The Bully, The Bullied, and The Bystander

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The Bully, The Bullied, and The Bystander

• Chapters 7 9
• Melinda Boone, Beate Correa, Tammie Donohoe, and
  Kasey Silva

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Chapter 7Is There a Bullied Kid in the House?

• Dos
• Validation
• Not blame
• Can do
• Report

• Donts
• Explain behavior
• Rush to solve
• Avoidance
• Fight back
• Confront alone

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Difference between telling and tattling

• Telling-
• Tattling-

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Negotiation and conflict resolution skills

• Problem solving
• Identify and define
• Options
• Evaluate
• Choose
• Plan
• Evaluate solution

• Peaceful resolutions
• Identify
• Contribution
• Resolution
• Concessions
• Ask

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Chapter 8From Bystander to Witness

• There are no innocent bystanders!
• 9 excuses to stand up against bullying
• My friend
• Not my problem
• Not my friend
• Loser
• Deserves it
• Toughen up
• Name calling
• In-group
• Pain in the brain

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Moving in the right direction

• 4 reasons kids may not help
• Getting hurt
• Target
• Situation worse
• Not know

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Sharing, caring, helping, and serving

• 3 principles foster moral independence
• Responsibility
• Confidence
• Evaluate
• Take the risk to tell 3Rs
• Recognize
• Refuse
• Report

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Chapter 9Caring schools, involved communities

• Effective anti-bullying policies
• Positive statement
• Define bullying
• Responsibility
• Encouragement
• Proposal
• Evaluate

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Optimal intervention school wide component

• Gather information
• Establish rules
• Training
• Supervision
• Improve awareness

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Additional information

• Zero tolerance zero thinking
• School climate and culture
• Cliques
• Rewriting the Script