What does it take to have a good relationship with your parents

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What does it take to have a good relationship
with your parents?
In the name of the Father, of the Son, of the
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Eritrean Orthodox Church Diocese of North
AmericaWest Coast 2nd year Youth RetreatJuly
01-04/2009 By Adiam Yonas
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Relationship Between Parents and Youth

• By Adiam Yonas
• St. Mary Eritrean Orthodox Church Bay Area

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What type of relationship do you have with your
parents?

• The 5th commandment says Honor thy father and
  mother and your days will be long
• Children obey your parents in the Lord for this
  is right. Eph 61-3
• The key words are "honor" and "obey". There is no
  time limit on this. God does not free a child
  from this responsibility simply because he has
  now gone to college or is married.
• Honor- high regard of great respect given

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What does it take to have a GOOD relationship
with your parents?

• 10 Key Requirements
• Good Communication
• Trust
• Understanding one another
• Compromise
• Sacrifice

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What does it take to have a good relationship
with your parents

• Mutual Respect
• Obedience
• Responsibility
• Patience
• Love

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Todays Lecture will cover

• Key factors in maintaining a good relationship
  with parents
• Direct Bible verses and stories that support
  these teachings
• Issues with the relationship between parents and
  youth
• Open forum for discussion

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Good Communication

• Not just talking/arguing
• Must reflect wants, needs, dreams, plans,
  lifestyle, progress, feelings, appreciation.etc
• What does good communication require?
• Installs trust and understanding
• Verse about honesty

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Trust

• Trust is EARNED!
• Mutual
• Important for decision making
• Verse about trust

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Understanding one another

• Gaps
• Put yourself in one anothers shoes
• Reasons for misunderstanding to occur

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Compromise

• Be willing to give a little to receive some
• Useful when disagreements arise
• Reasons why disagreements arise

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Sacrifice

• What have/do we sacrifice for our parents lately?
• What type of things can we sacrifice for our
  parents?
• Jesuss Last hour

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Mutual Respect

• Parents have the God-given authority and we must
  give them the respect that they deserve
• One way to honor your parents is by respecting
  them and the decisions they make?
• How do you show respect?
• The father of the righteous will greatly
  rejoice he who begets a wise son will be glad in
  him. Let your father and mother be glad. Let her
  who bore you rejoice. Proverbs 2322

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Obedience

• Supporting them in their decisions rather than
  following them bitterly
• No time limit
• My son keep your fathers commandment, and
  forsake not your mothers teaching. Bind them
  upon your heart always. Tie them about your neck.
  When you walk, they will lead you. Proverbs
  620-22

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Was Our Lord Jesus obedient to His parents?

• YES!
• After three days they found him in the temple,
  sitting among teachers, listening to them and
  asking them questions and all who heard him were
  amazed at His understanding and his answers. And
  when they saw him they were astonished and his
  mother said to him, Son, why have you treated us
  so? Behold, your father and I have been looking
  for you anxiously.Luke 251

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• and he said to them, How is it that you sought
  me? Did you not know that I must be in my
  Fathers house And they did not understand the
  saying that he was saying to them. And he went
  down with them and came to Nazareth and was
  obedient to them, and his mother kept all these
  things in her heart. Luke 246-52

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Responsibility

• The duty of a parent is to plant seeds of wisdom
  in you and it is your responsibility to utilize
  it
• "Train up a child in the way he should go and
  when he is old he will not depart from it
  -Proverbs 226
• Our parents goal is to shape us into righteous
  citizens of this world

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Patience

• Building a solid relationship with your parents
  is an ongoing process that requires time and
  patience
• Let go of distracting emotions such as anger,
  frustration, and disappointment and focus on
  communication
• Sometimes a mutual understanding will not always
  be reached but ultimately your parents have the
  final say
• "Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and
  do not forsake your mother's teaching." Proverbs
  18

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Love

• Show your Love
• Love allows you to set your pride aside to build
  a relationship