Overcoming low self esteem: Key to Successful Relationships

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Overcoming Low Self Esteem Key to Successful
Relationshipswww.overcominglowselfesteem.com
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• Overcoming low self esteem is important for a
  successful marriage for this can be the reason of
  success or the cause of failure in a
  relationship. Most of us are familiar with the
  emotional necessities and how they relate to our
  partners. There are also various reasons that
  could ruin a relationship, but if we would look
  closely on each one of them, we would be able to
  see that they would all go down to one root Low
  Self Esteem.

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• I have once been in a relationship that was
  manipulated by the compulsive and disastrous
  effects of low self esteem. I was only 16 when I
  met John and he was 23. He was kind and caring
  and he told me things that swept me off my feet.
  We were young, wild and carefree. But those days
  disappeared in a snap, because just over a year
  later, I became a mother.

• Moving in with John was grueling, but I was sure
  and excited about it. We lived in an old
  dilapidated building with our newborn daughter
  but I was alright about it because I love him and
  it is the only thing he could afford for us. We
  started to be okay, we havent got much, but we
  were doing just fine or so I thought we were
  until low self esteem took hold of my family and
  my life.

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• Since I havent finished school and I have to
  look after my child, John was the one providing
  our needs. Though his income was never really
  enough, I was okay with it. But then I started to
  notice things changed between us. He began
  pestering me about not having to provide anything
  for the family and then he started telling me
  that he regret we met because I was just dragging
  his life. This drastically lowered down my
  already low self esteem. Eventually, his verbal
  insults turned into physical, sexual and
  emotional abuse and this went on for years. My
  life because I was afraid he would leave me and I
  might not be able to survive because I am weak
  and no one would ever want to be with a
  disgraceful girl like me.

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• Soon, I started my journey towards overcoming low
  self esteem by doing whats best for me and my
  daughter and that was to start living without
  John. It was hard, but I had to because I have to
  make things right to become a better person. Soon
  enough, I was comfortable with myself again. I
  became positive and confident in life because I
  have learned to love and accept myself for who I
  really am.

• I became conscious of the fact that he used my
  low self esteem to have me believing in his false
  perception of our relationship. The truth stung a
  lot, but it felt good at the same time. As what
  Stephen Chbosky said, We only accept the love we
  think we deserve. And I deserve to be loved by
  myself. No more false perception of self worth,
  no more low self esteem.