Forging the Leader- Follower Connection

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Forging the Leader-Follower Connection

• Dr. Mardy Grothe
• www.drmardy.com

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The Role of Big Ideasin Leadership Life

• There is nothing more powerful than
• an idea whose time has come. Victor Hugo
• How Receptive Are You to New Ideas?
• Teachable Moment -- Maximum receptivity to new
  ideas
• When written in Chinese, the word crisis is
  composed of two . . .
• When the student is ready, a teacher will
  appear.

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Big Leadership Ideas From History

• Confucius "Don't be concerned that the people
  don't know you..."
• Lao-Tzu "To lead the people..."
• The Talmud "Happy is the time when the great..."
• Jesus (Matthew 2311) "The greatest among you
  shall..."
• Napoleon "A leader is..."
• Carl Jung "The true leader is..."

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Meeting vs. Not Meeting Deep Human Needs

• A Fragile Connection Between Leaders and
  Followers.
• People have deep human needs they are not
  consciously aware of.
• When leaders meet these needs, a connection is
  forged
• when they don't . . .
• People in power are liable to sin more . . .
  Little Murders
• A small sin committed by a great person. . .
  
• Few people see genius in someone . . .

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Five Deep Human Needs

• ACKNOWLEDGMENT The need to be known as a unique
  person
• RECOGNITION The need to be viewed as someone
  with talent/skill
• APPRECIATION The need to be valued, esteemed,
  highly regarded
• INSPIRATION The need to be lifted up by a noble
  goal or vision
• MEETING A CHALLENGE The need to prove our worth
  to self others

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The Need To Be Acknowledged

• THE NAME GAME
• If you remember my name you pay me a subtle
  compliment . . .
• The most important word in the language is a
  persons first name.
• Thinging People
• We all have an invisible sign hanging from our
  necks . . .
• Making Deposits into Emotional Bank Accounts

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The Needs for Recognition Appreciation

• A Self-Assessment Question How Good Am I at
  Regularly Giving
• Praise, Compliments, and Other Forms of Positive
  Feedback?
• I can live for two months on one good
  compliment.
• The deepest principle of human nature is the
  craving...
• The greatest compliment that was ever paid
  me...
• The Ten-Penny Technique, LARA Log,
  Hand-Written Notes

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Application To Home Family Life

• Little Murders with Spouses Children
• Gazing Behavior and SNAG Mode
• Grazing Glazing Behavior and Cadaverous
  Listening
• The first duty of love is . . .
• The most important thing a father can do for his
  children is . . .
• Treat me like a client.

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The Needs to be Inspired Challenged

• The Latin root spir means to breathe life into.
  
• Where there is no vision, the people..." Book
  of Proverbs
• What is your dream/purpose/lofty goal/master
  passion?
• A mans reach should exceed his grasp . . .
• Make no little plans they have no magic to . .
  .
• Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown into
  flame by

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Becoming an Extraordinary Leader

• The secret of a successful organization is
  getting ordinary . . .
• A superior who works on his own development sets
  an
• almost irresistible example. Peter Drucker
• Do You have a BHAG?
• A Self-Assessment Question What Are 3 Things I
  Need To Do...

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Embarking on aMeaningful Discovery Process

• Identifying your Circle of Trust
• Strengths, LARA, Weaknesses, ANI, Fatal
  Flaws/Achilles
• Heels, Goals (including Stretch Goals)
• To see ourselves as others see us . . .
• The Power of Transformational Feedback

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Becoming a Thought Leader in Your Firm or
Family

• Every Day, post an Inspirational or
  Thought-Provoking
• Quote of the Day in a Prominent Location
• Also Add a Memorable Quotation to Your e-mail
  Signature Line
• Daily Reminders of Big Ideas and Powerful Life
  Themes
• Become Especially Important During Teachable
  Moments
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Forging the Leader-Follower Connection

• Dr. Mardy Grothe
• www.drmardy.com