Bullies

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Stand Up, Speak Up ...
Reach Out !
Bullies are NOT Welcome Here
Michael A. Huffman Wilmington University Sarah
Kadis Sarah W. Starkweather Elementary
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What is bullying?

• Bullying is
• repeated, intentional, aggressive behavior
  towards one person from another person or group
  of people
• So
• Bullying Happens When
• Someone unfairly hurts you over
• and over.

Its Bullying if . . . Someone is hurting
another person on purpose And the kid who is
doing it has more power.
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Bullying Includes

• Pushing Shoving
• Kicking Hitting
• Teasing Name calling
• Staring Threatening
• Leaving someone out
• Taking or ruining another persons things
  Gossiping

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Bullying Includes

• Writing any mean, threatening or UnKind
• note e-mail
• text message
• blog IM
• or
• any other internet post

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What is bullying?
Someone is hurting another person on purpose
And the kid who is doing it has more power.

• Bullying involves an Imbalance
• in Power or Strength.

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Bullying Can Be. . .

• One person making fun of another.
• One person trying to beat up another.
• A group of people ganging up against others.

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How does bullying happen?

• Muscle Bullies use their bodies to
  hurt you
• Mouth Bullies use their words to
  hurt you
• Friend Snatcher hurt your
  friendship with others

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Whats in the bullys Arsenal ?

• The Yes Butter
• The Chicken Caller
• The Broken RecordCome on, Come on, Come
  on,
• The Coercer If you were a friend, You do it
• The Reassurer Dont Worry
• The Ridiculer

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How does it make you feel?
Depressed ?
Alone ?
Hurt ?
Sad ?
Angry?
Frustrated ?
? ? ?
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Stand Up,
Speak Up ...
Reach Out !
Bullies are NOT Welcome Here
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Bullying involves 3 people or groups

• The Bully

The Victim
The Bystander
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What do I do if I am being bullied?In the Moment

• Ignore them! Pretend you didnt hear them
• Dont even look at them , Dont Cry , Dont get
  angry
• Dont show them that you are upset
• Respond to the Bully calmly and firmly
• Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up
  strait, and make eye contact.
• Turn the comment into a joke.
• Talk about it to someone else always tell a
  friend
• Write it down so you dont forget to tell someone
• Turn and walk away. Remove yourself from the
  situation.
• Go somewhere that an adult is
  present.
• Let their words bounce off you

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What do I do if I am being bullied?

• Remember,
• you are not the one with the problem.
• The bully is.
• Talk to an adult!
• Do not fight back- it will make things worse
• Stay Calm - bullies want you to react

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How do you keep from being bullied ? Be Smart. .
. PREVENT

• 1. Hang out with friends-travel with at least 1
  other person
• 2. Join groups who like the same things
• 3. Walk to school with someone
• 4. Avoid bulliesstay away from them!
• 5. Avoid places where bullies are
• 6. Stay within the sight of adults- parents,
  teachers, bus drivers
• 7. Do not act scared- keep your head up and be
  confident
• 8. Sit near the bus driver on the bus or walk
  with a teacher to class
• 9. Dont bring expensive things or money to
  school
• 10 Label your belongings with permanent marker in
  case they get stolen.
• 11 Use your sense of humor
• 12. Avoid places where bullying happens .

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Where Does Bullying Happen?

• Common locations
• on the way to school in the morning
• on the way home from school
• playground
• lunchroom
• halls
• bathrooms

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Bullying Boys

• Tend to bully directly
• Boys engage in bullying more frequently than
  girls
• Boys are victims of bullying more frequently than
  girls
• Boys are more likely than girls to be physically
  bullied by their peers

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Bullying Girls

• Tend to bully indirectly
• Manipulating friends
• Ostracize classmates - Exclusion
• Spreading rumors
• Girls who bully display acts of social cruelty

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Testing your bully I.Q.

• 1. Sometimes, people who are
• bullied are asking for it.
• FALSE- no one ever deserves to be bullied
• 2. The best way to handle bullies is to bully
  them back.
• FALSE- Sinking to bully tactics will only make
  things worse

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Testing your bully I.Q.

• 3. You have the right to feel safe at school
• TRUE- You dont have to live in fear
• 4. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself
  and fight a bully
• FALSE- fighting will only cause more problems

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Testing your bully I.Q

• 5. Adults can be bullies too.
• TRUE- anyone can be a bully
• 6. All bullies hit, push, or attack others.
• FALSE- bullying includes ignoring others,
  teasing, hurtful words, and many others

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Testing your bully I.Q.

• 7. People bully others because they have problems
  of their own
• TRUE- most bullies feel angry, upset, or
  frightened about their own lives
• 8. You can help someone else who is bullied.
• TRUE- You can help by talking to a teacher or
  an adult.

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Testing your bully I.Q.

• 9. Bullying is just part of growing up.
• FALSE- Bullying is not normal!
• 10. Telling an adult about a bully will only make
  the bully worse
• FALSE- Telling someone is the first step toward
  solving the problem

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Stand Up,
Speak Up ...
TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.
Stand up for someone when he or she needs it,
and when YOU need it, Someone will stand up for
you.
Reach Out !
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Fun Zone

• http//www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/bullywood/ind
  ex.html

• http//www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/race.asp

• http//pbskids.org/itsmylife/games/bullies_flash.
  html

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Finish these Comic Strips ...
I heard that you started a totally false rumor
about me Whats the deal?
Hey Spazz, Look at your outfit! Where did you get
that, A thrift store?
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• The School Bully just dissed your outfit
• Whats your comeback?
• Choose the facial expressions, and
• words to tell your own tale.

• Youve heard that a friend is spreading lies
  about you.
• Whats the best way to handle it?
• Choose the facial expressions, and words to Stand
  Up and Speak Out !

Stand Up, Speak Up, Reach Out !
Click above to finish the Comic
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Webisodes

• http//www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?Area
  webisodes

Webisode 2Windows Mac
Webisode 1Windows Mac
Webisode 3Windows Mac
Webisode 6Windows Mac
Webisode 4Windows Mac
Webisode 5Windows Mac
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Webisodes

• http//www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?Area
  webisodes

Webisode 8 Windows Mac
Webisode 7Windows Mac
Webisode 9 Windows Mac
Webisode 10Windows Mac
Webisode 11Windows Mac
Webisode 12
Windows Mac
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Resources

• http//pbskids.org/itsmylife/friends/bullies/index
  .html
• http//www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov
• http//www.ncset.org/teleconferences/transcripts/2
  003_10.pdf
• http//www.kenrigby.net/
• http//www.antibullying.net
• http//www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org/
• Dan Olweus, Bullying at School What we know and
  what we can do
• (Blackwell, 1993).