NVC Process

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NVC Process
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When to Use NVC

• Whenever you witness yourself or others
• Judging
• Experiencing unpleasant feelings
• Experiencing unpleasant behaviors

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How does NVC work?

• 2 Parts
• Expressing
• Listening

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How does NVC work?

• 4 Components of NVC Process Includes
• Observation
• Feelings
• Needs
• Requests

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How does NVC work?
Expressing with honesty observation feelings
needs requests
Listening with empathy observation feelings
needs requests
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How does NVC work?

• AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION
• OBSERVATION
• I observe the facts or the trigger What is the
  other doing, not doing, saying, not saying that
  contributes, or not, to my well-being
• Example When I see your socks on the table.

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How does NVC work?

• AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION
• 2. FEELINGS
• I express my feelings in relation to my
  observation
• Example When I see your socks on the table, I
  feel really upset.

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How does NVC work?

• AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION
• 3. NEEDS
• I express my needs that I satisfied or not
• Example When I see your socks on the table, I
  feel really upset because I need some support and
  collaboration for maintaining this house clean.

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How does NVC work?

• AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION
• 4. REQUEST
• I express a clear request for action or for
  connection. (What can the other do to make my
  life more enjoyable?)
• Example
• Request for action Would you be willing to take
  your socks and put them in the washing machine?
• Request for connection Would you be willing to
  tell me how you feel about it?

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How does NVC work?

• EMPATHIC LISTENING
• OBSERVATION
• I guess the facts that trigger the other What I
  am doing, not doing, saying, not saying that
  contributes, or not, to your well-being
• Ex When you see my socks on the table.

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How does NVC work?

• EMPATHIC LISTENING
• FEELINGS
• I guess your feelings in relation to my
  observation
• Ex When you see my socks on the table, do you
  feel really upset.

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How does NVC work?

• EMPATHIC LISTENING
• NEEDS
• I guess your needs that are satisfied or not
• Ex When you see my socks on the table, do you
  feel really upset because you need some support
  and collaboration for maintaining this house
  clean.

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How does NVC work?

• EMPATHIC LISTENING
• REQUEST I guess the other persons clear request
  for action or for connection. (What can I do to
  make your life more enjoyable?)
• Request for action Would you like me to take my
  socks and put them in the washing machine?
• Request for connection Would you like to know
  how I feel about it?

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The NVC Dance
FINDING CREATIVE SOLUTIONS TO MEET EVERYONES
NEEDS
EXPRESSING WITH HONESTY
LISTENING WITH EMPATHY