desert rainbow

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Eating Right, Feeling Good how do I get there
from here?
KC Hayes, DVM, PhD Brandeis University Waltham,
MA
desert rainbow Sedona, AZ April 2001
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Basic assumptions.

• Assumes that we have enough resources to be
  concerned with how best to use them.
• Hunger and poverty are not primary issues.
• Rather we are trying to achieve the most
  meaningful existence in the face of relative
  abundance.
• The Mind/Body connection plays an important role
  in maintaining our balance.

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Behavioral Pyramid to Eating Right, Feeling Good
Food CHO,fat,prot
Our behavior is based on BELIEFS and ATTITUDES
lodged in our primary script.
Exercise body health the Mind/Body connection
Sexuality (love) affection approval
appreciation acceptance

Financial Security power control
assurance driven by our primary script
kc hayes 2006
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Behavioral Pyramid to Eating Right, Feeling Good
Security of all types is the cornerstone of our
pyramid.

Financial Security power control
assurance driven by our primary script
kc hayes 2006
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Financial Security attributes

• Controlling the Fear Factor (anxiety) speaks to
  the heart of daily survival for all species, with
  death as the ultimate fearviewed as the UNTIMELY
  EXIT.
• eg. deprivation of either food or love induces
  great anxiety/fear, as any physical or emotional
  pain sets off automatic alarms in our nervous
  system.
• Having the POWER to control our environment
  and relationships is traditionally thought of as
  security
• eg. consider the history of wars that seek
  dominance by force or the idea
• that we can buy all the food and
  love we want.
• POWER and MONEY can be viewed as shielding the
  EGO against the fear and shame of defeat. But
  both are ultimately glass shields that shatter in
  the face of reality.
• eg. consider the feeling that you have
  everything, but still seek meaning in life.

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FEAR (for survival) drives our behavior by
riding its three dark horses of the night

• of failure (the loser syndrome)
• of being unloved/unlovable
• of being abandoned (loneliness)
• Running out of TIME ushers in the FEAR of
  FAILURE with negative automatic thots (NATS)
  buzzing in our Mind.

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TIME, CONTROL and MONEY

• TIME is MONEYor so its said.
• CONTROLLING my TIME exercises my POWER to secure
  a path on the road to riches (soothing my anxiety
  and placating my EGO) . The EGO likes to think
  it is master of TIME. Its not. Only NATURE (God)
  controls TIME.
• PROCRASTINATION/avoidance (TIME diversion) is a
  way to prevent failure. If you never start
  something, you cannot be accused of failing to
  finish it ON TIME
• Here again we attempt to protect the EGO from
  failure.

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the EGO vs the SOUL

• But deep down it is NOT the EGO (Superficial
  Self) and its story line we seek to satisfy,
  but rather the SOUL, ie. our True Self (feelings
  current) that typically plays second fiddle to
  our dominant EGO.
• Thus all communication has a story line and a
  feelings current that must be reconciled to
  get to feeling good.
• M/B awareness of these considerations and how to
  restructure (rewrite) a defective primary script
  is where one encounters the feeling good aspect
  of living day-to-day.

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Sensory input sights sounds smells
taste touch
Imagination input (thots)
triage
(cerebrum) Story line
EMOTIONS (amygdala, limbic) Feelings current
THOUGHTS
MIND / BODY
union
SOUL 1
Meaningful Communication 1. Story
Line(facts) 2. Feelings Current(like a
river running thru us)
behavior personality
() LOVES (induce healing) (- ) FEARS (inflict
suffering) Based on BEHAVORIAL TRAINING and our
PRIMARY SCRIPT
SOUL 2
() LOVES (- ) FEARS
Living is all about relationships, and how we
relate to each others SOUL.in trust .via
honest communication, or not. If we do it
right, were happy if not, anxiety casts its
shadow on our soul..
SearchForSoul kc hayes 2005
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Soultalk Communication.

• Life is TIME spent. Living is TIME spent in
  community.
• Life without loving is TIME wasted on the
  outskirts of living.

SearchForSoul kc hayes 2005
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Behavioral Pyramid to Eating Right, Feeling Good
To communicate effectively one must become a
loving person..

Sexuality (love) affection approval
appreciation acceptance
Financial Security power control
assurance driven by our primary script
kc hayes 2006
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Sexuality

• Sexuality sits at the very core of our Soul and
  reflects both generic (biological) and learned
  (environmental) behaviors.
• Very complex
• Powerful reproductive aspect (testosterone,
  estrogen)
• Complex social, relational component to ensure
  togetherness (parents, family, social peers,
  self-awareness)
• Basic attributes of Soul characterize our
  sexuality
• () LOVE (joy and interest)
• AGAPE, PHILIA.. ADIKIA, EROS
• (-) FEAR/anger and SADNESS (SHAME)

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Sensory input (touch / pain, eyes, ears, taste,
smell, hunger)
The MIND
(cerebrum)
EMOTION (amygdala, limbic) dopamine,
adrenalin, serontonin, sex hormones
THOUGHTS
(-) negative thoughts FEAR abandoned, failure,
unloved ANGER neglected, deceived SADNESS/griefl
oss distaste poisonous, disgust dis-smell
aversion, foul
DEVELOPMENT Initial Attachments (genetics /
environment)
() positive thoughts JOY INTEREST (LOVE) I
can builds SOUL
shame depression I cantdestroys SOUL

• AGAPE
• PHILIA
• EROS
• ADIKIA

SearchForSoul kc hayes 2005
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TRUTH (wisdom)
Sensory input (touch / pain, eyes, ears, taste,
smell, hunger)
(cerebrum)
EMOTION (amygdala, limbic) dopamine,
adrenalin, serontonin, sex hormones
THOUGHTS
MIND/BODY
(-) negative thoughts FEAR abandon, fail,
unloved ANGER neglected, deceived SADNESS/griefl
oss distaste poisonous, disgust dis-smell
aversion, foul
SOUL spirituality sexuality
LOVE ACTS
BEAUTY
music
art verse trust
DEVELOPMENT Initial Attachments (genetics /
environment)
hope faith grace
() positive thoughts JOY INTEREST (LOVE) I
can builds soul
GOD, NATURE holy, sacred
shame depression I cantdestroys soul

• AGAPE
• PHILIA
• EROS
• ADIKIA

IDENTITY (EGOme/you/others) attach / separate
SearchForSoul kc hayes 2005
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TRUTH (wisdom)
Sensory input (touch / pain, eyes, ears, taste,
smell, hunger)
(cerebrum)
EMOTION (amygdala, limbic) dopamine,
adrenalin, serontonin, sex hormones
THOUGHTS
MIND/BODY
(-) negative thoughts FEAR abandon, fail,
unloved ANGER inattention SADNESS/griefloss dist
aste poisonous dis-smell aversion
SOUL spirituality sexuality
LOVE ACTS
BEAUTY
music
art verse trust
DEVELOPMENT Initial Attachments (genetics /
environment)
hope faith grace
() positive thoughts JOY INTEREST (LOVE) I
can builds soul
GOD, NATURE holy, sacred
shame depression I cantdestroys soul

• AGAPE
• PHILIA
• EROS
• ADIKIA

Communication thru listening, prayer,
meditation
INTIMACY (vulnerabilityempathy) Affection,
Ethical communication, Inclusion / Exclusion
IDENTITY (EGOme / you / others) attach / separate
RELATIONSHIPS ..TRUST art of listening for
the echo of ones soul in that of another
SearchForSoul kc hayes 2005
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Behavioral Pyramid to Eating Right, Feeling Good

Exercise body health the Mind/Body connection
Sexuality (love) affection approval
appreciation acceptance
Financial Security power control assurance
kc hayes 2006
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Exercise.

• Maintains body functions and normal physiology
  .including stress control. Energy utilization
  and total energy balance are key.
• Mental capacity and body functions are enhanced
  in direct proportion to exercise. 1-2h walk per
  day is ideal.
• Helps control fear/anxiety (NATS)
  ....depression.
• The Mind/Body connection converges where thoughts
  intersect with the emotional centerbalanced and
  refreshed by exercise.
• Meditation/prayer are a means of facilitating the
  M/B connection by suppressing our negative
  automatic thots (NATS) thru self-awareness and
  communication between EGO and SOUL.

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Input from senses, thots
Output Words Acton Body language
Superficial self Unconscious, Defensive Thots
driven by assumed (false neg) beliefs
Personality/Behavior
EGO
Mind
Thots.Feelings
Primary Script
Conflict zone creates anxiety
True self Conscious Awareness based on true
beliefs The NOW...in-the-moment presence
Enlightenment
refined, essential emotions
Soul reality Love-Joy Peace
The duality and tension between Mind Thots (EGO)
and Soul Beliefs (reality of what is) is the
root of ALL conflict in life, resulting in
anxiety. ENLIGHTENMENT occurs when fusion is
achieved and the EGO assumes SOUL beliefs, ie.
your personality is in step with reality, the
honest YOU. The trick in life is acknowledging
Whats Real, ie. telling yourself and others
the Truth, then moving to accept it in your
behavior. The Mind and Resistance (to reality)
are synonymous. Only by accepting the reality of
What is can we free the Mind from dominance by
EGO (Superficial Self) and be in touch with the
Soul (True Self), ie. EGO thots (past and future)
cease to exist and you are present in the NOW
(in-the-moment awareness) without anxiety or
worry. One must suffer (emotional pain) to
overcome Resistance and experience new growth
patterns. Grow with the flow. Do not linger in
the past (with regrets) nor dwell on the future
(for salvation). Both are illusions. The only
reality is NOW, where all living takes place.
Learn to live openly and positively in the NOW,
and the future will take care of itself..after
Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie.
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Behavioral Pyramid to Eating Right, Feeling Good

Food CHO, fat, prot
Exercise body health the Mind/Body connection
Sexuality (love) affection approval
appreciation acceptance
Financial Security power control assurance
kc hayes 2006
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USDA Dietary guidelines2005

• Fuel for the body is necessary, but need balance
  and moderation.
• Balance food and physical activity
• Eat a variety from all groups
• Choose nutrient dense foods
• Read labels
• Limit saturated fat, cholesterol, salt, sugars
• Take care when eating out
• 100 calories/day equals10lb/year

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USDA Food Pyramid
(ambiguous, not very instructive or
self-explanatory)
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Willett, WC Eat, Drink, and Be Healthy
2001,2005
Harvard School of Public Health Food Pyramid
Calories inenergy burned CHO as whole grains
(fiber) Fatprotein ratio calories Phytochemical
s Calcium/vitaminD n6/n3 fatty acids (no
trans!) Folic acid/vitB12/vitA/vitC
High glycemic index
beans, lentils, peas, soybeans
phytochemicals
oats, whole wheat, brown rice
aerobic, anerobic
weigh scales
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Summary

• Wellness is a complex construct based on feeling
  secure
• Security can be traced to support, especially
  love (agape)
• The M/B connection keeps the EGO in touch with
  reality (the Truth) of soul needs (True Self)
• Good Nutrition and Exercise (eating right, energy
  balance) are key components of M/B wholeness
  (feeling good)

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Be wellalways remember I care
So it is that Love, disguised as many
things, arrives unheralded, yet enduring, like
the flowers in the Spring. from Susans
Smile kchayes 2004