Relationship Strategies

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Relationship Strategies

• Your Communications Workshop

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Communication Styles

• Goals of Understanding Communications Styles
• 1. Remove personal tension.
• 2. To identify actions which bother others.
• 3. To learn to gain social endorsement from
  others.

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Communication Styles

• The effort a person makes to be unemotional and
  self controlled in relationships with others.
• Social Profile a way of stereotyping the
  description of a person. It is designed as a
  practical stereo-type.

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Communication Styles

• The profile is
• 1. helpful in overcoming existing bias about
  behavior because it is a way of understanding
  behavior.
• 2. not a measure of emotional or social fitness
  related to mental health.

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Communication Styles

• 3. not a model of good or bad behavior.
• 4. not an indication of whether an individual is
  likeable or unappealing.
• 5. not an indication of whether an individual is
  successful or unsuccessful.

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Communication Styles

• Dominance the efforts a person makes to
  influence the thinking and actions of others.
• Dominance Scale
• Low High

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Communication Styles

• Low Dominance Behavior
• easygoing, unimposing to others, asks questions
  and listens but may not talk unless there is a
  specific reason to do so, reserved.

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Communication Styles

• High Dominance Behavior
• Takes social initiative, likes to know whats
  going on and takes actions to find out, talks a
  lot with others even when it may not be their
  business to do so, is bold and tends to take
  charge.

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Communication Styles

• Sociability the tendency to seek out
  interaction with others and to express feelings
  easily and often.

High
Low
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Communication Styles

• High Sociability Behavior
• Informal, easy going, friendly, emotional,
  personal, talkative, open, informal dresser,
  impulsive, communicates freely, revealing,
  dramatic, permissive, easy to get to know.

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Communication Styles

• Low Sociability Behavior
• Restrained, self disciplined, calculating,
  conservative, cool, impersonal, business like,
  tailored dress, disciplined attitudes, measured
  opinions, guarded, difficult to get to know,
  demanding of self others, cautious communicator.

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Communication Styles

• Four Primary Communication Styles
• Directive
• Emotive
• Supportive
• Reflective

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Communication Styles
High
Supportive Emotive
Sociability
Low
High
Dominance
Reflective Directive
Low
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Communication Styles

• Directive
• Control Specialist
• Combines power with emotional control in
  relationships.
• Back Up Style
• Autocratic

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Communication Styles

• Words to Describe a Directive
• Aggressive
• Intense
• Serious
• Demanding
• Frank
• Opinionated
• Impatient
• Decision Maker

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Communication Styles

• Emotive
• Social Specialist
• Combines personal power with emotional expression
  in relationships.
• Back Up Style
• Attacking

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Communication Styles

• Words to Describe an Emotive
• Sociable
• Stimulating
• Personable
• Wants to be liked
• Spontaneous
• Emotional
• Persuasive

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Communication Styles

• Supportive
• Supportive Specialist
• Combines personal reserve with emotional
  expression in relationships.
• Back Up Style
• Compliant

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Communication Styles

• Words to Describe a Supportive
• Lighthearted
• Passive
• Warm
• Patient
• Sensitive
• Compliant

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Communication Styles

• Reflective
• Technical Specialist
• Combines personal reserve with emotional control
  in relationships.
• Back Up Style
• Avoiding

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Communication Styles

• Words to Describe a Reflective
• Deliberate
• Questioning
• Preoccupied
• Scientific
• Serious
• Industrious

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Communication Styles

• What Others Say About Directives
• If They Like You
• Determine
• Requiring
• Thorough
• If They Dont Like You
• Pushy
• Severe
• Dominating

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Communication Styles

• What Others Say About Emotives
• If They Like You
• Personable
• Stimulating
• Enthusiastic
• If They Dont Like You
• Manipulative
• Promotional
• Excitable

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Communication Styles

• What Others Say About Supportives
• If They Like You
• Responsive
• Easy Going
• Concern for Others
• If They Dont Like You
• Soft Hearted
• Complying
• Retiring

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Communication Styles

• What Others Say About Reflectives
• If They Like You
• Industrious
• Persistent
• Serious
• If They Dont Like You
• Stuffy
• Exacting
• Critical

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Communication Styles

• Anticipating Actions Toward Others
• Communicative, Warm, Approachable

Cooperative
Competitive

• Uncommunicative, Cool, Independent

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Communication Styles

• Anticipating Actions Relating to Time
• Undisciplined

Slow
Fast

• Disciplined

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Communication Styles

• Anticipating Actions Relating to Decision Making
• Uses Opinions

Avoids Risk
Takes Risks

• Uses Facts

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Position Power
• Using your position to get things done. (parent,
  teacher, supervisor)
• Task Structure
• The amount of organization used.

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Relationship Ability
• Socially relating to other people

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Directive
• Decrease Position Power
• Decrease Task Structure
• Increase Relationship Ability

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Emotive
• Decrease Position Power
• Increase Task Structure
• Decrease Relationship Ability

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Supportive
• Increase Position Power
• Increase Task Structure
• Decrease Relationship Ability

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Communication Styles

• Ways to Get Things Done With Communication Styles
• Reflective
• Increase Position Power
• Decrease Task Structure
• Increase Relationship Ability

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Communication Styles

• Developing Communication Style Flexibility
• Style flexing is the deliberate attempt to
  accommodate the needs of the other person.

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Communication Styles

• You are attempting to communicate with the other
  person on his/her own style.
• Try to determine the other persons
  most-preferred style as quickly as possible to
  adjust your own accordingly.

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Communication Styles

• Words of Caution
• Look for additional information about a person
  versus just placing a label on them.
• Do not let your own label make you inflexible.

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Communication Styles

• Do not let labels inhibit you from effective
  communications with others.