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Title: Love and the Development of Sexual Relationships


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Love and the Development of Sexual Relationships
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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Eros (romantic love). Place their emphasis on
    physical beauty as they search for ideal mates.
    Erotic lovers delight in the visual beauty and
    tactile/sensual pleasures provided by their
    lovers bodies.


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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Ludis (game playing). Play the field and acquire
    many sexual conquests with little or no
    commitment. Love is for fun, the act of
    seduction is to be enjoyed and relationships are
    to remain casual and transitory.


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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Mania (possessive love). Inclined to seek
    obsessive love relationships that are often
    characterized by turmoil and jealousy. These
    people live a roller-coaster style of love where
    each display of affection from the lover brings
    ecstasy, whereas the mildest slight produces
    painful agitation.


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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Storge (companionate love). Slow to develop
    affection and commitment but tend to experience
    relationships that endure. This style is love
    without fever or turmoil a peaceful and quiet
    kind of relating that usually begins as
    friendship and develops over time into affection
    and love.


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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Agape (altruistic love). Characterized by
    selflessness and a caring, compassionate desire
    to give to another without expectation of
    reciprocity. Such love is patient and never
    demanding or jealous.


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What is Love ?
  • Lees Styles of Loving (1974)
  • Pragma (pragmatic love) Inclined to select lovers
    based on rational, practical criteria (e.g.,
    shared interests) that are likely to lead to
    mutual satisfaction. These individuals approach
    love in a business like fashion by trying to get
    the best romantic deal by seeking partners with
    social, educational, religious, and interest
    patterns that are compatible with their own.


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What is Love ?
  • Romantic love
  • The dramatic, passionate form of love that has
    been celebrated in story and verse throughout
    history.
  • Tennov coined the word limerence to describe the
    most intense forms of romantic love


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What is Love ?
  • Romantic love
  • The romantic love cycle
  • Often begins with, but not always, a stage of
    receptivity toward love or love readiness.
  • The falling in love stage usually flows into a
    stage of being in love, marked by optimism,
    elation, and a sense of permanency.


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What is Love ?
  • Romantic love
  • The romantic love cycle
  • This stage is usually short-lived, giving way to
    a transitional period in which lovers first
    notice imperfections and faults, encounter
    boredom, impatience, or frustration, and begin
    testing each other.
  • This phase generates conflict, which may be
    resolved (maintaining the relationship),m
    temporarily shelved (in an uneasy truce), or
    cause a falling out of love.


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What is Love ?
  • Romantic Love Cycle


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What is Love ?
  • Companionate Love
  • The reality-based love without the passions of
    romantic love but with a better durability.


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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle
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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle
  • Passion The motivational component that fuels
    romantic feelings, physical attraction, and
    desire for sexual interaction. Passion instills
    a deep desire to be united with the loved one.
    In a sense passion is like an addiction, because
    its capacity to provide intense stimulation and
    pleasure can exert a powerful craving in a
    person.


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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle
  • Intimacy The emotional component of love that
    encompasses the sense of being bonded with
    another person. It includes feelings of warmth,
    sharing, and emotional closeness. Intimacy also
    embraces a willingness to help the other and an
    openness to sharing private thoughts and feelings
    with the beloved.


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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle
  • Commitment The thinking or cognitive aspect of
    love. It refers to the conscious decision to
    love another and to maintain a relationships over
    time in spite of difficulties that may arise.


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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle

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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle

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What is Love ? Sternbergs Triangle

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Love as Attachment
  • Shaver, Hazan Bradshaw (1988) have proposed
    adult love relationships are remarkably similar
    to attachment behavior between an infant and its
    parents.
  • The use exactly the same terms to describe adult
    relationships as does Ainsworth, 1978)
  • Secure. Dont worry about being abandoned or
    about having some get too close to them.

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Love as Attachment
  • Avoidant. Uncomfortable about being too close to
    someone else and have trouble trusting a lover
    completely.
  • Anxious/ambivalent. Insecure about
    relationships. They tend to worry that their
    partners dont really love them or wont want to
    stay with them they are often so intense and
    overbearing in their love that they scare
    partners away.

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Love as Attachment
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The Biological Side of Love
  • Evolutionary biologists point out that
    reproductive success may at least partly be
    linked to love.
  • Hundreds of centuries ago, successful
    reproduction hinged on two factors
  • genetic diversity to ensure the health of
    offspring, and
  • the mans closeness to his sexual partner during
    pregnancy and the infancy of their newborn child
    to provide protection and food and to help in
    child rearing

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The Biological Side of Love
  • A second type of evidence suggests that how we
    distinguish between love, anger, jealousy,
    nervousness, and other emotions is not based on
    our bodily reaction only (since the responses may
    be identical) but rather on the way we interpret
    or label what we are experiencing (Schacter,
    1964).
  • Love may have a biological basis, but love is
    most importantly a psychosocial phenomenon.

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Love and Sex
  • Men and Women Two Opposing Views
  • Traditionally women were taught that love is a
    requirement for sex, while males were urged to
    obtain sexual experience whether or not love was
    present.
  • Today, although restrictions have loosened even
    more for some, many heterosexual couples still
    need a statement of love before they feel morally
    comfortable with the idea of going all the way.

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Love and Sex
  • Sex without Love/Love without Sex
  • In our culture, love is closely linked to sex and
    marriage, but either can exist without love.
  • Personal decisions about sex are best made on the
    basis of individual values and beliefs, including
    examining and establishing a priority between two
    values that may conflict.

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Feelings About Sex Without Love
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Husbands
21
27
(3,608)
37
22
41
Wives
(3,601)
Male Cohabitors
72
16
12
(650)
Female Cohabitors
67
13
20
(648)
79
7
14
Gay Men
(1,915)
57
24
19
Lesbians
(1,554)
Do not approve of Sex without Love
Approve of Sex Without Love
Neutral
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