Title: Safe Environment Training for Staff and Volunteers Keeping Boundaries
1Safe Environment Training for Staff and
VolunteersKeeping Boundaries
2Recommendations for Keeping Boundaries
- Do not stay alone in a room with a child/youth
unless there is a window permitting others to see
in or the door is open. - Do think before you act. Ask yourself how
someone else might perceive what you are doing.
If the child /youth leaves your room or other
area and claims child abuse, a closed area with
no visual access would leave little room for
defense.
3Discussion Question
Do not stay alone with a child/youth Discuss
ideas on ways to meet with a student that can be
Confidential but not put you or the youth at
risk, e.g. far end of the lunch room, library,
gymnasiumetc.
4Keeping Boundaries
- Do not allow children/youth to become overly
friendly or familiar with you. They shouldnt be
calling you by your first name or nickname. - There is a difference between being
friendly and being friends with children/youth.
Boundaries between adults and young persons must
be enforced. Insisting on proper titles is one
way to keep boundaries.
5Discussion Question
- Do not allow children /youth to become overly
friendly - Reflect on what you like
-
- How would you like to be addressed and how does
this fit in your situation. - Discuss your comfort level of using a title and
practice using title for development of comfort.
6Keeping boundaries
- Do not engage in private correspondence with
students. If you receive personal communication
from a child/youth and the communication is not
appropriate, keep a copy of the communication and
do not respond unless you have received
permission from a supervisor. -
- It is not uncommon for a child/youth to develop
crushes and try to communicate on a peer level.
If one receives such communication, it is best
not to respond and report the occurrence to ones
supervisor for everyones protection.
7Discussion Question
- Do not engage in private correspondence
- Discuss examples of situations that may come up.
i.e. -
- Example RE Coordinator Tom receives a letter
at home from Jane who thanks him for the extra
help on her religion project. She says she thinks
he is a wonderful teacher. What do you do with
this letter? - Example Youth Minister Jim gets a bouquet of
flowers delivered to his home from Jane and her
mom thanking him for the extra help. What
should he do about this?
8Keeping Boundaries
- Do not visit children/youth in their homes unless
their parents are present. - Being alone with young persons can give an
appearance of impropriety. Many accusations of
sexual abuse are alleged to have occurred when
adults were present in the home of a child/youth
when parents were absent. In particular, if there
is no one home other than the child/youth, it
becomes a question of your word against the
child/youth, if an allegation of misconduct is
made.
9Discussion Question
- Do not visit children/youth in their homes
- Religion Teacher Jane makes an appointment to
- visit Tom and his parents at their home
because - of serious concerns about Toms performance.
- When Jane arrives, Tom is there but not his
- parents. What does Jane do? Discuss.
- Jane invites Youth Minister Tom to her house
to - work on a volunteer project along with other
- students from class. What does Tom do?
10Keeping Boundaries
- Do not invite children/youth to your home.
- For the same reason as the previous slide do not
invite children/youth into your home unless other
adults are present.
11Discussion Question
Do not invite children/youth to your home Its
nearing the end of the year and as a religion
teacher you are feeling generous because its
been a very good year for your class. You live
on a lake and want to invite the children to your
house for swimming and dinner. Is this all
right? Youth minister Jane has not felt well and
is home but there is a big event coming up at the
end of the week and you think Tom needs some
special help. You invite him to come to your
house after school for an hour. Discuss. Which
is a better situation? Two adults unrelated in
home where students are present or a husband and
wife?
12Keeping Boundaries
- Do not transport students in your vehicle.
-
- Obviously, there exists the same problematic
situation of an adult being alone with a child or
youth. In addition, the adult may assume
personal liability for any accident or injury.
It can be very tempting to respond to a
child/youths request for a ride home, but a
better approach is to wait in an open area until
transportation arrives.
13Discussion Question
Do not transport students in your vehicle
Could two adults be in a car with students?
14Keeping Boundaries
- Do not take the role of surrogate parent with a
student. - Educators, catechists, or volunteers should not
take on the role of a parent when they are with
children/youth.
15Discussion Question
Do not take the role of surrogate parent
Example Tommy loves to help Religion Teacher
Jane after class. She likes him and after the
project is finished plays a game with him. Tommy
tells her about how lonely he is because Mom and
Dad are always busy. What should she do?
16Keeping Boundaries
- Do not give students your home or cell phone
number without the permission and knowledge of
your supervisor. - While it is true that many numbers are listed in
the phone book and are readily available, it is
prudent to not give such information unless ones
supervisor is informed. In the event of an
allegation of abuse, the giving of ones personal
phone numbers to children/youth can raise a
specter of questions.
17Discussion Question
Do not give students your home or cell phone
number Youth Minister Jane is working on a
special project with five of her students. They
are all busy people with extra curricular
activities. The project is due in two days.
Youth Minister Jane wants them to report to her
on each step but there is no time to see them in
the day. Can she give them her home or cell
number?
18Keeping Boundaries
- Do not communicate with children/youth from your
home e-mail address. - One should always communicate with
children/youth from ones school or parish e-mail
address rather than a personal e-mail.
19Discussion Question
Do not communicate with children/youth from your
home e-mail address Example Its a Saturday
and Youth Minister Tom is on his computer working
on a project for the church. An e-mail comes to
him from Jane asking if she should turn her
registration for a youth event in on Monday.
What should Youth Minister Tom do?
20Keeping Boundaries
- If you hire a child/youth to work for you, inform
your supervisor. - The reason for this is to avoid any situation of
impropriety. Think about it. What defense does
a person have if he or she drives home a
babysitter and he or she alleges abuse?
21Discussion Question
If you hire a child/youth to work for you
Discuss different possibilities for hiring a
student and the possibilities for boundary
violations.
22Keeping Boundaries
- E-mail and instant messaging are examples of the
blessing and curse that technology brings.
Teachers, catechists and volunteers must
understand that there is no privacy on the
Internet. The same boundary issues that must be
respected in oral communication, must be
respected in written ones, particularly when
e-mail is involved. Ask yourself
23- How would I feel if this correspondence suddenly
ended up on the front page of the newspaper or on
the evening news?
24Ten Guidelines for appropriate use of e-mail
- 1. Never use your home or personal e-mail
account. - 2. Always remember you are a professional not a
child/youths friend or buddy. - 3. Communicate only about matters that deal with
school or religious education. Most especially,
avoid any communication that might be construed
as having sexual overtones. Do not reply to any
such e-mail from a child/youth make a copy of
such inappropriate communication and notify your
supervisor.
25Guidelines (cont.)
- 4. Write as though you are certain others will
read what you write. Remember a message can be
shared with a simple push of a button. - 5. Remember there is no such thing as a private
e-mail. - 6. Do not use instant messaging. Do not put
students on your buddy list. Remember people
can make copies of instant messages and they can
come back to haunt you.
26Guidelines (cont.)
- 7. Ask yourself If my supervisor or anyone
asked to see this communication, would I be
embarrassed by what I have written? If the
answer is yes, dont send the e-mail. - 8. Remember when you are e-mailing a child/youth,
you are e-mailing someones child. How would you
feel if your child received the e-mail you are
about to send? - If you think your e-mail might somehow be
misunderstood, dont send it.
27Guidelines (cont.)
- 9. Remember - boundaries must be respected in
written correspondence as well as in oral
communication. - 10.Finally, e-mail can be misinterpreted. Before
sending an e-mail, ask yourself if someone
reading it, might read something into it that
you didnt intend. Communicate in person
whenever possible. - Text messaging with cell phones can cause the
same concerns as instant messaging (or e-mail) on
the computer.
28Credits
- This powerpoint was developed with permission
from - Mary Angela Shaughnessy , SCN, J.D., PhD. Based
on her book - The Law and Catholic Schools A Guide to Legal
Issues for the Third Millennium -
- National Catholic Education Association 2005
29Who to call to report suspected abuse
- Diocesan Victims Assistance Coordinator
- Thomas P. Keaveny, MSW-LICSW
- (320) 761-5963
- Diocesan Victims Advocates
- Rev. Tim Baltes (320) 251-4831
- Rita Clasemann (320) 679-1593
- Nancy Fandel (320) 685-7507
- Tom Klecker (320) 253-2866
- Rev. Patrick Riley (320) 650-1653
- Dolores Sauer (218) 736-3592