Coaching Clinic 101

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Coaching Clinic 101

• EFCA Coaching

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Coaching Clinic 101 Schedule

• 5R Coaching Model EFCA Coaching
• Basic Coaching Skills
• Basic Coaching Tools
• Coaching Relationship

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Everybody Is A Coach!
Monday Morning Pastors??
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Disclaimer

• Giving someone a coachs badge does not qualify
  them to coach.
• Danger One Week Wonders
• Coaching Certification

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Coaching Certification 101

• Coaching Clinic 101
• Read Coaching 101 book
• Complete Empowering Leaders resource kit
• Up/Down coaching relationship
• One year supervised coaching experience
• Monthly 5R Reports
• Annual evaluation
• District recommendation
• National approval

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Importance of Coaching
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A. Sports Title or Ring
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B. Business World

• Research shows that productivity, skill
  development, morale, and working relationships
  all improve dramatically when training is
  combined with coaching.
• Training Alone 22
• Training Coaching 86

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C. Educational World

• Lilly Foundation Study
• Training Alone 10
• Training Coaching 80

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D. Church World

• Southern Baptist Study
• 1997-2002
• 601 Planters
• 4 Year Study
• www.newchurches.com
• Coaching Doubled plant size
• Four Square 33 - 84 Success
• EFCA 60 - 90 Success

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Biblical Example Barnabas

• Barnabas Son of Encouragement
• Acts 432-36
• Acts 923-30
• Acts 1119-26
• Acts 13-14
• Acts 1536-41

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Neighbor Nudge

• Turn to neighbor
• Tell Your story about how God has used a
  Barnabas in your life.
• 1 minute each

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5R Coaching Model
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5R Coaching Model

• Relate
• Reflect
• Refocus
• Resource
• Review

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5R Coaching Guide

• Two Sides Ps. 7872
• Personal
• Ministry
• 5Rs
• Relate
• Reflect
• Refocus
• Resource
• Review

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1. Relate

• Dont skip the small talk
• How are you doing?
• How is your family doing?
• How can I be praying for you?
• What do you want to address?
• How are you and God doing?
• God Wife

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Relate Exercise

• Get with your partner
• Practice relate questions, using this last
  months ministry
• 2 minutes for each person
• Debrief What did you learn?

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2. Reflect

• Where are you?
• You want the coachee to gain perspective
• We need an accurate picture of where we are and
  where we have been
• Mall Map YOU ARE HERE!

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Key Reflection Steps

• Celebrate Progress 3 Goals
• Clarify Direction and Values
• Identify Obstacles

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Five Key Reflection Questions

• What can we celebrate?
• Whats really important?
• What obstacles are you facing?
• Where do you want to go?
• How committed are you?

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Reflection Exercise

• Get with your partner
• Practice reflection questions, using the past
  months ministry
• 5 minutes each person
• Debrief What did you learn?

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3. Refocus

• Refocusing acts as the bridge between good
  intentions and actually realizing those
  intentions. Coaching 101, p. 62
• Refocusing Concrete Steps
• Refocusing is the planning stage
• Its the game plan to get the coachee where he or
  she wants to go

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Five Key Refocusing Questions

• What do you want to accomplish?
• What are possible ways to get there?
• Which path will you choose?
• What will you do?
• How will you measure your progress?

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Refocusing Exercise

• Keep the same partner
• Practice refocusing questions, using this next
  month
• 5 Minutes each person
• Debrief What did you learn?

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4. Resource

• What resources will you need to accomplish your
  goals?
• What resources do you already have?
• What resources are missing?
• Where will you find the resources you need?
• What can I do to support you?
• Goal Leave ball in players hands
• Temptation Become spiritual Shell answer man

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5. Review

• Next Appointment Logistics
• Next Appointment Assignments
• Monthly Routine
• This is the year of Annual BHAG

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Coaching Definition
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Coaching Definition

• C omes alongside
• O bserves carefully
• A sks questions wisely
• C ommunicates options
• H olds accountable

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Coaching Paradigms Pendulums

• Directive
• Telling
• Coach Oriented

• Non Directive
• Self Discovery
• Content free

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EFCA Intentional Coaching

• Coachee Annual Retreat
• MAP Ministry Action Plan
• PGP Personal Growth Plan
• Coachee Monthly Retreat Day
• 5R Report Prepares 5R report for coach
• Coachee Sends 5R report to Coach
• 5R report establishes coaching appointment agenda
• Doubles productivity of coaching appointment
• Keeps ministry ball in leaders hands
• Coach Reviews 5R Report
• Coach adds his comments and questions
• Coach goes to appointment prepared

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EFCA Intentional Coaching

• Balanced Approach
• Not necessarily 50/50
• Art of Coaching
• Coachee Agenda
• Should own the coaching appointment
• Ball needs to stay in players hands
• Coach Game Plan
• Power of Self Discovery
• Power of Great Questions, Listening
• Power of Intentional Living Tools

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Coaching is

• Coaching is getting someone to do what they
  don't want to do,
• in order to become what they want to become.
• Tom Landry

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Cashier Power Of Coaching
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2. Basic Coaching Skills
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Dead Poets Society Coaching
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Review 5R Model

• Relate
• Reflect
• Refocus
• Resource
• Review

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• Two Basic Skills

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Vince Lombardi

• "Gentleman, this is a football."
• Some people try to find things in this game that
  don't exist but football is only two things
  blocking and tackling.

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Lack Basic Skills

• "We can't run. We can't pass. We can't stop the
  run. We can't stop the pass. We can't kick.
• Other than that, we're just not a very good
  football team right now."
• Bruce Coslet, on the Bengals' 1997 season

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Coaching Skills

• There are many coaching skills you will have to
  master.
• But if you cant block (listen) and tackle (ask
  questions), you will never be an effective coach.

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• 1. Listening Skills

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Listening Heart of Coaching

• It is not about you.
• It is not about me.
• Its about them!
• Good coaching isnt the art of giving good
  answers. Its the art of asking good questions.
  (Bob Logan)
• Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
  (Steven Covey)
• He who talks most listens least. (Steve Ogne)

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Ten Commandments of Listening

• Proverbs 1813 says, He who answers before
  listening that is his folly and his shame.
• Listen more than you talk.
• Listen for feelings as well as facts.
• Listen to the spouses of ministry leaders.
• Listen and work with what God is already doing.
• Start with the other persons worldtheir
  context and frame of reference.

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Ten Commandments of Listening

• Listen beyond words for tone of voice and body
  language. Communication is 7 words, 35 tone,
  58 body language.
• Beware of autobiographical responses
  interpreting and advising from your own
  experience.
• Dont be afraid of silence. A pregnant pause
  can give birth to great insights!
• Listen for aha or uh-oh momentsthey are
  turning points.

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Listening as a way of life

• We can hear more by talking less.
• The traditional management tendency of listening
  for about ten seconds and then attempting to fix
  the problem quickly is not necessarily the style
  that works for coaching.
• Listening is not naturally valued by our culture.
• People know they are respected and valued when
  they are listened to.

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Listening Foundational Skill

• . . . a lot of the people were used to
  discipling or advising, so we needed to help them
  make a shift to coachingwhich is listening and
  evoking and asking questions.
• -- Coach Linda Miller

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Level 1 Listening Exercise

• Get with a partner and ask them to describe a
  trip they took, including stories about things
  that went well and things that didnt go so well.
  
• As your partner tells the story of the trip, your
  job is to listen to the words and interpret the
  story entirely in terms of your own experience.
  Interrupt and comment frequently to your partner
  with your own opinion.
• How would you have done the trip differently?
  Whats going on in you while this other person is
  talking? What does this story remind you of in
  your own life? What advice would you give your
  partner? How can you improve on their story?
• Debrief

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Level 2 Listening Exercise

• Switch roles. Have your partner tell their
  vacation story.
• Ask questions, clarify, and articulate what you
  see.
• Be alert to your partners values as they are
  expressed in the story.
• Stay completely focused on your partner by
  listening and responding at Level II.
• Debrief

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Seven Benefits

• People know they are respected and valued when
  they are listened to. 
• Great listening treats people like adultsand
  enhances adult learning.  
• Great listeners hold up a mirror so the leader
  can see themselves in the light of the questions
  theyre answering. 
• Great listening helps provide us with accurate
  informationand helps us move beyond assumptions.
   

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Seven Benefits

•  Great listening builds credibility by
  demonstrating empathy. 
• Great listening creates the focus and clarity of
  self-awareness. 
• Great listening creates ownership and personal
  responsibility.

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Great Listener??
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• 2. Questioning Skills

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Questions Foundational Skill

• Primary listening tool
• is asking good questions.
• It would be easy
• if any old question would do
• but it wont.
• (John Whitmore)

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Why ask questions?

• Good questions help you listen
• Keep us from talking too much
• Helps us gather valuable information
• Demonstrates value for planter
• Follows example of Jesus
• Get the story behind the story

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Jesus Model

• What were some of the great questions Jesus
  asked?
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Good questions

• Are easily understood
• Can be answered briefly (3 minutes)
• Require thought (do not be afraid of silence)
• Enable self disclosure
• Feelings as well as facts
• Encourage reflection refocusing

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Ask dont Tell!

• . . . Awareness and responsibility are better
  raised by asking than by telling.-- John
  Whitmore
• The coach learns the importance of asking
  questions prior to telling or teaching. -- Gary
  Collins

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Turning statements into questions.

• Thats unethical
• Thats a stupid idea!
• Youre not following through
• Your interpersonal skills are weak
• That schedule is unrealistic
• Its not as bad as you think .
• Youre neglecting your family

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Coaching Exercise

• Your childrens ministry leader is overwhelmed.
  You realize she has not built a team and is
  trying to do it all herself.
• Role play using questions to create self
  awareness.

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Coaching For Life
Think of the Potential for Your Ministry!
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3. Basic Coaching Tools
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ABCs of EFCA Coaching

• Coaching is not a stand alone system.
• ABCs of EFCA Movement
• A Assess For Potential
• B Basic Training For Content
• C Coach For Implementation

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A. Assessment Tools
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Ministry Assessment Tools

• Ten Leading Indicators
• Minimum Factor
• MAP Ministry Action Plan

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Personal Assessment Tools
Can also use MBTI, Spiritual Gifts, Profile etc.
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B. Basic Training Tools
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Ministry Training

• Planting BootCamp
• Health Healthy Church Networks
• Students Challenge Sonlife
• Men Top Gun Men With a Purpose
• Women Five Heart Essentials
• Children Kidology
• District National Conferences

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Personal Development Training

• Intentional Living Disciplines
• Annual Retreat 3 Day
• MAP Ministry Plan
• PGP Personal Growth Plan
• Monthly Retreat Day
• Prayer Letter
• 5R Coaching Report
• Calendar Work

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C. Coaching Tools
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1. 5R Coaching Guide

• Two Sides
• Five Rs
• Email Version
• Coaches dont need to use this form, but they do
  need to use this template.

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5R Coaching Process

• Coachee fills out before appointment and sends to
  coach.
• Coach reviews, adds clarifying questions, brings
  to appointment.
• Coach sends to supervisor for additional insight.

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2. Personal Growth Plan

• Call
• Character
• Chemistry
• Competencies
• Capacity
• PGP Powerful coaching tool

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3. MAP Ministry Action Plan

• Purpose statement
• 4-7 KRAs
• KRA Vision
• SWOT analysis
• Timeline
• MAP Powerful coaching tool

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4. Prayer Letter

• Spiritual Dynamic
• 100 Internet Intercessors
• Email Communication
• Prayer Letter Powerful coaching tool

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5. Calendar

• Major planning disconnect between compass and
  clock.
• Overestimate what you can do in short term.
• Underestimate what you can do in long term.
• Timeline Three Monthly Goals
• Plan preparation time
• Coachee Calendar Powerful coaching tool

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6. Coaching Covenant

• Clear, written expectations
• Renewed each year
• Covenant Powerful coaching tool

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7. Coachs Annual Evaluation

• By Coachee
• By Himself
• By Supervisor
• Evaluation Powerful coaching tool

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8. Up/Down Coaching

• Every Coach Should Have a Coach
• Up/Down coaching relationship
• Do not ask a leader to do what you havent done.
  For example
• Intentional Living Disciplines
• Bootcamp Maps
• Church Health Assessment
• Coaching with ministry integrity Powerful
  coaching tool

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9. Web based coaching tools
www.church-planter.org
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Coaching Exercise First Church

• Brian is a youth pastor in his first church.  He
  loves everything about his new role  teaching,
  contacting, events, and leading team meetings. 
  He just cant seem to get enough.  Brians wife
  Lori, who is expecting their first child, often
  feels neglected but she doesnt complain.  Shes
  glad Brian is so happy in his work.  There are
  no real problems at the church, which averages
  around 40 at large group.  However, people seem
  to be willing to let Brian do everything.  The
  student ministries experienced a spurt of growth
  right after Brian came but has now leveled
  off.Recently, a sharp young couple left the
  student ministry to work in the student ministry
  in another church where they felt they could be
  better used.  An assessment revealed that the
  ministries minimum factor is leadership
  development.

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Vending Machine Coaching
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• 4. Coaching Relationship

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REVIEW 5R ABCs

• Assess For Potential
• Basic Training For Content
• Coach For Implementation

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Coaching Blueprint

• Personal Development
• Ministry Development
• Coaching Relationship

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• Four Major Dynamics That Impact The Coaching
  Relationship

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1. How You Begin Relationship
1. Position
3. Spiritual Authority
4. Relational
2. Expert
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Maximize Your Coaching

• Every coaching relationship starts one primary
  way.
• Effective coaches learn how to use all four
  wheels in their coaching relationship.

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Coaches That Dont Get It!
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2. G/T Coaching Balance

• Coaches need to balance Grace and Truth in their
  coaching.
• Jesus John 114
• Coaches usually are naturally unbalanced
• Grace-Givers
• Truth-Tellers

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Brutal Honesty
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Analyze Your G/T Balance
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3. Your Personality Type

• Coachs Personality
• D
• I
• S
• C
• Coachees Personality
• D
• I
• S
• C

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Remember Ds Decide to Coach According to
Their Style!
Lead with options Listen for their
decisions Respect their drive for results
D Coaching a D
Lead with a friendly focus Listen to their
stories Respect their enthusiasm
D Coaching an I
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Lead with slowed, friendly pace Listen
without interrupting Respect their
steadiness
D Coaching an S
S
D Coaching a C
Lead with business support materials Listen for
their logic Respect their consistency
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Remember Is Make Your Fun Actually Work!
Lead with solid options Listen after your open
probe Respect their vision
I Coaching a D
Lead based on your success Listen so they can
talk Respect their interest in people
I Coaching an I
I
Lead with friendly conversation Listen to
their responses Respect their slower pace
I Coaching an S
S
I Coaching a C
Lead with credible follow through Listen for
their expectations Respect their procedures
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Remember Ss Support The System And Their
Style!
Lead showing your purpose Listen for their
decisions Respect their problem-solving
ability
S Coaching a D
Lead based on your success Listen so they can
talk Respect their interest in people
S Coaching an I
S
Lead by your example Listen and affirm
them Respect their
thoughtfulness
S Coaching an S
S Coaching a C
Lead them with validation Listen and
encourage them Respect their conscientiousness
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Remember Cs Warm Up To Coach Them!
Lead with correct options Listen to their plans
and offer suggestions Respect their hard
work
C Coaching a D
Lead with story concepts Listen for a
line of reasoning Respect your written agreement
C Coaching an I
Lead with encouragement Listen for signs of
struggles Respect
their calmness
C Coaching an S
C Coaching a C
Lead by your example Listen for
the larger perspective Respect their
carefulness
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Art Of Coaching

• There is a major difference between the science
  of coaching and the art of coaching.
• Mediocre Coaches Have a system
• Great Coaches Adapt their system to their
  players
• It is critical you understand personality types.

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4. Coaching Lifecycle

• Romance
• Resistance
• Reality
• Resentment
• Resolve
• Rewards

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1. Romance

• My coach is the best!

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2. Resistance- Reality- Resentment - Resolve

• My coach doesnt understand me!

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3. Rewards

• My coach helped me succeed!
• Some day I would like to coach.

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Coaching Certification
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1. Coaching Certification

• Joint Effort
• Church Planting
• Church Health
• Student Ministries
• Mens Ministry
• Anticipate other EFCA ministries joining coaching
  certification process
• EFCA Philosophy Intentional Coaching

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Coaching Certification 101

• Coaching Clinic 101
• Read Coaching 101 book
• Complete Empowering Leaders resource kit
• Up/Down coaching relationship
• One year supervised coaching experience
• Monthly 5R Reports
• Annual evaluation
• District recommendation
• National approval

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CC 101 Trainers Certification

• In local church Permission granted
• In other churches Need trainers certification
• CC 101 Certification
• Plus
• Apprentice train in clinic
• Evaluated as main trainer
• Recommended by district
• Approved by national

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Specific Ministries Licensure

• In addition to Coaching 101 certification, each
  ministry is working on licensure for their
  ministry area.
• For example Church Planting licensure
• In addition to general coaching skills, we want
  church planting coaches to have skills and
  knowledge in five key areas.
• Church Planting Process
• Planter Profile
• Church Planting Principles
• Breaking Barriers
• Model specific coaching

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Future Coaching Developments

• Nov. 2006 in Mexico City
• Spanish Language
• Gene Wilson (RG)
• Luis Martinez (RN)
• 2007 CC 201
• Intermediate Coaching Skills
• 2008 CC 301?
• Advanced Coaching Skills

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Future Coaching

• Coaching Certification has the potential of being
  one of the biggest leadership development tools
  in our EFCA movement.

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Future Coaching

• We are dreaming of the day when every EFCA lay
  leader and every EFCA pastor will be in an
  Up/Down coaching relationship that will leverage
  our EFCA movement to a new level.

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OUR EFCA MOTTO

• No planter left alone
• No staff person left alone
• No ministry leader left alone
• No Reach Global person left alone
• Think of the potential for your ministry!

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Cheeks Powerful Coaching