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Title: Choices in Relationships


1
Choices in Relationships
  • Chapter Three Love in Relationships

2
Descriptions of Love
  • Sternberg developed the triangular view of
    love as consisting of three basic
    elementsintimacy, passion, and commitment.
  • The presence or absence of these three elements
    provides a description of various types of love
    experienced between individuals regardless of
    their sexual orientation.

3
Descriptions of Love
  • Nonlove
  • the absence of intimacy, passion, and commitment
  • Two strangers looking at each other from afar
    have a nonlove.
  • Liking
  • intimacy without passion or commitment
  • A new friendship may be described in these terms
    of the partners liking each other.

4
Descriptions of Love
  • Infatuation
  • passion without intimacy or commitment
  • Two persons flirting with each other in a bar may
    be infatuated with each other.
  • Romantic love
  • intimacy and passion without commitment
  • Love at first sight reflects this type of love.

5
Descriptions of Love
  • Companionate love
  • intimacy and commitment without passion
  • A couple who have been married for fifty years
    are said to have a companionate love.
  • Fatuous love
  • passion and commitment without intimacy
  • A couple who are passionately wild about each
    other and talk of the future but do not have an
    intimate connection with each other have a
    fatuous love.

6
Descriptions of Love
  • Empty love
  • commitment without passion or intimacy
  • A couple who stay together for social and legal
    reasons but who have no spark or sharing between
    them have an empty love.
  • Consummate love
  • combination of intimacy, passion, and commitment
  • Sternbergs view of the ultimate, all-consuming
    love.

7
Love in Societal Context
  • Social Control of Love
  • Is love color blind or is love blinded by
    color?
  • Over 95 percent of people marry someone of their
    own racial background
  • Another example of the social control of love is
    that individuals attracted to someone of the same
    sex quickly feel the social and cultural
    disapproval of this attraction.

8
Love in Societal Context
  • Ancient Views of Love
  • Buddhist Conception of Love
  • The Buddhists conceived of two types of lovean
    unfortunate kind of love (self-love) and a
    good kind of love (creative spiritual
    attainment).
  • Greek and Hebrew Conceptions of Love
  • Three concepts of love introduced by the Greeks
    and reflected in the New Testament are phileo,
    agape, and eros.

9
Love in Societal Context
  • Love in Medieval Europe
  • From Economics to Romance
  • Love in the 1100s was a concept influenced by
    economic, political, and family structure.
  • Marriages of the sons and daughters of the
    aristocracy were arranged with the heirs of other
    states with whom an alliance was sought.

10
Love in Societal Context
  • Modern Conceptions of Love
  • Love Styles
  • Ludus
  • The ludic lover views love as a game, refuses to
    become dependent on any one person, and does not
    encourage anothers intimacy.
  • Pragma
  • The pragma love style is the love of the
    pragmatic, who is logical and rational.

11
Love in Societal Context
  • Modern Conceptions of Love
  • Love Styles
  • Eros
  • Just the opposite of the pragmatic love style,
    the eros love style is one of passion and
    romance.
  • 4. Mania
  • The person with mania love style feels intense
    emotion and sexual passion but is out of control.

12
Love in Societal Context
  • Modern Conceptions of Love
  • Love Styles
  • 5. Storge
  • The storge love style is a calm, soothing,
    nonsexual love devoid of intense passion.
  • 6. Agape
  • One of the forms of love identified by the
    ancient Greeks, the agape love style is selfless
    and giving, expecting nothing in return.

13
Love in Societal Context
  • Romantic versus Realistic Love
  • Romantic Love
  • Romantic love is characterized by such beliefs as
    love at first sight, there is only one true love,
    and love conquers all.
  • The symptoms of romantic love include drastic
    mood swings, palpitations of the heart, and
    intrusive thoughts about the partner.

14
Love in Societal Context
  • Romantic versus Realistic Love
  • Realistic Love
  • Realistic love is also known as conjugal love.
  • Conjugal (married) love is less emotional,
    passionate, and exciting than romantic love and
    is characterized by companionship, calmness,
    comfort, and security.

15
Theories on the Origins of Love
  • Evolutionary Theory
  • Love has an evolutionary purpose by providing a
    bonding mechanism between the parents during the
    time their offspring are dependent infants.
  • Learning Theory
  • Learning theory emphasizes that love feelings
    develop in response to certain behaviors
    occurring in certain contexts.

16
Theories on the Origins of Love
  • Sociological Theory
  • Suggests the wheel model as an explanation for
    how love develops.
  • Basically there are four stages of the
    wheel-rapport, self revelation, mutual
    dependency, and personality need fulfillment.
  • Psychosexual Theory
  • According to psychosexual theory, love results
    from blocked biological sexual desires.

17
Theories on the Origins of Love
  • Ego-Ideal Theory
  • Suggests that love springs from a state of
    dissatisfaction with oneself and represents a
    vain urge to reach ones ego-ideal.
  • Ontological Theory
  • Love from an ontological perspective arises from
    a lack of wholeness in our being.

18
Theories on the Origins of Love
  • Biochemical Theory
  • Suggests that there may be a biochemical basis
    for love feelings.
  • Attachment Theory
  • The attachment theory of love emphasizes that a
    primary motivation in life is to be connected
    with other people.

19
Theories on the Origins of Love
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How Love Develops in a New Relationship
  • Social Conditions for Love
  • Our society promotes love through popular music,
    movies, television, and novels.
  • Psychological Conditions for Love
  • Two psychological conditions associated with the
    development of healthy love relationships are
    high self-esteem and self-disclosure.

21
How Love Develops in a New Relationship
  • Physiological and Cognitive Conditions for Love
  • The individual must be physiologically aroused
    and interpret this stirred-up state as love.

22
Love as a Context for Problems
  • Simultaneous Loves
  • Some people (particularly those separated from
    the love partner, who may meet and fall in love
    with another) report the dilemma of being in love
    with two people at the same time.
  • Abusive or Unfulfilling Love Relationships
  • Another problem associated with love is being in
    love with someone who may be emotionally or
    physically abusive.

23
Love as a Context for Problems
  • Context for Risky/Dangerous/ Questionable Choices
  • Individuals are aware that love may cause them
    problems.
  • Plato said that love is a grave mental illness,
    and some research suggests that individuals in
    love make risky/dangerous/questionable decisions.

24
Jealousy in Relationships
  • Jealousy can be defined as an emotional response
    to a perceived or real threat to an important or
    valued relationship.
  • Causes of Jealousy
  • External Causes
  • External factors refer to behaviors the partner
    engages in that are interpreted as (1) an
    emotional and/or sexual interest in someone (or
    something) else or (2) a lack of emotional and/or
    sexual interest in the primary partner.

25
Jealousy in Relationships
  • Causes of Jealousy
  • Internal Causes
  • Mistrust
  • Low self-esteem.
  • Being involved and dependent.
  • Lack of perceived alternatives.
  • Insecurity

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Jealousy in Relationships
  • Consequences of Jealousy
  • Jealousy can have both desirable and undesirable
    consequences.
  • Compersion
  • Compersion, describing the situation in which an
    individual feels positive about a partners
    emotional and sexual enjoyment with another
    person, is the opposite of jealousy.
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