Relationship Wheel

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Relationship Wheel

• Human Behavior
• Relationships

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The Wheel

• Building and developing a relationship does not
  happen automatically when two people meet.
• The relationship grows and flourishes as the
  people come together and relate to each other.
• Thus building a relationship with another person
  is basically the process of developing feelings
  and interactions between the two of you.

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The Wheel

• Contains four spokes which represent the four
  steps of relationship building.
• Rapport
• Self-revelation
• Mutual dependency
• Need fulfillment
• Take the following notes inside each spoke

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Rapport

• Feeling you get when you are at ease with another
  person
• Good rapport leads to more interactions
• Poor rapport makes it unlikely that you will want
  to continue the relationship

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Self-revelation

• As you build rapport you open up to that person
  and tell more about yourselfcalled
  self-revelation
• Revealing feelings, experience, and attitudes

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Mutual dependency

• You learn each others habits
• You learn to depend on the other person to talk
  and laugh with, go places with or rely on

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Needs fulfillment

• You begin to get respect, confidence and love or
  affection from the relationship
• If you both fulfill each others needs the
  relationship grows

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Brainstorm

• List of all the possible personal needs that you
  think could be met through relationships with
  others

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Going backwards

• The wheel can also move in the opposite
  direction, causing the destruction of the
  relationship
• Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone leads
  to self-revelation that causes arguments or bad
  feelings. This is likely to cause less
  self-revelation. In turn, you rapport will
  decrease and fewer of your needs will be met.

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Intimacy Ladder

• Human Behavior
• Relationships

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Draw the ladder

• Draw the ladder on the back of your page

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Intimacy ladder

• People climb the ladder as they build
  relationships with others. Each rung on the
  ladder describes one way of being close, or
  intimate, with another person.

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Intellectual intimacy

• Conversation, share ideas and thoughts
• Keep it non-personal

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Physical intimacy

• Comfortable with closeness and may touch another
  person
• Slap on the back, holding hands, etc. (doesnt
  have to be sexual)

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Emotional intimacy

• To be completely natural and show feelings
• Get rid of defenses
• Receive understanding, affection and support from
  each other
• Trust each other and share most private feelings
  and ideas