Recognizing Harmful Relationships

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Recognizing Harmful Relationships

• Lesson 17
• By. Tim Darby, Gervon Sligh, and Jordan

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• A connection a person has with another person is
  a relationship.
• A harmful relationship is a relationship that
  harms self-respect, interferes with productivity
  and health, or includes violence and/or drug
  abuse.
• A relationship that promotes self-respect,
  encourages productivity and health, and is free
  of violence or drug abuse is a healthful
  relationships.

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10 profiles of people who relate in harmful ways

• A profile is a brief description of someone or
  something.
• 1. The People Pleaser a person who constantly
  seeks the approval of others. A people pleaser
  will do almost anything to be liked including
  harmful behaviors such as smoking/drinking or
  engaging in sexual activities. The people pleaser
  sabotages their chances to have healthful
  relationship by not demanding respect from others.

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Enabler

• 2. The Enabler- a person who supports the harmful
  behaviors of others. The enabler may contribute
  to other persons harmful behavior by overlooking
  it and covering up for the other person. The
  enabler sabotages the chance to have healthful
  relationships when they dont expect others to
  behave in responsible ways.

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Clinger

• 3. The clinger- a person who is needy and
  dependent. The clinger feels empty inside and
  constantly turns to others to feel better. No
  amount of attention can keep the clinger
  fulfilled and the clinger can be demanding of
  others. The clinger sabotages the chance to have
  healthful relationships by not giving other
  people space.

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Fixer

• 4. The fixer- a person who tries to fix other
  peoples problems. The fixers quick to give advice
  and identify possible solutions. By fixing other
  peoples problem the fixer avoid their own feeling
  and problems. The fixer sabotages the chance to
  have healthful relationships because healthy
  people dont want others to solve their problems
  and take over a situation.

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Distancer

• 5. The distancer- a person who is emotionally
  unavailable to others. The distancer may have
  been hurt in the past
  and keeps others
  from getting too close so they wont get hurt
  again. The distancer sabotages the chance to have
  healthful relationships by not risking emotional
  involvement.

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Controller

• 6. The controller- person who is possessive,
  jealous, and domineering. The controller seeks
  power and may tell others what to do. The
  controller may monopolize a boyfriend or
  girlfriends time. The controller sabotages the
  chance to have healthful relationships by not
  respecting interests or opinions of others. And
  people may be fearful of a controller.

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Center

• 7. The center- a person who is self centered.
  The center will do most of the talking and not
  show much interest in what you have to say. The
  center wants to do what they want and isn't
  concerned what others want or how they feel. The
  center sabotages the chance to have healthful
  relationships by being so focused on being the
  center of attention that the needs of others are
  ignored.

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Abuser

• 8. The abuser- a person who is abusive. The
  abuser may constantly put down others, threaten,
  begin fights, act violently and force someone to
  have sex. The abuser may follow acts of abuse
  with gentleness but the abuse usually returns. An
  abuser sabotages the chance to have healthful
  relationships by threatening and harming others.

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Liar

• 9. The liar- a person who doesnt tell the truth.
  The liar may lie to make himself look good, to
  impress or to manipulate others. Their
  relationships are based on lies and may be very
  shallow. They lack connection or commitment cause
  of the liars actions. The liar sabotages the
  chance to have healthful relationships by lying
  to others to get the response they want

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Promise Breaker

• 10. The promise breaker- a person who is not
  reliable. Will make plans with another person and
  be a no show. May agree to change annoying
  behavior but doesnt do it. The promise breaker
  sabotages the chance to have healthful
  relationships by not keeping his or her word
  causing others to doubt their sincerity and
  commitment.

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Involvement in Harmful Relationship

• People who are involved in Harmful
  Relationship
• Promise breaker and a people pleaser.
• A controller and an enabler.
• A clinger and a distancer.
• An a person that try to changing ones profile to
  fit different relationship.

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How Harmful relationships affect Health status

• It Affect Mental-Emotional Health
• Anxiety and stress
• Feeling of guilt and/or rejection
• Lack of self-confidence
• Negative self-esteem
• Physical health Family-social health
• headaches lack of nurturing,
  supportive connections
• stomachaches failure to develop
  appropriate social skills
• sleeplessness
• injuries from abuse

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• A people pleaser may accommodates to the promise
  breakers behavior. A controller is more likely
  to be with an enabler. Ways to deal with a
  harmful relationships is to identifying changes
  in behavior, have a discussion with the other
  person which let them know your feelings, and
  recognizing when you must end a harmful
  relationship. You should end a harmful
  relationship when the other person threatens your
  health or safety. Its important for a teen whose
  parent is jail not to accept blame for their
  illegal actions

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QUIZ

• A people pleaser
• A. knows how to receive acts of kindness from
  others.
• B. is comfortable accepting gifts of time or
  support from other.
• C. learns to rely on other to meet his/her needs
• D. is often too insecure to demand respect.

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Quiz

• 2) A harmful relationship
• A. is a relationship that promotes self-respect.
• B. is a relationship that is free of violence
  and/or drug misuse and abuse.
• C. is a relationship in which two people have
  mutual respect.
• D. is a relationship that harms self-

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Quiz

• 3) A promise breaker and a people pleaser may
  match up because
• A. the promise breaker denies his/her feelings
• B. the people pleaser ignores the need of the
  promise breaker
• C. the people pleaser accommodates the promise
  breakers behavior
• D. the promise breaker is reliable

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Quiz

• 4) A controller is likely be involved with
• A. an abuser
• B. an enabler
• C. a center
• D. a distancer

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Quiz

• 5) People who relate in harmful way
• A. respect each other
• B. usually stay away from each other
• C. encourage each other to be productive
• D. are drawn to each other to act out unhealthy
  profiles.

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Quiz

• 6. Harmful relationships affect health status
• A .Only when there's physical abuse
• B only on those directly involved
• C in physical mental and social ways
• D in very few situation

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Quiz

• 7. Ways to deal with harmful relationships
  include
• A identifying changes in behavior that must occur
• B having a discussion with the other person in
  which you identify your concerns and expectations
• C recognizing when you must end harmful
  relationships rather than work to change it
• D all the above

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Quiz

• 8. You should end a harmful relationship rather
  than change it if
• A the other person encourages you to be
  productive
• B the other person threatens your health or
  safety
• C your friends ask you to do so
• D all of the above

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Quiz

• 9. How could you tell if your hopes that a
  harmful relationship will change are realistic
• A give the person another chance and threaten to
  end the relationship
• B talk to the other person and get a promise to
  change
• C you have to wait and see its not possible to
  tell
• D talk to a parent guardian or other trusted
  adult about the situation

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Quiz

• 10. It is important for a teen whose parent is in
  jail
• A to recognize that lawbreaking is sometimes
  necessary
• B not to accept blame for illegal actions of the
  parent
• C not to discuss the matter with other people
• D to stand up for parents actions

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Quiz Answer

1. D
2. D
3. C
4. B
5. D
6. C
7. D
8. B
9. D
10. B