to support such concerns or
identify negative outcomes for children. - Much research has failed to identify meaningful
differences between children of gay and
heterosexual parents.
10The Ideology of Intensive Mothering
- Our cultural expectations of mothers as the
essential caregivers. - Living up to its standards is difficult even for
stay-at-home mothers. - For women employed outside the home, the ideology
can provoke self-doubt, guilt, and a sense of
being judged by others.
11Bifurcation of Fatherhood
- Two sides of contemporary fatherhood, a result of
the declining division of labor in the family. - By rejecting the notion of a fathers primary
role as provider, some men felt freed from a
sense of duty toward spouses and children. - Other men found that this liberated them to
construct more expressive versions of fathering.
12Who Takes Care of the Children?
- Childcare responsibility varies according to the
marital status of parents and their employment
roles and schedules. - In a two-parent family, care for children is more
the responsibility of mothers than fathers. - It is estimated that fathers engagement with
children is less than 45 that of mothers.
13Active Childcare
- Mothers take care of and think about their
children more than fathers do. - For every hour fathers spend with their children,
mothers spend 3 to 5 hours. - Fathers are more involved with sons than
daughters,with younger children than older
children, and with firstborn than later born
children.
14Non Parental Child Care
- 77 of the more than 8 million 3- to 5-year-olds
are in nonparental child care. - 3 out of 4 children from families earning over
75,000 are in center-based programs. - Among children whose families earn less than
40,000, little more than half spend time in such
programs.
15Financial Support for Children Provided by
Nonresident Fathers
African American Hispanic Caucasian
No support arranged or 0 paid 33.2 36.4 17.7
1 to 99 of arranged support 13.6 9.5
100 of arranged support 54.2 54.1 82.3
16Day Care Programs
- Suggested Standards
- A lot of individual attention for each child
- Trained, experienced teachers
- The same day care staff for a long period
- Opportunity for creative work, imaginative play,
and physical activity
17Day Care Services
- Suggested Standards
- Space to move indoors and out
- Enough teachers and assistants ( at least 1 for
every 5 children) - Ample drawing and coloring materials and toys, as
well as swings, wagons, and jungle gyms - Small rather than large groups
18Day Care
- As more women return to the workforce, a critical
issue is the quality of the day care for their
children. - High-quality day care can facilitate the
development of positive social qualities.
19Freuds Psychoanalytical Theory
- Holds that we are driven by an instinct to seek
pleasure, especially sexual pleasure. - Id - Pleasure seeking part of personality
- Superego - The conscience.
- Ego - Mediates between the id and the constraints
of society. - Freud viewed the parents as the primary force in
a childs psychological development.
20Freuds Psychoanalytical Theory
- Freud divided psychosexual development into five
stages spanning from birth through adolescence - Oral
- Anal
- Phallic
- Latency
- Genital
21Eriksons Psychoanalytic Theory
- Emphasized the effects of society on the
developing ego, creating a model that has come to
be known as psychosocial theory. - Each of Eriksons life cycle stages is centered
on a specific emotional concern based on
biological influences and sociocultural
expectations and actions.
22Piagets Theory of Cognitive Development
- Suggested that cognitive development occurs in
discrete stages for all infants and children. - Four stages of cognitive development
- Sensorimotor
- Preoperational
- Concrete operational
- Formal operational
23Developmental Systems Approach
- According to this approach, the growth and
development of children takes place within a
complex and changing family system that
influences and is influenced by the child. - The family system is part of a number of larger
systems all of which mutually interact.
24Symbolic Interaction Theory
- Symbolic interactionists such as Charles Horton
Cooley and George Herbert Mead stressed the
processes through which we develop a social self,
the sense of who we are and how we are perceived
by those around us. - To interactionists, the self emerges out of
interactions with others.
25Symbolic Interaction Theory
- In Cooleys formulation, three key components
comprise the looking-glass self, the self-concept
that develops from our sense of how others view
us - We imagine how others perceive us.
- We draw conclusions about how others judge us.
- Based on these,we develop our ideas about
ourselves.
26Symbolic Interaction Theory
- Mead emphasized that the self consists of
- an active, spontaneous part ( I)
- a more passive, acted upon part (me), in which
we see ourselves as an object of other peoples
actions toward us.
27Symbolic Interaction Theory
- Play forces children to see things from someone
elses view, what Mead called taking the role of
the other. - In the play stage (3 to 6 years old), children
play at being specific individuals, often by
dressing up. - By the game stage, they have developed enough
self-awareness to be able to take into account
multiple perspectives and anticipate how other
players might act in a given situation.
28Stages of Development Freud, Piaget, and Erikson
Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Infancy Oral Sensori-motor Trust vs. mistrust
Toddler Anal Autonomy vs. shame and doubt
Early childhood Phallic Pre-operational Initiative vs. guilt
29Stages of Development Freud, Piaget, and Erikson
Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Late-middle childhood Latency Concrete operational Industry vs. inferiority
Adolescence Genital Formal operational Identity vs. confusion
30Stages of Development Freud, Piaget, and Erikson
Compared
Freud Piaget Erikson
Early adulthood Intimacy vs. isolation
Middle adulthood Generativity vs. stagnation
Late adulthood Ego integrity vs. despair
31Contemporary Childrearing Strategies
- Respect
- Consistency and clarity
- Logical consequences
- Open communication
- No physical punishment
- Behavior modification
32Needs for Optimal Child Development
- Adequate prenatal nutrition and care.
- Appropriate stimulation and care of newborns.
- The formation of at least one close attachment
during the first five years.
33Needs for Optimal Child Development
- Support for the family including child care when
a parent or parents must work. - Protection from illness.
- Freedom from physical and sexual abuse.
- Supportive friends, both adults and children.
34Needs for Optimal Child Development
- Respect for the childs individuality and
appropriate challenges leading to competence. - Safe, nurturing, and challenging schooling.
- An adolescence free of pressure to grow up too
fast, yet respectful of natural biological
transformations - Protection from premature parenthood.
35Living Arrangements of Children in Households
without Parents
Arrangement Percentage of Children
Grandparents 47.9
Grandparents and other relatives 27.6
Nonrelative guardians 21.9
Other arrangements 2.7
36Gay and Lesbian Parents
- Children of gay and lesbian parents generally
- Maintain close relationships with their parents.
- Are well-adjusted.
- Develop the same sexual orientations and gender
roles as children of heterosexuals.
37Gay and Lesbian Parents
- Families headed by lesbians or gay men experience
the same joys and pains as those headed by
heterosexuals, but they are also likely to face
insensitivity or discrimination from society.
38 of Population, Age 30 Years or Older, Living
with and Responsible for Grandchildren, 2000
39 of Residential Grandparents Who Are Responsible
for Grandchildren
40Grandparenting
- An important role for the middle-aged and aged.
- Three Styles of Grandparenting
- Companionate
- Remote
- Involved